Do you or some you love wants to know how to stop porn addiction (or any other addictive behavior for that matter)? The answer is simple but not easy. You need to teach your subconscious mind to respond to cravings in a new, healthy way.
What I am about to share with you does work. I am a recovering porn addict. Three years ago, event though I made a decision to stop, I couldn’t go a week without watching pornography or masturbating. In the past 3 years I was able to stop watching porn for periods ranging from 3-9 months at a time. And I have not masturbated in over 2.5 years.
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I am not here to tell you what you should or shouldn’t do with your life. But I think that techniques that I used to stop porn addiction, could be used to make lasting change in all areas of our lives.
In the following article I share my struggles with pornography and what I did to break free. For more in depth version I recommend our Free Recovery Course.
The article is organized in 8 major parts. In parts 1-3 I share my understanding of porn craving. In part 4 I share a very powerful technique that allowed me to stop porn addiction. And in parts 5-8 I list some tips for long term recovery.
1. Pornography Is Not Just a Bad Habit!
A first major component in my own recovery was an understanding that pornography viewing was not just a bad habit. It was an obsessive compulsive cycle (see Figure 1 below) from which I was not able to break free. It usually started with an unwanted sexual thought that I would try to avoid for as long as I could.
Unfortunately, trying NOT to think about something never really worked for me, and eventually I would get to a point where thoughts would get so intense that I couldn’t handle the pressure any longer. Then I would go back to the only way that I knew to make sexual thoughts temporarily go away – watching pornography and masturbating.
After sexual acting out I would slowly come back to my senses and realize what have happened. I would feel guilt for being so weak and giving in and I would swear to never do it again!
Unfortunately over time I would find sexual thoughts coming back, and since I didn’t know how to handle them in a healthy way, the whole cycle would repeat itself.
Clearly fighting my sexual desires only made them come back stronger and faster, and I began to rely more on pornography and masturbation to help me get a temporary relieve.
Eventually this cycle got completely out of control to the point where I would have to spending most of my day watching porn. My brain got so used to regular imagery that I would have to seek out really hard core pornography in order to temporary satisfy my desires, and allow me to return to my normal state.
In other words, I found that the more I fed my porn addiction, the stronger it got.
2. No Craving Can Last Forever!
The second component that I learn was an understanding that any human feeling, including cravings, cannot last forever. In actuality any physiological impulse is shaped like a bell curve (see figure 2 below).
At first cravings starts out slow but grow exponentially until they get really intense. Somewhere along this path most of addicts would end up giving in. As the result they get used to an idea that they could never get past their cravings and that their cravings will eventually get so strong, that they will have no choice but to give in.
In actuality human beings cannot sustain any emotion or feelings indefinitely, and eventually any feeling or craving will decrease.
So the trick to stopping porn addiction is to learn to ride out cravings; to master a skill to stay away long enough for cravings to go away. This of course sounds simple, but as many addicts know it is not as easy to do.
Below I am going to share a technique with you that have helped me do just that. But first let me show you a few simple physiological signals that can be used to measure how strong our craving really is.
3. Physiological Signs of a Strong Craving
It is important to know certain physiological changes that begin to take place in human body when they experience strong desire to watch porn and/or masturbate compressively. Such changes include:
- Rapid Pulse
- Increased blood pressure
- Dilated Eyeballs
- Shallow Breath
It is important to know these symptoms because this knowledge can provide us with information needed to help us on our way to recovery from porn addiction. Let me explain.
We can learn our pulse rate during normal state and then use this information to recognize if our pulse is getting too high. Therefore pulse can serve as an easy to measure indicator that we are about to get out of control. At the same time we can use pulse measurement to let us know that we are exiting the danger zone and that the physical craving begins to decrease.
Another very important component that is easy to observe is our breath. Breath is the only subconscious bodily function that we can consciously control. Think about it! You cannot control your blood pressure, you cannot control you pulse, but you can control your breath. You can take slow, deep, controlled breaths, and through that you can have a direct effect on your subconscious mind. This is a very powerful key to stopping porn addiction!
4. Killing the Craving
So let’s move right into action. The technique that I used to help me overcome the craving is called Exposure and Response Prevention or ERP and is generally used for Obsessive Compulsive disorder and other psychological problems. It’s been around for a very long time, tons of people use it, and it is very effective. I’ve originally learned this technique from a book called “Kill the Craving” which uses ERP to help people with alcohol and drug addictions, and I slightly modified the approach to help me overcome porn addiction.
The key idea of this technique is to systematicallyexpose yourself to situations that would usually cause you to feel a strong craving and practice responding to this craving in a healthy way. This practice allows our subconscious mind to learn a healthy response mechanism by the time we are faced with a real craving.
Over time you will learn that cravings do not rule your life, and that there is a way for you to ride out a craving and return to your normal self without having to act out. And the high that you get from feeling proud of yourself will be much stronger than any high that you could possibly get from porn addiction.
ERP works in the following way. You first identify a trigger, and as soon as you feel the physiological response from your body, you measure your pulse rate, which you would likely find to be a bit higher than your normal pulse. After that you immediately shift into a controlled breathing exercise to calm your subconscious mind. Next you review your personal motivation statements, to remind yourself of all the positive things that you can bring into your life if you were not to act out. Then you measure your pulse again, and note the difference. Last but not least, you follow up with an act of self care. Let’s look at those steps a little more closely.
Step 1 – Identify or imagine the triggering situation.
While ERP is very effective with helping you overcome a real trigger, it will not be as helpful unless you have already practiced it continuously before facing the real danger. Therefore I recommend a commitment of at least 30 days with complete ERP practice being done the first thing in the morning and last thing at night.
A quick note on sources of trigger is due here. The book that I’ve mentioned earlier “Kill the Craving” recommended alcohol and drug addicts to look at photographs of their addictive substances in order to generate an addictive response. This approach, however, did not seem practical for porn addiction, because looking at addictive images was precisely what I was trying to avoid.
I solved this conflict by creating a strong mental image of myself in a triggering situation instead of looking at actual photography. For example I would imagine myself being alone with computer, or passing by a magazine stand at the store.
Our brain is not able to tell the difference between a vivid mental image and a real life situation, and will produce a similar physiological response. That way Exposure and Response Prevention techniques can be practiced in a safe environment, without having to expose yourself to the real danger.
If at any time during the day you begging to feel a strong craving and a desire to act out, follow up with an extra ERP exercise. Personally, at first I found myself doing 3-5 ERP exercises per day, but soon was able to get through most of my days with only 1 or 2 exercises.
Step 2 – Measure your pulse rate as soon as you observe your body begin to change.
It is easier to measure your pulse for 15 seconds and multiply it times four. Follow this link to download a quick reference chart that will help you to quickly convert your pulse rate and keep the record of your progress.
It is likely that measuring your pulse rate may feel like a burden at first, but after a few days of ERP practice you will get used to it and it will become very easy.
Also, after 5 to 10 days of regular ERP practice you may notice that your pulse rate will not change as much as it did at first from you merely imagining a triggering situation. Please do not use this as an excuse to go look for more triggering stuff. After all it is the sole purpose of ERP practice to train your body not to react addictively to triggers. Therefore, take the decrease pulse rate as a sign of progress, and continue your practice for at least 30 days to allow new habit to form. (It takes about 30 days of repeating a certain task for human beings to form a habit)
Step 3 – Perform Controlled Breathing Exercise.
After you record your pulse rate, follow up with a controlled breathing exercise. Simply, breathe in for 10 seconds, hold your breath for 10 seconds, and breathe out for 10 second. Repeat it 10 times.
I use my fingers that I keep resting on my knees to keep the count of my breaths, tapping each finger for one of ten counts. That way I can free up my mind from counting and concentrate on breathing.
Remember that our breathing is the only subconscious function that we can control through our conscious effort. Do not overlook this step.
Step 4 – Review Personal Motivational Statements.
Next you review your personal statements. You will have to do a little homework on this. Just sit down and write down all of the reasons why you want to get sober. Why do you want to stop watching porn? What positive changes would it bring into your life? What negative consequences will you be able to avoid?
Answers to these questions must be able to touch the bottom of your soul. When I read mine I can literally feel the Goosebumps! That is how badly you need to want to stop this addiction and get the good things in your life. If you are not going to feel the Goosebumps and if it is not going to touch your soul, it is just not going to be strong enough to make you choose life instead of porn when you will be faced with real temptation.
Some of the statements that I used were: My dreams of having a wife and a child will come true if I walk away. I will be stronger and more in control if I walk away. I will regain my self-respect and dignity if I walk away. My family will be proud of me if I walk away. I will be able to look into people’s eyes, and feel proud of myself if I walk away. You can download 30 sample stamens here.
I had each of my reasons written on 3 by 5 cards, which I would read out loud to myself during each ERP practice. Cards allowed me to be doing (i.e. moving the cards), reading and hearing the message at the same time. Human beings learn the best by combination of action, seeing and hearing. (We learn even better by teaching something that we already know to somebody else. So when you get a handle on ERP practice yourself, try to teach it to another addict).
Step 5 – Re-measure your pulse rate.
When you first begin your ERP practice, you might notice that your pulse rates remain the same between steps 2 and 5. Sometimes you may even find it going up a little. It is normal. Over time you will learn to decrease your pulse rate, and you will be able to bring yourself back to your normal state. Ideally you should be able to decrease your pulse rate from its highest point by about 4 to 8 bits per minute.
Additionally, as I mentioned earlier, overtime you will notice that your pulse rate in step 2 will not be getting as high as it did at first in reaction to the triggers. This will be a sign of your progress.
Step 6 – Follow up with an act of self care.
This is also a very important step. You have to do something good for yourself. Preferable you need to get out of the house.
For my first 30 days I would go out and jog after my morning practice. And if I felt the craving again during the day, I would do another ERP exercise and follow up with a different act of self care, like cooking a healthy meal, journaling, or taking a nap. After my evening practice my act of self care was simply to go to bed early. You can view a list of 67 healthy things to do for fun.
5. One Technique is Not Enough!
I want to share one short story with you that helped me to put everything together and stop watching porn for good. Exposure and Response Prevention technique is great, but I think it would not have gotten the job done if it was used alone. Anyway, here is the story:
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all.
“One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
“The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
So I thought what can I do to feed the right wolf? The answer was not as obvious as it might seem.
Over time I came to a conclusion that if I took a good care of myself, my good wolf will be stronger, and my bad wolf will be weaker. Therefore in addition to the daily practice of Exposure and Response Prevention, I committed to the following rules:
- 8 hours of sleep a day
- Eating Healthy (3 meals, and 2 snacks a day)
- Drink plenty of water (at least 8 glasses a day)
- Journaling about my triggers
- Meditating
- Morning and Evening Prayer
- Avoiding Dangerous Situations (think acronym HALT)
- Hungry
- Angry
- Lonely
- Tired
6. Warning!
Soon after you’ll stop porn addiction, you will become able to get in touch with your true feelings. While this might sound like a good thing, you could find those true feelings to be unpleasant.
Chances are you’ve used your addiction for a very long time to escape discomforts of life, and when you take away this crutch, you might feel the full weight of your past mistakes.
Just realize that this pain is a temporary. Use this pain as a guide to identify what areas of your life need improvements, so you can face them and get the life that you truly deserve.
7. Other Resources to Consider
I used everything that I’ve outlined so far to help me get my first ever 90 days of sobriety from porn and masturbation. In the matter of fact I have not masturbated yet (over 2 years now) since I did my first 30 days of ERP practice. I did however look at soft core pornography on a few occasions so this method is not perfect. Actually, I have yet to find a perfect method, and when I will I’ll make sure to let you know. But for now I wanted to share a few other resources that I found helpful.
12 step groups
There is a lot of criticism out there in regards to 12 step groups, but I’ll recommend you doing what my sponsor told me to do, “Take what works for you, and leave the rest behind”. The best thing about the 12 step groups is that the infrastructure is already in place.
If you live near a major city, chances are you will have multiple meetings in your area. If you live in a remote location, you can always attend a phone meeting. It is there, it is available, and you can meet people who have similar problems and are looking for similar solutions. And best of all, it will only cost you a 2 dollar donation per meeting. You can view a full list of 12 step meetings here.
I’ve been attending Sex Addicts Anonymous for almost 2 years now (I started right after I lost my first 90 days of sobriety), and it has been a tremendous tool in my own recovery.
Professional Counseling
Professional counseling is a great tool, but you need to be careful, and pick a counselor experienced with porn addiction.
You may want to consider an Online based recovery course. The only program that I can personally put a good word for is Candeo Can recovery course. They offer a Free Mini-Course which is definitely worth checking out.
Additionally we have a Free Recovery Course posted on this site, which provides a lot more of other helpful information.
I am sure there are other good programs available, so make sure to find what works for you.
Accountability Software
Knowing that there is no way to hide my internet history made it much easier for me to make good decision when browsing the internet.
I recommend Covenant Eyes that costs $10 a month. This software does not filter any of the internet content, but it keeps a detailed report of all your internet activity and emails it to your accountability partner.
A free option that I also use is K9 web filter. This filter can block access to certain sites and keep track of all of the internet history. Just make sure that somebody else is in charge of the password.
No software is perfect and there is always a way around it, nevertheless I found those tools to be extremely helpful.
Educate Yourself
Read as much as you can on how to stop porn addiction. This is what I did and continue to do. It will not only help you to stop watching porn, but it will help you with the rest of your life.
Spiritual Life
Get involved with your spiritual life, and make sure you make room for it.
Journaling
Journaling was one of the most beneficial tools for me. There is something magical about getting your thoughts on paper.
Remember, progress and not perfection!
Don’t try to do it perfectly and don’t try to be perfect. You will make mistakes, we all do. As long as you keep working at it, you will get better. It took you many years to get this far into your addiction, don’t expect to fix it all in 30 days. It will take you some time. Be patient with yourself, keep going, and your life will continue to improve.
If you stumble don’t beat yourself up.
Just learn from your mistakes, and over time you will become a new person. If you keep working at it, there is no other way; you will become a new person!
8. Thank You!
Thank you for carrying, thank you for trying to change yourself, and thank you for continuing to look for solutions. By making changes in yourself you are making this world a much better place!
If you know someone who is looking for ways to stop porn addiction, please share this message with them!
And remember to feed the right wolf 
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Thank you for sharing this amazing way to me. I think today is one of may best day that I found this website. I hope that I can do it in same way to avoid my addiction. Again thank you so much.
Good morning guies…This is the best day of my life.I found this website to control my addiction.I am not intense addict, but i find myself occasional addict.I read some of the comments, and i could relate myself with the social awkardness when i am in company of opposite sex.I have no confidence talking to them.I just avoid their company and beginning to become loner.From today itself i will start the different strategies mentioned above.God bless the person who had the noble thought of starting this website and help solve problems of millions like us out there.
I’m only 14 years old and I probably started watching porn when I was in seventh grade. The thing that scares me most is that I’m a girl. Many people only stereotype that men and boys get addicted but i’m a living case that it’s not just guys. I grew up in a Christian home and I realize that I have been distancing myself from God’s love and I dont want that anymore. I’m hurting so bad and I cant trust anyone with what’s going on in my life because they only judge me. PLEASE HELP ME! I…i’m hurting terribly.
I know what you mean, I’m only 22 and grey up in a Christian household too. The thing is you are going to make mistakes. This is the devil’s hold on your life right now. Make sure your daily digging into the Bible and truly ask God to help you. He only allows you to be temped as much as you can handle. Once you realize that the Satan has this hold on you, the addiction part starts to fade. With time, God, and knowing people do care for you, you will be able to break any addiction brought on by satan. Know that you were bought with a price and that the Lord loves you soo very much even if you do fail. Hope this helped a little.
I too understand what your going through. I grew up in a christian environment as well and I started my porn addiction in 6th grade, and have had to constantly fill this void in my life on-and-off every other day. It’s pathetic and I need help! Now I’m 14 as well and I still can’t quit…I’m feel like I’m filling this empty void in my life with porn instead of God. Your story speaks to me, here I thought I was the only kid my age going through this strange addiction, but knowing someone out there just like me helps a lot.
-K.
I too understand what your going through. I grew up in a christian environment as well and I started my porn addiction in 6th grade, and have had to constantly fill this void in my life on-and-off every other day. It’s pathetic and I need help! Now I’m 14 as well and I still can’t quit…I’m feel like I’m filling this empty void in my life with porn instead of God. Your story speaks to me, here I thought I was the only kid my age going through this strange addiction, but knowing someone out there just like me helps a lot. May God be with you all on your journey do reconciliation.
-K.
Thanks so much guys. K, realizing that I’m not alone in this just makes everything so much better. Something i learned that opened my eyes today was, God sent his son, Jesus to die on the cross for our sins, right? Something we dont tend to think about though, is Jesus put all our sins on him. I cant even fathom how IMMENSE the shame, pain, sadness, hurt and GUILT that Jesus must have felt on that cross. He knows exactly what we now feel right now.
Thank you so much, I’ve never looked at it from that perspective before. Jesus HAS gone through all this pain before and he HAS overcome it. And now he’s up at the right hand of God encouraging us to do the same. God be with you all…
-K.
OMG! The same thing is happening to me! Im in the seventh grade now. im 12, and im a girl too! i havent ever sponken to anyone about it….but i need help too… i want to be closer to God but it just keeps happening!Please email me at ciera_lmao@yahoo.com i really need someone to talk too.
I’m happy that anyone who suffers an addiction can overcome it, and although I can’t offer any religious support (I’m non-religious), you can, and I say you will, overcome this addiction, just like me and so many others
I started watching porn when I was maybe 8 or 9 years old. It was later when I began to masturbate. I hate how guilty I felt afterwards, and sometimes it would tear at my heart so bad I would wantto break down and cry. I’ve tried everything, but it hasn’t worked. So now, I don’t know what to do. So I have to have a little more faith in myself I think willpower is actually the obly thing that may work. I’ve done it before so I can do it again.
This is one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen. I have had a porn addiction for as long as I can remember. I want it to be over worse than anything I can imagine, but until now I never sought help. You guys and gals out there who are contributing to this are a real encouragement to me to know that someone else out there is suffering the same as me. Everyone says they feel guilt, I think I have stopped feeling that. I want to feel guilty for my sin, but I can’t. Pray for me friends. Thank You!!!!
Whether or not you know it, there are dozens maybe even hundreds of people out there just like you praying for you. I feel guilty most of the time, but at times with all the things in my life that are going down the toilet, it’s easy to just give up and say “Why am I even trying?”
Good Luck! And remember, DO NOT GIVE UP!!!! KEEP TRYING!
Hi, i am a 15 year old guy and I have been watching porn since the 5th grade… It all started when my friends at school were talking about this thing “everyone was watching” called porn on their computers. I started masturbating at 12 and it has never stopped since. Today I am at 1-3 times a day. I can’t even count how many times I’ve tried to stop. The longest I have ever made it without masturbating is 3 days… by that time the impulse was so strong I couldn’t contain myself and I just fell right back down into my depressed-porn filled-self. I feel ashamed everytime I go out with friends especially if there’s girls there. I just have no confidence at all and all I want to do is go home and sit in my corner with the computer. I go to a Catholic school so theres a chapel there that has mass every morning before school and i go every school day now and I have asked God everyday to help me overcome this… I really noticed my addiction when there was this girl I liked a few months ago, it took me forever to get the courage together to ask her out and when I finnally did, I ended up spending more time on pornhub than talking to her… and it hurt the most when she came to try to find out why I wasn’t talking to her at all and she saw me doing my thing… that felt like someone had just shot me but only straight down through the bottom of my heart… Thank you for putting this site up, Not only did it give me helpful tips on how to stop and put me on the right track, It felt amazing just to be able to vent to someone on here
hey man if you need someone to talk to send me a msg….my email is jalopy226@gmail.com please send me a msg…we cannot get through this on our own…
i myself am 22yrs old and looking back i see how my addiction has really changed the way i think and the way that i look at girls. i would see girls as a sex objects and not as the princesses they truly are. they are beautiful creatures of God but our minds and sin tend to turn everything into perversion.
my addiction started in the 7th grade i think i was about 12 or 13 and i was on it 2-3 times a day and would even set my alarm clock to 2am so that i could wake up and be on it while everyone else in the house was asleep. this amount of exposure really changes who you are, and as you said Jimmy it is difficult to be around girls again.
i have overcome this addiction but with the way girls dress (like at the mall and at the pool) it is still very difficult to avoid things that trigger the thoughts. but with the tricks that have been suggested on this website and the help of God we can be healed. God can help you change if you are willing to let Him change you….like i said it is not going to be easy but i am a living example as well as all these other people who has commented on this site that it can be done…and it is so great to be able to feel normal again…!!!!
again if you need someone to talk to then just send me an email at jalopy226@gmail.com…i really hope to hear from you soon
I’m an occasional porn/masturbation addict in the sense that I don’t do it on a daily or regular basis. But when I do it, I really got this uncontrollable compulsive/obsessive urge like when I masturbate on Friday night, my mind continuously gets occupied with porn and sexual thoughts up until Monday (where I usually call-in-sick from work). That’s when I realise “once again” that I have wasted 3 days of my life and I muster strength to set these thoughts aside and swear to myself to never ever do it.
I usually imagine myself acting out those “adventurous” erotic stories I’ve read, so I do potentially humiliating things like masturbating on open windows and moaning like hell. I also noticed that I those dirty thoughts flood my brain when I’m alone at home and can do anything I want. I could say I’m a very imaginative person, and that of course didn’t help me overcome this madness.
There were a few stages of my life where I actually have been in control for a sustained period (with once a week masturbation without any lingering sexual thoughts afterwards). It was really good and I felt like I was “on the top of my game”. But whenever I get so comfortable with life, coupled with some sexually provocative ads in TV, dirty thoughts start to play and my mind jumps into filthy state of abandon and unrestrained lust.
The problem is, there is part of me which says I shouldn’t totally give up something that feels so enjoyable. And maybe due to my Obsessive-Compulsive personality, I easily slip into temporary but wild addiction when I get a taste of that enjoyable something. In short, I struggle to keep it normal! I sometimes have this thought getting rid of masturbation once and for all but I’m also afraid of the implication on my sexuality and functioning as a normal human being.
I don’t really want to make a point but just sharing my dilemma. I hope to apply some of the techniques here as they sound sensible and practical i.e. address both physiological and psychological aspect of the problem.
I’ve heard that there are drugs out there that can reduce excessive libido. I’m more than willing to get down that path to solve this problem but I’m just also afraid of the side-effects of these drugs. Or perhaps I’m just trying to look for a shortcut here which potentially can be more damaging than the good it brings? I have this love-hate relationship with the “chemical rush” I get in my brain whenever I get into this bad habit. Love simply because it feels so good, and hate for the obvious reason I don’t need state. I just turned 30 this month.
I suffer from such episodes as well, and only tonight I sought help. Thankfully, this was the first result from the search. I will overcome my addiction, and I think I will keep providing supportive comments, simply because said comments (including this one) put my focus into it, and distract myself (in a good way
). It’s good to know that, aside from those seeking help, that there are those who suffer from a similar pattern.
I’m 18 years old, and I’ve been strugling with a pornography and masturbation addiction for as far back as I can remember, at least 10 years old. Serioulsy. I can sustain myself to once a day, but alot of times I crash out and end up doing it like 4-5 times a day. I feel so guilty, and it really puts a crutch on my spiritual life. I would give anything to get rid of this addiction.. If only I can withstand a craving.. I’m praying and it feels a bit better to know that I’m not alone in this fight..
To get started, im not kidding on this, to avoid it, start an addictive game, I.E. World Of Warcraft, then once you’ve quit porn, play for a bit, and then get on with life. I am only 12 years old, and my friend once showed me a movie called American Pie : The Naked Mile, and i got very into this stuff, i got so into it, i had given in into watching PORN!!! Ive stopped this addiction using the method above about the game, and i blame my friend for this addiction >:D, also, i had the feeling when i was watching it of pure guilt, but some roumers in my school say that alot of people do it, so i was feeling like “you know what, its ok as long as people my age do it!” I just hate that addiction and i also prayed to got to stop it, i hope i will never return to porn.
that’s really cool! do pray to God more often and He will bring you out of it permanently
I Have been addicted to watching it for a few years now . I have been trying to stop my self. I am a 22 years old girl and i have a really great boyfriend and family .I usually succumb to it when I am sitting alone in my room and i get bored . I feel so ashamed and disgusted with myself , because i know i am more then this , i am better then this . So i will do this for myself. Shall feed the right wolf from now on . Thank u so much .
Many thanks. Finaly I fondd a window to stop my my 30 years adiction. I will let you know my progress for sure. the best
This is just what I needed. I’m only 15 and I have been struggling with this for more than 2 years now. My addiction is unfortunately a once a day thing. Everyday its the same routine. I end up doing the same two things I’m never proud of which is pornography and masturbation. I have never lost any faith in my spiritual life. I know God will help me; the problem is that I go through this everyday. The guilt is too much for me to bare. I make sure that I look to God for a way out. But sometimes just because I fail doesn’t mean he’s not helping me. I need all the prayers from people struggling with the same problem as me. I pray for all those who are in need so please pray for me too. I thank you for making something like this. This is my start for my road to recovery.
I’ll pray 4 u! I need some prayer too!
thanks for sharing ur story, i hope i will get education, knowledge, and enough courage to stop viewing porn, for good, thanks for every one helping other to over come this adiction
I feel you bro its so hard and then I feel so ashamed that I can’t even turn to God
I need prayer too and ill pray for you
Hey there. I’m most likely never coming back to this page again. But i just wanna say that God is always there for you and He will never stop forgiving you for your sins. However we must never take this for granted. I will pray for u man. ALl the best. I know you can make a change in your life.
So I am 22 and a virgin. I have never masterbated till 2 years ago. I have watched porn throughout my teenage life and ever since i started masterbating it has given me temporary stress relief and no more wet dreams. I jsut want to ge over this addiction becuase I find myself masterbating 2-4 times a day. First of all I want to know if thats normal on a daily basis for 2 years? And second of all I tried to refrain myself for a week and then I gave in. I am going to try your techniques starting now and I will let you know how it goes.
Hi,
I am not a doctor, and I don’t know what or how much is healthy. I believe that each person should experiment to find what works for them. Based on my experience I would say that probably masturbating 1-2 times a week is healthy for a single guy. I would advise against all sorts of visual stimulation though, because in my experience that is where most of the damage comes from. That being said, like you have experienced before it is possible not to masturbate all together. I would encourage you to find what works for you.
Alex
My problem is that my prolonged battle with porn addiction has left me so ashamed and full of self loathing that I have all but lost the ability to talk to prople. I just can’t look them in the eye knowing the kind of man I’ve become. This has left me feeling very distant and alienated, to the point that I don’t even talk to my family anymore. Suffice it to say that the lonliness that acrues helps only to feed the desire for release. I would have a very hard time getting close enough to anyone(even my family)to be in a position of trust and accountability. It seems like this battle will inevitably have to be fought on my own.
In my experience 12 step groups, such as Sex Addicts Anonymous is a GREAT place to re-learn talking to people and to slowly gain your confidence back.
Well, I’m clearly not alone out here. I too feel like this is an unstoppable horror bent on destroying my life. I’ve never been addicted to anything but this, and if I could just overpower this one beast… my life would be so much better. I’m going to try these tips, and I’m going to try even more! I’m going to start to take an active approach to fighting this demon, instead of always resorting to my belly up posture. I WANT TO BEAT THIS THING!!!
Thanks for all the advice.
I WANT TO DIE DUE TO THIS ADDINTION ,I BROKE THE FAIYH OF MY PARENTS .BUT THERE A HOPE .I WILL TRY MY BEST
sometimes it makes me want to die too, but just like you i will not lose hope. keep fighting friend
my dear brother, u dont need to die, u willbe over come this adiction, soon, very soon, inshallah, just keep working on it, remember thisnis same as that story, 2 wolf strugling with in our self, and one going to win who ever we feed, ha ha ha so instead of dying, work on ur habit, try to starve that bad wolf, as a muslim, to think die, there is no sorry for that sin, porn adiction isa sin, but u can fix ur self, to thinl about killing ur self, is great sin,, there is no cure if u kill ur self, be alive, work on ur habit, as Allah for forgiveness, hope and inshallah he will for give u, and erase ur bad deed, then do more good deed, teach other to how to over come this adiction, let them live clean life, and pay back in order to teach other for free how to o ver come, killikg is not a losution, satan is always their to take us from right path, get back on corrrect path teach other, ask Allah for repetence, and never do that sin again, or atleast pray that God please give me strength , so i never go close to porn thing, u will be on ur path of success, u dont need to tell million of people that i am porn addict, just tell ur God please help me, for give me, we make our own path either towards hell or paradise, so choose the one go to paradise,
I have the same problem. And picture 1 on thi page is EXACTLY what I feel. Once I read some of the posts I found out I’m not alone. I allwayse thought I was alone and I was the ONLY ONE. but god was nudgeing me and telling me I wasn’t. I could feel him in me.
Lately I’ve been REALLY into church and prying. Every time we pray in church I pray to god that I’m no perfect and I really need his help. I can tell he’s trying to help m trough this but I keep letting him down. I’m only 13 and I feel terrible. I havnt told anyone at all, not even my friends. I’m scared to tell my sister! I need help. More help. I’m trying my hardest and I really REALLY want to stop!
I’m a reader. I try to read when I get “the” feeling. But it never works. And my sister has said lately that my eyes have been dialated. I didn’t even know this is why. But now I do. I learned so much from reading this. But I still need support or my wobbly structure is going to fall agian. And once agian I’d have sined.
Please help me!
You are just like me! Only I’m 12. Everytime I watch it I’m like ” what have I done?! ” and I’m always afraid I won’t have gods forgiveness! It’s just terrible…
God will forgive, it’s much harder to forgive yourself.
I felt the same way, and still do … No-one knows, no-one, about my addiction. It came last year, when I was 13, but I kept asking myself “is this normal in male puberty?” I’m glad that I’m not alone emotionally, and that there is a path to freedom.
I know exactly how you feel. But after reading this article, I felt God’s presence more than ever. He LOVES us and is willing to forgive us. We have this wonderful God and I especially have been neglecting his love. WE CAN GET THRU THIS TOGETHER <3
i would highly suggest an accountability group with others it helps you stay clean. Prayer and scripture is deffinitly helpful too!
I am 32 years old, and have been addicted to porn ever since I got my first real taste of it. Over 16 years. I have gone to ridiculous extremes to acquire pornography, have spent thousands of dollars on it, destroyed three computers with viruses contracted through unsafe websites, and have slowly watched the dosage of my “fix” increase in intensity as time goes by. I have overcome tobacco and alcohol addictions. Now it is time I break these shackles too. I am hoping that the advice on this page will help me to do that.
I’m also thirty years old and deal with the same thing it’s very hard to break
It depend on how you practice it, and how sincere you are, in doing such an action.
Daer Alex,
Pls help, I did all the things that you have given on this side, but I cant stop pls help me
Sometimes what has worked for me does not work for others. I would encourage you to seek additional advice on our forum, and try attending a 12 step program such as Sex Addicts Anonymous.
Just dont think of it, find an activity that will make you bc. hehehe
I am 14 years old and I can’t stop watching porn. I started when I was 12 and can’t get over the guilt and the sexuality. I feel like I want to have sex with anyone attractive. The only up side is that I don’t masturbate
You will progress if you don’t break the chain now. and it gets harder the more you do it. I was 8 when I first crossed porn. I stopped and picked it up again recently.
You should not be ashamed to state your name amongst others who share the same problem
I am only 13 note I don’t like what i’ve heard about it.please I need helpand and every since i found out i could i would masturbate. My older brother and friends at solder friends showed me my first porn wheni was a little kid. I am in foster care and Mt foster parents are ready good Christians i know this because the holy spirit always tells what i am thinking whenever i get aroused he always seems top know and he starts top tell me about God and why i shtheouldn’t sin and the kind of trials and tribulations the enemy will put on me and i’m tired of giving in to the satan and his tricks. In my time here i have been effecting his whole family with my problems. I don’t want to go to hell. So please help me the only reason i found this website was because i was about too masturbate i’m at least trying i neednsn extra push.
Don’t stop believing in God, nothing is imposble for him, just always pray, God will help you.
Hey everybody I’ve been addicted for 2 years now and this website has opened a new door for me please pray for me, god bless all of you
GOD BLESS U ALL THANK U FOR SUCH A VALUABLE TECHNIQUE
Thank you for your advice alex
Alex i find your techniques very helpful for controling my addiction..
almost 3 months without giving in, but this week i broke the cycle and watched porn. i don’t blame the media, i blame my self for being weak and stupid. I know now i can overcome this and so the battle continues.
Keep at it! It’s tough but do not give up! You will get there man
I’m a 16 year old and I’m very addicted ve been trying to stop the last few with little or no success. Any tips to stop? Please I need help soon!
Tips are talk to your parents, read our free recovery course, sign up for our forum, and attend Sex Addicts Anonymous
yaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
thanks the breathing ex-se is cool
this really helps
Ya the breathing exsersise helps me about 90% of the time but the other times I have trouble and give in aboutonce a week is there any more teqniques I can get tht u find useful .
I’m also a girl addicted to porn, and there’s a lot more girls out there addicted to masturbation. It’s really hard to face that. “That’s a guy problem” I would say. “girls don’t have these issues.” But they do. It was a way for me to deal with my terrible at home life, and my extreme loneliness. I typically don’t have an issue when I’m in a relationship, but I still use those chemicals to relieve stress, even if it’s just making out. I don’t want to end up using those moments of intimacy to relieve stress… and I never want to be so vulnerable that it’s hard to say no when I don’t want something… I hate not having control over my own emotions… I spent too many years of my life being controlled, by this and other issues. I need help but I have no insurance for psychological help… and I don’t feel crazy. I just need to know what to do and I need to do it.
It’s nice being told that just wanting it bad isn’t enough… I can’t tell you how often I’ve been told it should be.
get in contact with the mormon missionaries!
And Anonymous at 1706, what are they going to do to help??
Actually, you would be surprised at how many self-help and group help programs that Mormon church offers, even to non-members.
the only thing that will help is the true jesus christ and a personal relationship with God mormonism is sadly herecy and adding on to Gods already perfect plan
I hear ya when you say that it should be easy but it isn’t. Logic doesn’t seem to be a real consideration in the face of any addiction. I also understand about what you are saying about using real physical relationships as an alternative to porn. That is defiantly not right or fair to anyone. I ended up taking an active stance against getting into any sort of relationship of the “romantic” type just for the sake of avoiding unnecessary temptation and additional stress that seemed to be inherent. I’ll pray that you find your way and that God will bless you through it! =)
Hi! I’m a girl and I believe I’m addicted to porn. At first I didn’t want to admit it but now from, what you’ve described and what I’ve read what a porn addict does, I think I am. The urge to watch it recently resurfaced and became much stronger. I’m glad I found this site and I’m going to start the ERP when I sleep tonight. And I’m dedicated to take out the addiction! Thank you so much! Now, I understand the addiction cycle. I believe by recognizing this I can overcome this!
to tell u the truth, i try really hard not to watch porn or masturbate. the only problem is that there’s nothing else for me 2 do but stuff like this. i live in a place where i can’t do much. i used to do it every day, but now i don’t do it for a week or a week nd a half, but then i do it all like 4 to 5 days in a row. then the cycle just repeats. i actually know when i wake up wheather or not i will watch porn nd masturbate, but i feel like there’s nothing i can do about it. im trying, NEVER GIVE UP!
Spot on…we need to find something else to do, preferably in a environment with several people, and force ourselves to engage in this activity.
Here are some things that keep pulling me back:
1. boredom (Got plenty of things to do, but none can give me the same level of perceived satisfaction. Basically, inability to set and pursue goals that can ),
2. easy access to content,
3. natural preference for pleasure over happiness (Pleasure comes without having to struggle. Happiness usually comes only after a struggle.)
Giving up porn is going to give us happiness, and the path involves a struggle for many of us.
Up until recently, I’ve been doing fairly well with keeping my addictions down to a minimum. In the entire month of February, I only had 7 “smudges”. And, the first part of March wasn’t too bad. But, now, it’s starting up again. I’ve already got 11 for March so far and three of them occurred just since yesterday. It’s gone from keeping them down to suddenly losing control again, back to square one, so to speak. Now, what do I do?
Hey, I would definitely recommend an accountability partner. It’s so hard to break the addiction on your own and I know that from experience. An accountability partner may seem like a scary idea at first, but once you find the right person it makes breaking the addiction possible. It’s every man’s battle not just yours.
David, It is so true about having an accountability partner. I also told my wife, that was very hard. The path of least resistance is to let the porn take over your life. The hard decisions you are making now WILL pay off. Get an accountability partner, it makes all the difference in the world.
To both of you who replied, what’s an accountability partner and how can it help me overcome my addiction? By the way, my addiction is now extreme during the last few days of April and into the first week of May. It’s definitely compulsive. I don’t want to do it, but it’s an uncontrollable urge that keeps making me do it. Anyway, thanks for replying, Allen and Anonymous.
I just found out from Wikipedia.
An accountability partner is a person who coaches another person in terms of helping the other person keep a commitment.
I’m not sure if this person can help me keep a commitment to stop looking up porn. Trying to quit cold turkey often backfires. And, I’ve been down the road of trying to quit bad habits cold turkey…only to have them re-fire and become stronger than ever.
I believe what I think I should do (if I can stick to it, that is) is very slowly ease away from porn until I no longer feel the addiction or the urge to proceed with what I’ve been doing.
Another possibility that I’ve been considering is talking to a sex therapist about this problem and hope the person can help me overcome my apparently losing battle with this addiction.
oh god, please help. i read your advice and it all is working except this: i can’t stop giving in! EVERYTHING you wrote is true, the circle, the temporary relief/release, and i really wannt to stop. please, please, PLEASE help. this is hurting not only me, but my family and life as well. HELP!!!
I’m in the same boat as you. Read my comment below yours.
David, i mean no disrespect, but i really need advice, not just a comment about a similar situation. please help me! also to Alex, thanks, and do you have any advice on HOW to “walk out of the forest”? please respond, anyone. i need advice!
btw, i will not say my age, but i am under 15, so i want to stop as early as possible!
This entire site is dedicated to answer your question, there is no short answer.
That being said. Given your young age, I would advice you against trying to figure out anything from this site. It was created by adults and for adults.
I would advice you to talk to your parents, and/or an adult you can trust.
And don’t worry too much, chances are most of teenager are going through experiences similar to yours. Good on you for being careful, but I do encourage you to seek advice from real live adults.
Regards,
Alex
Thanks, Alex. don’t worry, I have confided in an adult. the only thing i’m worried about is my weak willpower. but still, thank you so, so much… your site and advice have been a miracle for me. God bless you, Alex. (or if you’re part of a different religion, may THAT god bless you.) thank you.
Sorry to hear that, but there is no easy way out… It takes usually months if not years to start seeing some serious changes toward the better. It did took you many years to get this far into the forest, it will take you a few years to walk back out.
Alex
Thank you Alex!
I just wanted to reply to Skeptical. The talk isn’t about suppressing sexual urges, that is not the problem. It is good to feel sexual urges, the problem comes when it becomes obsessive and when sexualization of women or men occurs. You start to look at a beautiful person not as a person, but as a sex object that excites you which sends you spiraling down a path leading to places that you don’t want to go. We don’t want to stop feeling sexual feelings, just avoid the bad behavior that is not healthy and not respectful to other people. Most if not all women in porn have experienced sexual abuse, and are not doing it because they want millions of people to spend hours masturbating to their body.
Just something to think about. We all want to be better people.
So many more problems in my life can be traced back to my addiction. My relationship struggles, my bad self image, my anger and frustration with myself when I know I can do something, but I don’t because I have squandered my time with porn. I am 25 and I have so much I want to do with my life. I don’t want this to rule me forever. Thank you. I will work hard because of your story and the wonderful tools you have put together for people like me to use.
I should not have jumped to conclusions, and I want to be sure to say that I have not been addicted to pornography nor am I any kind of expert in psychology. I haven’t been in your shoes. Clearly watching pornography and masturbating for eight hours a day is excessive and would interfere with your life.
That being said, I think taking the approach of suppressing all sexual desires is bound to be unhealthy, misguided, and impossible. The goal should be to control your sexual urges, not eliminate them entirely.
I got partway into this article and was confused. You say you can’t go a week without masturbating? That is fully within the range of normalcy for a human male, and there is nothing wrong with it. Just judging from the fact that your goal is to stop masturbating entirely, I would say your real psychological problem is with the guilt you feel about enjoying your sexuality, not porn addiction.
Guess what? Sexual urges are going to keep coming back. That’s what your body evolved to do. You are never going to eradicate your desire for sexual pleasure, and masturbation and sex are a perfectly healthy expressions of sexual desire. It’s abnormal to not masturbate. Saying you want to give it up entirely is as bizarre and unhealthy as trying to be celibate.
A normal, healthy human has a sexual urge, satisfies it, and moves on. Just like when you are hungry you eat, when you have to excrete waste, you do that. Denying yourself all sexual pleasure is as unhealthy and warped as going without food or trying to never go to the bathroom again. What you need to do is overcome your shame about sex.
According to the web-site (that doesn’t shame people or argue against masturbation) called yourbrainonporn, the studies done on masturbation are unintentionally biased. Not to act like an arrogant know-it-all, whereas, (as far as I can tell) in the industrialized world “it’s abnormal not to masturbate”, there are parts of the rest of the world that don’t even have a word for it in their vocabulary and don’t know what they’re being referred to when being asked about it. In other words, they don’t even know what it is!
Also, taking a position against celibacy sounds like the beginning of a personal bias against religion… with all due respect… no offense.
In Sexaholics Anonymous they define sobriety as NOT having sex with yourself (or anyone but your spouse)… something I haven’t managed to accomplish, myself – ahem – yet… like um, someone named “Alex”… not to drag him into things:) Another “cool” thing about SA (when people actually do it) is they don’t lord any particular religion over another – they don’t word it that way – it’s been a while since I’ve been to a meeting.
Lastly, when talking to the deacon of my church about this, he said the approximately the “exact” same thing as you… so there!:D
Thank u everybody for all the encourage ment im 18 and have been adicted since the age of 12 im planning tobmarry and this caused big problems in our relathionship god blessed her with understanding this site has helped me know im.not alone tank you all
I am 12 years old and I am addicted to pornography. I hide away from my parents and watch it. I have asked the lord several times to help me stop. I am scared about this and I question why I like it so much. I don’t want to tell anyone for I have to much guilt. These videos helped me. Hopefully I’ll be able to go on the right track. Thank you.
i can relate with you so much. all i can say is, hang in there! you CAN do this, good luck and God bless.
wow I desperately hope that this will help me… Thank you very much
it has been almost 8 weeks without masturbating, but i ejaculate when i have a naughty dream.. is that normal or bad?
I believe its normal.
its good, it means your brain is satisfying your need whilst you sleep
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If God thought masturbation was wrong 1. He would have said so in the Bible. 2. He wouldnt have made your body to do EXACTLY what your condemning naturally whether you want it to or not. and 3. He wouldnt have made it feel so good. You know that guilt you all speak of after you do it? Why do your thoughts ALWAYS go to what so-and-so said about it? Or what if so-and-so found out? Guilt from sin is never about outside sources. Ever. It is an inherent guilt free of outside control or persuasion. Anything else is about social acceptance in our modern societies.
You know what feels good?
Killing that #*$@^98$^@ that cut me off in traffic.
Eating that entire pizza and following it up with 10 pounds of chocolate whenever. I. Feel. Like. It.
What’s that you say? Impulse control?
Well, that’s part of the cornerstone of sexual addiction. You sound educated so I think you would find a lot of the scientific research fascinating in this venue. Did you know that the portions of your brain responsible for impulse control can actually SHRINK? This is prevalent in most people that find themselves suffering from all sorts of different addiction, including this one.
Also I should note that for the logic of your first point to apply we must assume a few things:
There is one God.
That one God’s word is law and that law is the bible. There is one version and translation of said bible.
This bible is 100% accurate, literal in meaning and application in addition to being written by God himself and not man.
One must also need to throw free will and free thought out of the window and one must also take a stance of false extremes:
Human beings know what’s best for them and have no problem with impulse control.
All sexual dysfunction is rooted in upbringing and/or religion.
There are no physical, mental, societal, moral or monetary consequences to our actions, only spiritual ones.
Don’t let a few bad apples ruin your intellect. It sounds like you have run into too many people who have sexual issues due to religion or family issue, but they are not the representatives nor spokesmen for sexual addiction.
This site is not to stop masturbation. Look over the material again. It is about an obsessive compulsive disorder. It is funny that you made no comment on the porn and the sexualization of the women and men in it. It is not healthy to look at someone and only think about how much you want to have sex with them and masturbate to the thought of it. No one has said anything about suppressing sexual desire, that is natural. It is not natural to spend hours a day doing something you really don’t want to be doing because you feel you have no control over your actions. It is not normal to look at porn (curiosity is normal) obsessive compulsive acts are not.
Thank you Josh,
I agree. The point of this site is not to say that masturbation is bad. I believe that view on masturbation is subjective.
The point of this site is to find peace and balance in their sexuality. And while for some it means no masturbation, for others it means masturbating in a way that does not feel wrong and/or takes over their lives.
My personal believe is that men in relationship could benefit a lot from abstaining from masturbation completely, just because it does wonders to the relationship that they are it. But I do not push my views onto anybody. I encourage everybody to take what works for them from this site, and leave the rest behind.
1 Corinthians 6:1 further confirms this, saying that unlawful sexual relations defile our own bodies. “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.”
Matthew 5:28
But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Ephesians 5:5 read Gods words before blaspheming his name
For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.
Thanks for these i needed them.
i am 15, i have dreams of playing professional football. But i truly believe porn my only addiction will stop me from reaching them. I started when i was 12. At first i did it once every week or so gradually i did it 2-3 times a day. I need help really badly. When i ejaculate it ruin my day. I cant exercise i cant study or do anything. I need help really badly i have tried at a dozen times to stop but it seems impossible. Will anyone plz help me
Why the hell would what you do with your pecker make any difference to how you play football? Last I checked you were always fully clothed and a little too busy focusing on other things while playing it. Your parents are stupid for allowing you to believe such things no matter what their intentions or personal beliefs. Save the medieval beliefs for the medieval times…
The only thing that sounds medieval is your thinking process. I hate to start out of the gate with something offensive but it sounds like YOU are the one not thinking for yourself nor with any sort of open mind!
Here’s the thing: there are men and women out there who do lose everything they possibly could. Family, house, jobs, clean arrest record, the ability to control their thoughts, literal physical sexual function, you name it.
Sound insane to you? GOOD! That probably means you don’t have a problem nor the propensity towards such a problem. Just like there are social drinkers out there and then other people who can’t touch a drink otherwise they practically instantaneously return to an alcoholic downward spiral.
There will be extremist beliefs in absolutely every single venue of life. The majority here and the intention behind this site is that of an educated stance which I would consider to be in the middle. Sexuality is AWESOME. Masturbation can be healthy! You should thank your lucky stars that sexual addiction seems so foreign to you that you account such accusations up to sexual repression and religious dogma.
Unfortunately the fact is that, while sometimes those are roots of sexual dysfunction, this site is dedicated to something very real having nothing to do with medieval thought or religious agenda. That something is sexual addiction, it is real and it is growing.
i head one ejaculation has 50 grams of protien havent you everyone knows that
I really need help its so difficult for me
Alex, please remove this comment asap.
This language is way too graphic.
Thank you dude, very much, bless you, i wish i cud give u something as a gift, im 12 and have had trouble for a year now, i just wish i chose my friends more carefully, But theyre gone now, i got new ones. I thought i cud stop by myself, but i couldnt so hey i googled it. My dad looked at my laptops history and he found some porn sites, i promised i wud never again, but shortly after the urge came and i didnt know what to do. I wish people at school wud look at this site, the Feed The Right Wolf story was good thx.
Hello, I am a 20 year old porn and computer addict. Actually I am an internet addict.. and here I am. I am going to through my computer away, well at least have it hidden. I am sick of this habit. I have broken it before but not completely. I am also addicted to masturbating. Funny how I don’t drink I don’t smoke yet still manage to find things that are just as destructive. I hope you will pray for me. I am also training as a youth minister and this needs to stop! I can do all things through the Lord but nothing without Him. The thing that has made this worse is that I like to get online and flirt with girls which leads to thoughts and eventually I am looking at porn. The guilty feeling has even faded.
I need help. I mean it comes at the wrong time not when I need it. So Please pray for me.
I will pray for you, but I would also encourage you to not to try to fight this battle alone… This addiction is like fungus, it grows in darkness. Try to share your experience with others, it is like shining light on your addiction.
i am so sorry, i have a similar problem. i will pray for you, and for everyone else out there. you can do it! never give up hope. the Lord is always with you, and He will help if you pray. i am stuck, too. let’s quit, together, for good. god bless.
Hello I, have commented on this sight before, I just wanted to say how much this site has helped me. I went from not bothering to fight at all, letting porn rule my life, my schedule, my thoughts, to actually trying to fight it, with success. I gave in today, however I am going to get back on track. So far I have gone a few months without it when I used to do it every chance I got, I fell off the wagon a bit, now I go a week or so in between but I am still fighting and am resolved to do better. I have noticed some change even when I do give in, I often look away and think about something else then click the x.
My main reason for wanting to stop this habit is for the woman I have fallen in love with. I am resolved that with Gods help, my desire to be loyal and the tips on this site I can quit porn.
never give up! i’m on my sixth week without watching porno or masturbating.. i too fell in love and just want to be happy
It’s truly amazing what we’ll do for love, it’s one of the reasons I’m on this site now, trying to find a way to stop my addiction. I want the woman I marry in the future to be able to look into my eyes and know that she’s the only women in my life, and in my mind.
Those tips are useless for me. Im being honest. However, its not that I am determined to stop my addiction, its that I dont have a chance. I need to stop it or end my life in a mental institution.
I read a comment talking about a massive attack to free porn or even pay porn sites. Would be awesome, I hate so much those Filth Gates. I cannot believe the caught me in this addiction for 6 years now. The most I have been off porn was 27 days and masturbation only 2 weeks…
I need some plan or tactic to fight this but while being lonely and addicted to computer its fucking impossible…
I know that some day I will beat this addiction…
Please guys pray for me, I will pray for you.
Ya man im praying for you, Dont give up your not defeated.
John 16:33
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
If you need some encouragment email me oshjay17@gmail.com
After reading the helpful tips I feel that this is the solution to help my finally overcome my addication to porn. Pray for me please and God bless.
Pornography has ruined my life.It took me a while to realize that pornaography was corrupting me and ruing my relationship with my loved ones and god. I dont want pronography to conrtoll my life anymore I want to change for the my own sake and for my family. But I dont know if i can do it alone pls help me.
i know EXACTLY what you mean. you can do it! also, here’s a tip: think of a personal mentor, someone you look up to. think to yourself, what would they do? it works! as weird as it seems, i use the Doctor from the BBC tv show Doctor Who, because he would never do something like that. good luck, and god bless.
Pls where can i get anti-porn protection for nokia c1.pls!!
You haven’t masturbated in 3 years? That’s incredible. I didn ‘t even know it was possible!
I’ve been masturbating since I was six, yes I wrote that correctly, SIX. That’s potentially a decade before some people may start to do it. I’ve also been addicted to pornography since I was nine. While I always knew it was wrong I never knew just how badly it could ruin my life. It’s reached a point where I can barely become aroused by anything less than something completely taboo, such as beastiality.
I’ve become completely dsigusted in myself, and after listening to a conversation earlier this evening about cigarette addiction I realised they’re not so different, in that I can overcome it. I’m not resigned to be a slave to it forever. I want to thank you for solidifying this belief, and showing me that not only is pornography something I can stop, but masturbation in its entirety. Thank you, Alex. Pray for me, and I shall do the same for you and everyone else
you can do it! ummm… awkward question, but i know someone from my school with the same name, if that is your name. if you aren’t him, i won’t give away his identity, but i was just wondering. redhead? last name has a farm animal in it? likes the band Primus? if not, nevermind, it is a common name. i only asked because i want 2 help if i personally know the person. let me know, i am a HUGE BOOKWORM and can do some research or something to help. good luck and god bless.
sorry, i just realized i may have put my friend in danger by giving out even a little info. so to any creepy stalkers out there, BUG OFF, or i WILL personally track you down and…….do i need to finish this sentence? anybody who ISN’T a stalker, nevermind, don’t worry about it. i shall not harm you if you’re innocent.
thank you!
Like u all am an addit but with a turn of event imagine all most been killed in an accident parents all ways fighting,finding out ur real dad,not been chritian…e.t.c and not able to last for 2 days without masturbation for 2 year
You have no idea how much hope this gives me, well, maybe you do. I can’t thank you enough, I’m just hoping I can break free, it’s been a long 6 years.
I’m only twelve and I have had many problems similar to yours, sir. Thanks for the article. I will heed your instructions carefully. Thank you, may the lord above us bless you in every way. I know this was an increasing addiction, but i still blame puberty for this.
fanx alot.. i feel sooo blesssed n feel lyk am saved after visitin dis site.. been stuggling 4 2.5yrs now.. fanxx n GOD bless.
First, I must say, excellent information to break addictions!
I wish I had found this information in my teenage years or at least in my 20s. If I had, my life might have been a lot better than it is today.
However, I also need to point out that sex and masturbation are not evil. These are perfectly normal human physiological needs and responses which have helped with reproduction and survival of the human species. Any sight of sexuality will arouse us, and that’s normal.
What is bad is addiction. Addiction is when it controls you. When you cannot control when you want to masturbate or when you want to have sex or when you want to watch porn to arouse yourself.
My story starts from the time I was little. My dad was extraordinarily strict. He would punish me and scold me almost every day for almost nothing. If my little brother cried, he would punish me. If something happened somewhere, he would punish me. It was very harsh. It was not that he did not love me, he did. It was just that he did not know any other way of raising me because his dad raised him very strict too.
That strict upbringing also meant that I had to be the best, at everything. I could not score anything less than 100% in all exams at school, and that’s impossible to do. I could never let my dad down. It was too much pressure.
At age 6, I discovered masturbation. Yes, that early! And masturbation helped me get relief from that pressure of every day life. I needed it to get on with life. It helped me overcome the stress and focus on life.
Yes, I did go through the cycle described above, where I would feel aroused, then masturbate, then feel guilty about it, … and eventually feel aroused again a few days later. However, I think that the guilt comes from the belief that sex and masturbation are abnormal. There’s nothing to feel guilty about. It’s really normal. If you are human, you will, in most cases, want to have sex or want to masturbate, periodically. The period depends on your hormone levels.
However, addiction is the real problem. My addiction started when I was introduced to porn on the internet. My first time to use the internet was in 1997 at a friend’s home. I was in college at that time. For the first 4-5 months, it was purely educational. Then one of my friends showed me porn sites online. And that’s when my addiction to porn began.
The reason this addiction affected me so badly is because it changed my perception of myself. I was not particularly good looking after age 8 or 9. I was mostly sun-burned, losing hair, crooked nose, losing hair on my head, very hairy on my body, very thick dense beard, big ugly nose, etc. I was also very self-conscious about this, resulting in social anxiety. I would break into a sweat if anyone looked at me. As it is, I wouldn’t have been very successful at dating.
So while masturbation satisfied the basic human need, addiction made me not try dating at all. It made me withdraw from social situations. Women would invite me for birthday parties to their home and I would refuse to go. I would hardly talk with women. I wanted them, but I did not need them.
By the time I reached my late 20s, I had been a complete failure with dating. My social life was non-existent. I had zero friends. I had serious health problems. I made the decision to change my life, to fix each and everything that stopped me from living my life the right way.
I started with fixing the things I did not like about myself. It began with my teeth. I got orthodontia. Then corrected my nose. Then reduced the hair on my body and face with laser. Then … I reached a point where I had no complaints about myself appearance-wise. I get dates much more easily with women now. I am thousands of times more confident than I used to be. I’m in my mid-30s now.
However, one last thing remained – my addiction to porn. I am unable to form a relationship.
That’s why I am here on this site. I found this site a couple of days ago. I hope this helps me get over my addiction.
For now, I have started with the steps outlined.
- 8 hours of sleep a day
- Eating Healthy (3 meals, and 2 snacks a day)
- Drink plenty of water (at least 8 glasses a day)
- Meditating
- Avoiding Dangerous Situations (think acronym HALT)
Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
However, I find it very difficult to sleep and to stay asleep without masturbating to porn before sleeping. I don’t want to take sleep medication. The deep breathing does not seem to help fall asleep because my mind still keeps thinking about all the stress and pressure of life. I wonder if there are other techniques to fall asleep.
I had the same pattern as you at nights. I found that exercise as well as keeping a regular sleep pattern helped me fall asleep without using the addiction.
To establish a sleep pattern I did use a sleep aid.
It can be done. Best of luck.
I am in desperate need, I have a good heart, and good soul, and do have a relationship with god. However the temptation of the flesh seems to sneak up on me, and i always always have my guard down? I am inspired by your story, and would like to join this team, to fight against porn addiction. I am a very good person, i hate these disgusting habits, and want freedom!
Freedom is a state of the mind my friend. Since you have a good heart as you say……..its never late.
Get in touch when you need some friend!
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I need your help !
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I started a porn addiction last year and ever since then ive done it off and on for the past year, im 18 years old. Ive seen how much it has hurt some friendships this past year and I dont want to chose PORN over Relationships anymore. I have a great support network arround me and I have a very strong desire to give it up and with Gods Help I know I can.
Thank You for this Website.
Im Starting ERP today, and I thankyou for all the other people who shared their experiences.
Pray for me. I pray for all of you as well.
you make my life agian.. thanks admin may be its help me and i avoid aal these things
First I would like to think you alex for the info. Im 25 and up untill a year ago I watch porn and masturbated daily it sames like it now it started when I was probably 13. But I started to date this girl wdll now sje is my wife and she didn’t lile the idea of me doing that or watching it. So I told her I would not well I liad to her im getting better and I realized that I do have a problem and I want to fix it before I lose everything bevause I know if I dont stop she will leave me.and thanks again for the help
Thank you for this information. It started when I was very young maybe around 15 and I am now 23. I have looked at content that is maybe labelled as acceptable, to things that have made me sick after watching. This is helpful.
Hi,
My addiction started at 15 and still continuing at 39. This is the only overpowering thought I have. I do not have high ambition/desire.This is like a quicksand/morass that drags me back in.May be I also dont want to kick this habit because it gives a tiny weeny bit of happiness.After masturbating twice or thrice I lose the zest for life for a week till their is a build up semen in the scrotum. Then it again starts. I was fantasizing for long but I have passed that bit now.
Thank you for this article and thank you for being a help to those of us who wish to overcome this very controlling addiction!
I have lost a good job and a lot of productive opportunities in my life from my addiction. Now that I think and reflect, my addiction has always lowered my self esteem and has withdrew me into an antisocial person. I have until recently always been in denial of my addiction and helplessness to pornography. When the time came that I finally needed to really control myself, I realized that, I was totally unable to. I am finally waking up to just how severely addicted I am to pornography and want to find the self will to stand up and beat it. Even after all the reprecussions my pornography addiction has caused me, i still find it hard to deny.
God bless you Alex for your work, devotion and for all the information you share for free with us!
I’m also fighting this addiction.. Watchng porn and masturbating. For 11 yrs. Now i’m 21. Still hard to overcome. Just 4 days then i already give in. I really want to stop this addiction. I’m so ashame of myself, feel so useless. To much guilt in me. I dnt want to live the rest my life doing this. Many bad effects already i experience yet still can’t stop it. I’m so disappointed to myself. I’m so WEAK.
don’t give up friend, keep yourself busy with different activities and socialize more.. try to work on your greatest talents or learn more new things!
I know exactly what your going through Jerry, your situation describes mine exactly. I always use pornography and masturbation as a way to get rid of sadness, frustration, boredom etc. (whenever I need to feel good temporarily). I am finally realizing my addiction and the hold it has on me. I have lost a job and countless days of opportunities and joy in my life from my pornography viewing and masturbation. Any pleasure it does give me is immediately followed by shame, loss of self esteem and depression.
Keep trying and dont give up Jerry. If you mess up, then try again. The only loser is the one who stops trying!
I am fighting the same battle as you and hope we both can realize that we dont need these things to live and be happy.
I’m glad this kind of info is out here. Mt girlfriend and I just recently started to fool around in bed. We both realized how hard it was for me to finish and I realized that my porn addiction is probably the factor. I want to stop for her and for myself so I am very glad that there’s a place to go when I need motivation.
Hi, I have a question to FeedTheRightWolf.
I am married to an amazing woman and she knows about my pornography addiction. When you go through the recovery plan which you explained, how do you deal with pornography craving when having intercourse with your partnern? While I find my wife very attractive, I can’t stop getting pornographic images into my head while having intercourse. I hope that’s not a silly question. I was wondering what your thoughts are?
Thanks.
Chris
Hi Chris,
It is a good question. In my experience, after a while being off porn this stops being a problem. