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I used to think that watching porn was a harmless and healthy activity.
My name is Alex and I am a recovering porn addict. I was raised in a regular home with two normal parents. Like many teenage boys I started watching pornography when I was around 10 years old. I was very isolated from other kids and for a large part of my life pornography was my only “true friend”. I didn’t know that porn could have a negative effect and viewed it as a healthy way to have fun and deal with my emotions.
My Pornography Use Continued to Escalate
Over the years, my use of pornography continued to escalate. I thought that I will be able to stop once I get into a relationship with a real woman but realized that it was not the case. High stresses of life, combined with anonymity, availability, and accessibility of porn over the high speed internet seemed to have taken my porn use completely out of control.
It went on until about three years ago. By that point my porn addiction was completely out of control. I would spend up to 8 hours every day watching porn and masturbating. In order to make time for my habit I would skip sleep, work, and even time with my family. I felt guilty, shameful, worthless, and hopeless.
I Swore to Do Whatever it Takes
After a while I simply couldn’t deny that I had a problem. I swore to myself that I would do whatever it takes to find a way out. To my surprise there was not a lot of help available for porn addiction. And the few places that did offer help, were asking for a large financial commitment that I was just not able to make. That is why I proceeded to try to find a way out on my own.
Finding Solution for Porn Addiction
I’ve dedicated my undivided attention towards finding a solution for my porn addiction. I’ve read every addiction book that I could get my hands on, until I finally found a technique called, Exposure and Response Prevention, that allowed me to see the first glimpses of light.
I then proceeded to read even more books, began seeing a therapist, purchased few recovery programs, and began attending a 12 step meeting for sex addiction. It has now been almost 2 years since I watched pornography or masturbated.
Combination of Different Methods Brings the Optimal Result
Through my experience in recovery, I noticed that many people were too fixated on one particular approach. Some people relied solely on group therapy, some on religious programs, some on cognitive therapy, and some on eastern philosophy. Yet in my experience a combination of different methods appeared to be bringing the optimal result. I’ve shared some of my ideas with my friends in recovery and received a very positive response. That is what encouraged me to develop this site.
I’ve summarized the most important information that allowed me to stop porn addiction in 23 short and fun to read articles – I call it the “Free Recovery Course”.
In the Free Recovery Course You Will Discover…
- A chemical process that takes place in your brain causing you to get addicted
- The addictive cycle that your body goes through and how to break out of it
- How the human brain works and why sometimes you lose control of your actions
- Four simple exercises to strengthen your brain
- How to create your sexual recovery plan
- How to control your cravings
- An important strategy to help you beat your addiction once and for all
- How your beliefs are causing you to suffer
- Seven beliefs that were keeping me trapped
- One big lesson that I learned from my relapse and what you can do to avoid my mistakes
- Two very important tools that can magnify your recovery
- Four things that you can do to help you stay sober for the rest of your life
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Frequently Asked Question:
What do I have to pay for this information?
We offer a combination of free and for pay services.
This site was design to provide free help to any person straggling with porn addiction, and we are staying true to this mission.
Overtime, however, increasing number of people has asked for more “hands on” and “personalized” help. That is why we decided to add a coaching element to our site.
That being said nobody is going to try to sell you anything! We wanted to have more customizable services availabe to those with means to make such an investment in their future.
However, all of the techniques tough on this site can be applied on your own, or in combination with a 12 step program (recommended approach).
Does this information really work?
Every person is different. It has most definitely worked for me. Additionally you can read a a lot of positive comments throughout this website. Since we started offering a free recovery course in August of 2010 over four thousand people has signed up for email delivery, and over hundred of thousands of people have read it over our site. We’ve received no complaints and have been thanked too many times to count.
Why should I listen to you?
Our coaches, are certified and experienced. They are professionals and great at what they do.
My only credentials is that I’ve been there. I am not a doctor, nor do I play one on TV. English is not my first language, and my educational background is in computer engineering.
That being said, most of the information that I share on this site did not come from me directly. Rather it is my collection and interpretation of different approaches and techniques that I learned from a large number of books and training courses offered by people who do have credentials. I like to believe that I did a very good job of putting it all together, but I’ll let you be the judge of that.
Why should I read your stuff?
Because it would allow you to learn from my mistakes instead of making your own. Note that you don’t have to be addicted to pornography to benefit from this site. Most of the information provided is common sense, day to day psychology that will allow you to better understand the inner workings of the human mind, and allow you to get a greater control of your life.
Since this site presents information from a variety of different approaches you would be more likely to find something new and effective that could turn your life towards new direction and allow you to enjoy a new level of freedom.
This information is provided at no additional cost. You virtually have nothing to lose (except for a few minutes of your time) but you have a world to gain.
Last but not least, because by reading this information, commenting on this site, and participating in the forum, you would not only help yourself, but you will also help others. A journey of thousand miles begins with a single step. And by giving a little bit of your attention towards this site you can make this world a little better. You’ll see that by learning and applying some of the techniques discussed here, you’ll begin to transform your life! And you will be amazed to discover that your transformation will begin to improve the lives of those around you!
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I too, am addicted to porn for as long as I can remember and am happily married with great sex for three years. I hadn’t watched,wanted, or tempted by porn for little over four years after i was engaged, I thought I was done with it. Not. I started again after a series of arguments with my wife after two years of being married. Then watching porn started, right where I left off four years prior. Now, it is more than just porn. It is also masturbation without watching porn. Even if I don’t watch porn, I still have the sensitization of porn in my mind and recite videos I have watched. I never had that problem in the past, because before I simply watched porn. I never recited videos or thought of them in my mind. THAT is my problem. I can go without watching porn for a long time, until a particular porn videos pop in my head, then i want to watch or just masturbate to it in my mind. I had some successes where I distract myself of the though and go without watching porn or masturbate for several months, but at some point it pops in my head and I do it.
For the past year, it has been a struggle. I would watch porn or masturbate with reciting porn in my mind probably once a month, sometimes more frequent. There were times I gone maybe three or four months without wanting to watch porn and not being tempted. Now for the last five months, it has gotten worse. I am watching porn three to four times a week. I may go a few weeks without watching it, but never does a day go by that i don’t think about watching porn. I am having a hard time distracting myself in doing something when it pops in my mind.
my wife doesn’t know that I am watching porn. she knew i used to before we got engaged and was never bothered by it…and to be honest, i rarely watched porn while we were together. it was maybe once every six months or so, but it was a promise i made to her that i will stop watching porn. she never nagged me if i did, and was supportive to help me stop. And that finally helped after we got engaged.
So that is my story and my wife is my motivation. I want to tell her, but she is dealing with some major issues with her family, and I do not want to add more to her. So, it is my promise and my admission to everyone on here that i will stop watching porn and no longer be tempted by porn. I have done it before and i will do it again. I will need everyone’s help and I will help others as well.
Thank you!
It makes me view family people and friends differently i just wanna stay clean and blessed this is so sick im like wrshipping the devil
Im straight
I know this is kinda odd but i wouldnt mind seeing my family nude its freakin sick n i know ir
Um i am addicted with porn and masterbation i try hard to stop but just cant
I find that the biggest threat to my recovery is sitting their board doing work on the computer. I am so used to watching porn that I had to find a new habit. So, I work harder and watch funny youtube videos.
Thank you so much for your help, your spell really worked well for me!! i never used to think of it that way.. My ex and i had a long distance relationship and he is flying over to see me here in England to try and sort all this mess out! Regards and many thanks to purityspell@gmail.com
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Hi everyone, stay strong. 34 days now and zero relapses it
Wasn’t easy but I am immensely happy with my progress
Fantastic Work Keep it up!!
two days clean and still going strong
Getting out of Porn Addiction – Three Simple Steps: https://plus.google.com/105425132916011473480/posts/eRwAcwXXASY
hi. Its been three days and counting! no porn and no masturbation. I have resolved to help myself and more determined than ever. I believe my success story its coming. I know you must be wondering …”just three days?” but for someone who has been masturbating almost every single day for the past 15years, its really a big deal. I believe by His grace, I’ll overcome this time around…
my name is Treasy My ex-boyfriend dumped me one weeks ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him. I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me. I was so confuse and don`t know what to do, so I reach to the internet for help and I saw a testimony of how a spell caster help people to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assure me of 48hours that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my ex came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness. I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that, we are about to get married. Once again thank you DR.MARKROBBIN. You are truly talented and gifted. Email:drmarkrobbinspelltemple@yahoo.com is the only answer. He can be of great help and I will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man
I have been a pornography addict for years and have done so in silence and secret. I have been vising this cite for the last few months but I have been in all honesty not committed to my cause till today. I used getting over it as a way of saying “o I will just do better next time,” while I honestly was just waiting for an excuse to do it again. I recently just went on a “bender” in a big way and for the first time I am admitting to other people my problem. I am swearing to do what ever it takes to make that last time the last time, and I give my word on it. I am promising my self today that for the first time in my life I am making my word mean something. It is just nice to know that there are others out there who have the same problem and are on the same journey I am under taking. I hope you all have courage on your journey to being free as I hope I will.
“It is not my fault that I started this because I did not know what I was doing, but it is my responsibility to fix it, learn from it, and move on.”
