Act Your Way into a New Kind of Thinking

Don’t try to think your way into a new kind of acting, act your way into a new kind of thinking.

For most of my life I used to look at the things that I did as a consequence of who I was. For example if I got a bad grade in school, I would think, that this was a result of me being a stupid person.

Now I realize it is not who I am that determines what I do; but in opposite, it is what I do, the choices that I make on a daily basis, that determines who I am.

If I choose to eat healthy, if I choose to exercise, if I choose to work my program of recovery – I will be a healthy, sober person.

The word “choose” is not something that addicts are very familiar with. After all if we could choose to not act out, we would. The point is while we are powerless over choosing not to do certain behaviors, we are able to choose to do positive things in our lives. For example we can choose to go to a 12 step meeting or seek counseling. Overtime we can learn to fill up our lives with enough healthy choices, that there will be no room left for our addiction.

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P.S. Recommended Resources:

  • Sex Addicts Anonymous
    I cannot imagine my recovery without this program.
  • Mindful Habit Course by Coach Craig
    Great advice from a great person.
  • Free Podcast and Mini Course from Candeo Can
    I owe my first 90 days of continuous sobriety to this program and highly recommend it.
  • Internet Accountability Software
    Using this software allowed me to get truly honest with my internet usage for the first time in my life. For some reason knowing that my every step was being observed and reported on, made it really easy to use internet only in a healthy way.
  • Treating Pornography Addiction by Kevin B. Skinner Ph.D.
    I have read over 15 books on Pornography and Sexual addiction and this truly is one of the best books on the subject. The reason is I recommend this particular book is because it is full of excellent actionable steps. Other books do a good job describing the problem, but don’t really offer a realistic solution.
  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse – How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens Ph.D.
    I know that about half of visitors to our site are spouses of people who might be suffering with pornography and sex addiction. To the best of my knowledge this book is one of the most helpful books for the partners.
  • Free Consultation from Coach Craig
    Coach Craig has been a good friend and supporter of this site since January 2013. He has worked with people from all over the world, including famous musicians and other high profile individuals. Yet, he is only a phone call away and would be glad to give you a free consultation. Call him anytime, with any question you might have, and I am know he will be extremely happy to help in any way he can.


  1. Lisa Fine says

    Hello! I came across your post in the Warrior Forum, and checked out your YouTube videos and site.

    I think this post of yours is incredibly wise, and applies to everyone–not just porn addicts.

    In his book, "Junky," Author William Burroughs explores how a man's interest can get narrowed down to one thing, sometimes (doesn't have to be drugs, or porn…could be video games, TV, or anything…or anyone, for that matter). But he doesn't really give a solution, that I recall.

    But your ideas regarding actions and choices are brilliant. Keep up the great work!

    Lisa Fine
    Author "How to Keep Your Kids Off Drugs"

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