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I am a new user to the site. I read the article posted as a testimonial about the life coaches and the list method seems like a really good idea to me. In conjunction with the other suggestions on this site I feel like I can finally beat this thing…after 15 years. Today is the first day on this journey for me and I believe I can make it…
I spent one month without porn and refrained from it. I plan to take this further by one month and another… These small steps will help me reach my goal and that is to stop it.
I need help. I have also been hear before, and made a huge kick. I fell though, and am just asking for some support
Just remember that we are all here supporting you on your journey and that we will stand with you as I hope you will stand with all of us as we kick the bucket.
Been here before, Don’t wanna go back. Need Help now.
I feel like my good wolf is lost right now. And I can’t find her anywhere. The evil wolf has taken over and I feel like its multiplied into hundreds more instead of just one. I don’t know why I’m crying right now, since I’ve been used to this for so long. I guess I just wish I would actually change, instead of just saying so. Keeping myself busy seemed to work, but it didn’t in my head. I didn’t watch on the computer, I thought it instead. I can’t seem to find a way to get it off my mind. I don’t want to be like this for the rest of my time. I want to change, I want help, I don’t know where to start. This isn’t the person God knows me as in his heart.
Sorry about the poetry, thats how I express my feelings when they’re really strong.
Hi Rina,
I can related a lot to what you’ve said. In 12 step program that I attend they have a saying. “Lust of the mind may take years to drain away, but freedom from compulsive and obsessive behaviors can begin today”
In other words, while ideally we all would prefer to be 100% pure in our thoughts, this is rarely the case. Part of human nature is for random thoughts to pop into our head, sexua a.k.a. reproductive is one of the strongest instincts that we have, and this is just the fact of life.
However, obsessing over any thoughts will make them come back more often and stronger than before. So I suggest to try to just acknowledging next time you get a sexual though, and try to let it go without judgment.
Another way of looking at it that I’ve read in a book called “Hope and Help for your Nerves” was something called.
1 “face it” – recognize that you have an unwanted sexual thought.
2. “accept it” – simple tell yourself something like, I’ve been getting this thoughts for a while now, and while this is not what I want in my life, I seem to have little control over those thoughts coming in. Oh well, they are just thoughts they come and go, before I know it I’ll be thinking of something else.
3. “float” – simply go about your day as if your thought did not even occur. For example you were going to go work out, when you got a sexual thought. And let say in the past the sexual though would lead you to other activities, that would have nothing to do with your original plan. Well now, you simply try to float through it and go on to work out, as if no unwanted thoughts occurred.
4. “Let the time pass” – just let the time pass, and the effect of that though, that seemed so important at the time, will disappear as a distant and not important memory.
I liked those 4 points Alex.
Alex pls how old are you now if i may ask? For how long did were you addicted to pornography and masturbation? And what were the first few days like when you initially decided to break off from your habit? thanks
I am 30. I’ve been addicted since I am about 10 years old. I am still addicted, although it is not as bad as it used to be. I’ve been fluctuating between stages 0 and 4 in the past 4 years. http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/2010/04/sex-addiction-working-definition/
First 30 days are always the hardest, that it gets easier.
Regards,
Alex
Alex did u ever acted out as a young child? My 11 yr old is addicted to prorn
I did acted out as child, a lot. Part of it could be normal though. I would suggest getting in touch with a professional who specializes in this area.
Regards,
Alex
I personally thought the poetry was nice, and a poem is what helped me realize that I needed help. Well…one of the thousands of things that hit me all in one day but that is besides the point. The greatest difficulty a pornography addict faces is the fact that the images and ideas are in our memories. Unlike a heroin addict who can go through withdrawal by being locked in a room without his powder we can not. Just remember that this journey is long and that you are the person God knows at heart. Remember God loves you and the fact that you are no longer watching it on the computer and that you are here on this cite means you have changed and become better, and that you are not giving up.
It my 2 day porn free it hard for me
Best of luck my friend.
Way to go Dee. Two days it two days. Pardon the cliche but every journey starts with a step.
If you want some more tips, read the latest blog that a client wrote that has some great tips that he uses to help to stop porn addiction – http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/2013/04/working-with-coach-craig-on-my-porn-addiction/
So,i have to stop this obcessive copulsive phenomenon.
actually i am trying to quit porn.this site is helpful to overcome porn & masturbation.
01:04:2013****new journey again******
Best of luck my friend.
I was a porn addict for 6years always when am alone i will find myself masturbating my social skill was at point zero but this course is a turning point in my life i learnt alot about myself,my advice to addict&those trying to overcome this malady listen to your inner strenght,if you fall quickly rise again
When you fall down, you get back up. You are right on brother.
Hi. The Lord God will help you overcome your habit and He will give you grace. Please this site: http://mychainsaregone.org/.
It is time to relearn the Godly view of the Human Body. Stay blessed.
I was a porn addict for 6years always when am alone i will find myself masturbating my social skill was at point zero but this course is a turning point in my life i learnt alot about myself,my advice to addict&those trying to overcome this malady listen to your strenght,if you fall quickly rise again
Hello friends! =)
How old are your here?
I am 17 years old. I have been struggling with a bisexual nature since I was about 9. I started viewing porn when Iwas 13. I have recenlty viewed it more, and it seems to interest me less and less, yet the need to watch it keeps growing. I am scared, lonely andconfused. I need help, it feels like I am fighting a loosing battle. I don’t want to have to depend on these shackles every day of my life.
Please email me. I Craig the Official Coach of Feed the Right Wolf – I also struggled with confused sexuality – I was touched by an older boy when I was very young.
I provide a free coaching consultation. You can sign up here for your free session – http://meetme.so/craigperra (I’m using this new automatic calendar program so let me know if you find it easy).
Hello,
Been off the smut (computer, video, anything) for 9 months now. Wouldn’t go back for anything – it’s wonderful to be able to use any computer and not have to clean the darned thing with five different history clean-up tools. Wife is really proud of me too. I didn’t know it was affected her as much as it was, or how much it offended and hurt her. I’m not a “born again” anything, or really religious, but I think porn can be as damaging as any other addiction, and will certainly affect (if not ruin) sexual relations between partners and also a mans ability to respond to normal sexual stimuli. I miss it from time to time, but 99% of the time I forget it’s even there. I used to be afraid to use a google search because porn was the first thing that popped into my mind. Now I use google like a normal person and don’t even think twice about it. It used to stress me out and make me feel guilty and ashamed.
I’m not saying all porn is bad, or bad for all people. I’m saying it was BAD FOR ME and I needed to quit. If it’s ruining your love life, health, emotional wellbeing or job or anything in your life, try getting rid of it. If you don’t feel amazing and super strong and renewed after 3 or 4 months, heck, then go back. But I bet you won’t want to!
Help! Right now my computer calls two me once a day for 20 to 40 min
Help! Right now my computer calls two me once a day for 20 to 40 min
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Bless you people… Keep up the good job!
God sent me here
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Excellent website! May the answers to the addiction be as easy to find as those things that would trap the mind.
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Pls help me I am only twelve years old and all my friends and family think that I am a holiness Pentecostal Christian but at night on my iPod I look up porn sites and I really don’t want to and it’s freaky girls aren’t supposed to be the ones addicted to porn and the longest I’ve been able to stop is like only 3 days. Now I wish I didn’t even have a stupid iPod but the problem is is that I can’t get help cause I am so young and if I tell my parents they’ll probably tell my pastor who thinks that I am a perfect Christian and then my best friend is his granddaughter so she would probably find out and not trust me anymore. And I know that it is immature for a 12 year old to cry but sometimes I just sit down and sob cause I don’t know what to do I’ve been addicted for four years and half the time I didn’t want to be addicted but its like my eyes are glued to the screen
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I’m sorry to hear of your situation. I find myself in similar circumstances, as I too live a double life in church and in private being addicted to P. You are still young though and now is the time for you to place a foundation for the rest of your life. Talking to someone will bring some temporary pain, but much satisfaction in the long term. Your parents and your pastors surely love you and are there to help. Getting help is your best bet to overcome this. Be strong and do what you have to do!
I got started on that stuff when I was only 7 years old. I was introduced to sex by an 8 year-old girl across the street when I was only 5. Sex addiction is something I’ve had to contend with in some form or another all my life. Some seasons are better than others, but the fight continues on. I’ve only recently found this website and and reviewing the material, but it all seems to be pretty good stuff.
But about your current situation, you’re going to have to find someone that you can trust and confide in. For me, I started working with a church leader when I was 13. Whoever your local religious leader is should be a good start. And I would hope your parents would be supportive of you if you approached them about it. I know this probably seems like the scariest approach, and I totally understand if you feel you could never reveal this to your parents, because I never did. My parents weren’t well equipped to deal with that sort of thing so I left them out of it.
But there’s a difference between getting caught and voluntarily going to your parents and pleading for help. As a parent, I would seek to help my children out whether I caught them or they came to me about it. Your parents surely love you. If they’re sensible people who try to be reasonable, then bring it to them. What I would do if I were you is pray for a friend or someone to confide this in. Pray that you can find someone you can place confidence in, and then watch for the opportunity to present itself. This would at least be a start.
And don’t worry about crying as a 12 year-old. Adults cry plenty; they just don’t let anyone know about it. Don’t feel immature. I don’t know of many 12 year-olds who would be concerned about this sort of thing at such an early age. I commend you for your integrity and for seeking to do the right thing.
Thank you a lot I will try bit the problem is is that I am from Alabama but live in Canada with my parents and go to a church that has at least 400 people per service and so my i am always with my mom when I go so I cant ask for help right in front of her I’m just really confused
Hey I have had Ur problem I was about 9 or 10 and I didn’t know what to do so I just kept going and then when I was about 12 my parents caught me and before they thought I was the perfect child in the family but I wasn’t and when they found out what I was doing they got scared and they didn’t trust me any more but now u finally got over it it has been 1 and a half years since I ended and 3 years when I started so I think that’s about it that I could say. Good luck recovering! I have faith in u, u can do anything that’s y they think Ur perfect! Bye good luck again!
It’s ok, have faith
I am 12 years old and actually a girl and don’t know how to get help I am scared to tell my parents sister and even my best friend I have been Addicted since I was eight years old and got caught when I was ten and got in big trouble so I stopped f
But couldn’t stay off I don’t no wat 2 do
Just have faith! God will save you. He will no condemn toe either
i like your site it’s great and very useful, I’ve addicted to pornography and masturbation for six years until now i believe that i can do it just help me.
I think sometimes I look at porn for the emotional rather than sexual stimulation because I just can’t find someone to connect with on that level. Do any of you guys feel the same?
YA, ME TOO. After completing a huge (may be month/more long) tiresome project, when I get time, my mind whispers me to see porn and I think, it works in the some sense, since according to webmd, sex release the mental burden or stress. However, after I get over, I feel so much pain and so much hatred upon myself that it doesn’t worth it.
i’am so thankful that this website is created,
it make me feel to stop watching porn right now,
with all the people here which are supporting each other,
it give me a strength,,
but i don’t know how long it could be last, i had tried my best,
how i wish i could stop like you guys.
Hey Simon
This vedio might give you an ever lasting solution.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zPBdNKG0C_I
i am a minister of the gospel and been addicted since my teenage period. you article has actual been a source of encouragement to me
The greatest thing can save you: truthfullness with God. This video is about truthfullness with God, especially regarding sexual desires. See how this scholar respond to this concept when he talked about a story of someone and the truthfullness when sexual desires (out of marriage met him). Very toutching
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8JSdYCV82Q
hi all, doing a lot better now, have come a long way in this past month. It is now as of today 23 days without watching porn. My goal is to go 28 days then 31, to prove I live without it. I am determined to change my ways and quitting porn is a MASSIVE step onto reality and hopefully a real relationship. I know nobody’s reading this but, well done me, quit smoking, drinking, late nite takeaways, energy drinks and full fat coke. Lost 1 stone in 28 days and feel incredible compared to where I was. Even joined a gym doing resistance training and spent 45 minutes on an exercise bike for 5 days a week 4 weeks in a row!!
Im reading this! Good job bro… keep it up.
That’s amazing Mart. I’ve struggled for so many years to even go for a week. If you can do it, I can too.. stay strong!!!
Well done man, I wish you the best of luck. Soon we will all be able to get rid of this devilish curse.
God be with you.
Good Job Mart !!
God is with you to give you strength to make your wish come true.
please help me, i feel all alone and i am too scared to tell my parents. sometimes i feel like that i am going commit suicide..
Hi Freedom,
Thank you for sharing with us, but please seek some professional help. Here is a good website that you might find helpful. http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html
Regards,
Alex
your not alone! I feel exactly like you and im still scared to tell my parents. Keep your chin up.
Dear Tish and freedom:
Dont feel alone. If that is what you guys feel about your parents knowing, what about someone veiw? Who is he?
Watch this: emotional….
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Azy1grH2omQ
I just wanted to let you all know that you are such an encouragement to me. I’ve been fighting this fight since I was a little kid and I stumbled upon my first site. It doesn’t satisfy nor fulfill me and I don’t even like it, but I am addicted nevertheless. I just wanted to say that I am praying for you all and as a brother fighting alongside you, I can’t wait until we can all claim our freedom. Despite all the struggles that have marked my life, I believe that someday soon, we will live in Perfection with Him.
I know EXACTLY how you feel.
I am 16 years old and have stopped my porn addiction. It all started when i was 11 and was trying to get on this website bt i clicked on this other one. I was really shocked and shaken but i was very curious at the same time. I kept going on the porn site and i couldnt stop myslef which was really scary. Only up till now i thought i was alone and the only person to have this horrible addicton but then i found this website and have now not been on porn websites in 6 months! Im really scared though because i might go back to it help me please
6 months is great pal wish i had that , keep up the good work
Whenever, ur mind tell u to watch porn, tell it “If u can stay away for 6 full months, then u really don’t need this”
Pornography addiction has led me to lose my job , my concentration, my energy and almost my wife . I feel like animals looking in websites for sex related material , so so so confused , too exhausted , so isolated , have no friends to help me giving up !!!!!!
My God !!!!! help me
just hang in there…. its hard as hell to stop. Keep praying, i will pray for you.
Thank you Jay for your kind words
Hey man. I get it. Put a wall around you that you can’t get around. I use http://www.wisechoice.net and it does not provide an over ride for you to get around in the middle of the night. Saved my marriage. It works
You are not alone. God is with you. This video talks about what to do when you run out of support from people
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wnNLVetc31M&playnext=1&list=PL61C65E9E57F3B12A&feature=results_main
hi everyone, I’m into my 14th day now of Not watching porn. My next goal is 21 then 30 (supposedly the magic number) stay strong everyone, if anyone’s got any tips on what to do when you get the temptation please let me know
WISH YOU THE BEST, MAY GOD BLESS YOU
I’m beginning another attempt to stay free, but I now have a bit of motivation. This thought just popped into my mind a couple days ago:
‘Everything we do, good or bad, wise or unwise, is a choice. Make the right choice.’
I start thinking about this when I get an urge and it helps. I hope I can get through this…
It really is about wisdom and knowing yourself. I couldn’t stay put of it so I installed a filter that I could not remove called http://www.wisechoice.net. It has a no over ride aspect. You cannot turn it off at 2am. Doesn’t slow down the computer either.
My dad already installed a program on my PC.
Does itmwork? Soem are designed for chidren, Some of the browsers have built in “child guard” filters that are not effective. If you use the accountability feature included in wisechoice a selected partner will see where you are surfing… this could be a,pastor, counselor, even your Dad, it will even notify them by email or text if you are trying to get to the porn sites….super effective
No, It won’t display ANY webpages without him inputting a password in at least 3 timesXD
I can use wikipedia and my church’s website, and thats it.
well i have tried many times to stop watching porn but i always give up and come again over and over but now ihave only 5 day since i stop and ihope that i can make it
Thank you so much.
I am a recovering porn addict. For 7 years I could not remove it from my life, but thanks to this site, friends, family, and above all, God, I’ve made it out. The hardest part was letting go. The second hardest part was forgiving myself. But now…I’m free.
Thank you to everyone who makes sites like these possible.
God be with you.
Hi All
I just wanna say that please remember that most of the girls in porn and Hollywood are in reality Demons(fallen angles, Saitans daughters,Aliens)master alchemists who throughout time has learned the art of energy manipulation. Shapeshifting
and the one’s that are actually human are in reality possessed by Demons. They are ugly creatures and are decieving us and are messing up our chakra’s to make us weak and easier to posses and become vehicles in this demension.
Thank you all for trying to stop.
God says “when you slip and fall come back again and if you fall again after that, then come back to God again and again and again, for sure you will find that He is Most Compassionate and Forgiving.”
Peace and blessings
Cocain is a hell of a drug
Dave chapelle
That comment is insanely inaccurate, although it’s true that pornstars are sinning and leading others to sin they don’t take pride in it like a demon would. Who are you to condemn them all as “ugly creatures”, the majority are as human as you or me. Instead of accusing people of being “possessed by demons” take a look at the circumstances that lead them to becoming pornstars. Here’s an article I recently read that actually helped me a lot in my struggle with porn, http://www.henrymakow.com/the_porn_industry.html it explains a multitude of the reasons that pornstars were lead to doing porn and it also clearly expresses that the majority of them hate what they do. They hate themselves for it and are often suicidal. If they were demons they would relish in the fact that they’re leading people to sin, but they don’t, they hate themselves for it, they simple continue what they do because they feel they have no choice. My struggle with a porn addiction probably the hardest struggle of my life, but I would double the effort it takes if it meant that just one girl would stop doing porn because they have one less viewer. I’m quitting porn not only for myself and my own soul but also for the souls of the people who are in the videos, and ya, i believe they have souls and are not “demons”. You should really worry about what you’re having to face in your life and let God deal with the sinners, don’t take it upon yourself to indicate demons amongst our society. Pornstars lead people to sin, that’s true, but I’m not sure about you but i can’t say that i’ve never in my life lead someone to sin, because i have. And wether it was a “little” sin or a “big” sin, it was still a sin and could still lead that person to hell, so by your logic I would be a demon because i’ve lead people to sin, just like pornstars.
I’m sure your a perfectly nice human being but think before you speak, they’re people who have been tempted to sin for some reason, like money for example, but they’re not demons. So DON”T condemn them to hell, go to church and pray for their souls, they’re the ones who really need help.
Hi Alex,
The Blog to Post comments is not working on my system for a Couple of Days due to an Error in my Connection..hence I am Posting here, hope You won’t mind….
I’m almost Close to Completing 90 Days of Abstinence from This….my Second Best Attempt after Last
Year’s 90 Day Attempt. It feels Good, definitely Good…..I can see how much i Struggled with This in The Past and that it takes Serious Effort & Work…Precisely I am at 84 Days now…though this
Time around it’s not About Counting Days…rather I am Working to Create a Permanent Gap/Distance/Space betweent The Habit & myself.
I’ve been following a Strict Regime of Sleep Early & Rise Early….for 4 Months now and have been focusing on my Health with a Daily Exercise Schedule Everyday for 4 Months….Taken up a
Reading in a Big Way and also Baking/Cooking, maintaining also a Thought Journal…and Yes, I’ve also been seeing a Counselor and have discussed This Issue….It’s been Good so Far…but
right now I am not Working….and in the Process of Changing….
Trouble is Of Late….especially in the Past 2-3 Days the Thoughts which have been Lying Dormant for Months now have Awoken and are Slowly but Surely moving to the Front of the Head from
the Back of the Mind and Surfacing as Urges, which have also Led me to take Small Glances at Possibly Triggers….I’ve Recorded All This in a Journal and am aware Where All This can take me
given my History of the Past….I know I’d be Naive and Stupid to Undo All The Good Work and Mess up, given All the Effort that has gone into This….I’ve been in Shit Situation before, Countless
Times…..Just Countless Times and don’t want to Mess it up….
I’ve gone without Slipping-Up so Far in This Year….but I’m Worried….Deeply Worried….and don’t Want to Run Away , rather Build and Widen The Distance…..Someone got a Piece of Advice, I’d
Really Appreciate….Someone been in a Similar Situation I’m Sure…Kind Enough to just Offer me a Useful Tip here…..Will be Grateful….
All in All, I know though that Tips, Advices et all will only be Useful given that I make the Effort and Continue to move forward and not Fall for The Trap……God Help….
Thanks, Best,
Hello, By this time you’re probably well over your 90 days and into another 90. Just know this…you are an inspiration to me. I’m only on day 8 or 9 but the possibilities already seem endless. I try not to keep track of the days because beating my addiction means distancing myself from it all together, and in the past keeping accurate records only gave me reasons to relapse…weird I know. I’m very proud of your accomplishments, it’s not an easy task fighting porn addiction when the urges can leave you unproductive for an entire day. You’re a model and a beacon of hope, keeping fighting for another 90 days, and 90….
Hi all,
This isn’t easy. I’ve been “sober” for only 7 days, but I will not give up hope that I can do this. I haven’t gotten any further than 14 days recently, but I’m sure that won’t be the case in a week’s time. Just remember, your brain isn’t rock solid – you can change bad habits and replace them with good habits. Like this cliché will tell you, it takes many days to kill these habits: “Old habits die hard.”
If you are religious, pray for me and for everyone on this site. I know where I want to go and what I want to be at the end of the tunnel, yet the journey to get there is all that matters.
We can do this.
Ben
P.S: Alex, thank you for this website. We finally have a place to share our recovery and have some support, thanks to you. I only wish others like me could find this and share their stories.
You are welcome!
I need help i love my boyfriend but he is adicted to porn How can I help him stop. He will not do it in front of me but he pays for porn and its all the time. It ruins our relationship and makes me feel like im not important Please help thanks
Have you seen this blogpost? http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/2010/04/my-husband-watches-porn-addicted-husband/ I hope it will be helpful.
Regards,
Alex
You cannot help him. You can only be his cheerleader when he starts to help himself, that’s it! With that said, read a very very short book called “As A Man Thinketh” If he can master the instructions in this short read, it will be a significant weapon in his arsenal to conquer this habit.
You cannot help him. You can only be his cheerleader when he starts to help himself, that’s it! With that said, read a very very short book called “As A Man Thinketh” If he can master the instructions in this short read, it will be a significant weapon in his arsenal to conquer this habit.
Your style is very unique in comparison to other folks I have read stuff
from. Many thanks for posting when you have the opportunity,
Guess I will just book mark this site.
Its been awhile since I’ve been here…
Well, to start I wish I could say I’m doing better, but I’ve slipped up so many times over the past few months… (usually once a week to once every 1½weeks)
I’m in such a personal conflict right now. I had a discussion with my mom (she doesn’t know about my recent slip ups), and the discussion led to her saying God has forgiven me. She said I have to now forgive myself…
A part of me wants to, but most of simply can’t… I just can’t do it…
M I agree with your mom, God is forgiving you, so try to forgive yourself. I don’t know what you consider acting out. May be your behavior is normal? I would encourage you to talk more to your mom, and she’ll help or connect you with people to help you identify how and where to draw the boundary, and what would or would not be considered healthy.
Regards,
Alex
Thank you for the advice. I’ll take it into consideration…
So alex i got a girlfriend finally about a week ago and this might have helped with this problem because i would go 2-3 days give or take before i would collapse and ever since i started dating her i havnt gotten the erge to look up porn is this normal?? If it is tell if thats good and if it will stay like this because right now i cant stop thinking about her which is good i geuss because i would get stressed out over not having a gf plus work and homework to do so all i would do is play a game for a few hours n forget about work then stress out at night and its just been a reapeating cycle up until i asked her out soo advice
Ps i also just recently started getting back on this site this and candeo are the best help ive git from anyone
Responding to the previos if its ok to ask u a little relationship advice im wanting to send her flowers and have no idea how to duo this n i want to do it online and can som1 explain paypal and if i can just get a credit card and pay for it without signing up for paypal and i know this is way off subject but can someone help with this if it is too off subject then fine
Please be aware that a girlfriend is not a solution. This addiction will always be present and you will have to always practice self control. The newness of the girlfriend can fade and the temptations come back, intimately hurting a great relationship an possibly worse is ending a great relationship. Good luck and be strong. Also, be sure to be honest with the person you love.
Thanx bro this reely helped ill definitly be aware of that
And so ur saying to tell her about it would it be better to wait or do it now
Thanks a great deal for this wonderful work.This is a problem a lot of people have been going through for so many years,yet there were no solution in sight.I want to believe this would bring solution to these people and life would begin to have a meaning for them.
Warm Regards
Back again and looking forward to going through the recovery course again, i got one week of abstinence in December , i think , maybe November anyway the week i got i was commenting here , staying away from porn and doing whats suggested then a close relative died and i forgot about my recovery and slipped back into my addiction. i watched one video and thought i had it under control , a month later and as Alex says .. i was spending , have been spending hours watching porn , searching for the perfect porn.. masturbating.. missing work .. time with my family … isolating .. place is a mess … dog is walked around the park quickly then back to feed my addiction which cannot be filled , i cant ever be satisfied , i want more more more .. and its still not enough , i get lazy i dont answer the phone , its just horrible , where as , when i had that week sober the place was tidy i was talking to people on the phone sending emails ,doing more meetings .. no sex anonymous meetings , not yet , but i do do other 12 step meetings , they dont know about my porn addiction but its still good to get to a meeting for my other addiction , i was meditating , spending time with family friends etc , and that was just in one week!! so back to square one .. i will take it one day at a time. thanx again for a wonderful site
I am in recovery now but I am afraid if I could have any problems with a future partner eventually. If I suppress my sex drive, could i became more sexually inhibited?
Keep it in the day , be sober just for the day , thats what i suggest
I did a masturbation show this morning and last night privatly last night to a woman and i got so caught up in it because im young but i thought they would say you have a small penis so i was scared then tha girl said i ws big then a man told me his wife was sucking him but watching me and i felt real good is this a problem
it may lead to a problem.
Porn Addict,
I, too was into performance masturbation when I was young. I was good at it, it made me money. But in the process of gaining relative fame and what was to me, a small fortune, I lost myself, my dream, my goals and a small dog named Bacon. All I can say is that doing what comes natural biologically (self-gratification) is not an injury that is compounded when performed in front of an approving audience. You have courage, that is evidenced by your ability to perform for others. I say embrace that innate power to overcome your stage fright and look for ways to perform in legitimate areas of life and save your sexual proclivities for private encounters.
Best,
Bert
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this is very helpful but do i have to tell my parents be in big trouble if i do im only 9 i turn 10 in may
Yes you do have to tell tell your parents trust me you will feel so much better after you do but tell them one at a time.
yeah dont say it over the dinner table lol.
are you really just 9??! this place could be dangerous as well as helpful so stay safe and dont give out your email to anyone.
Alex,
Can you pray for me. I can’t stop doing this. I have tried everything I could. I really want to give it up…
Jeff
Jeff-
For what it’s worth I will keep you in my prayers. You CAN stop. I’m trying myself. It is very difficult, but just know that you are not alone in this! Look… I don’t know you, and you don’t know me, but yet we can look out for each other, keep each other in our thoughts and give each other support in this way… Don’t give up.
Just continue trying…
If you stumble, get back up and continue marching. You’ll do it
Warm greetings,
P.
Jeff , we have all been where you are and i am where you are now.. get stuck in to this website , maybe see you in the chat box some time
Hi Jeff-I’m like you. I always think I’m done, but I somehow keep coming back. I either see something on t.v. or in a movie that causes tha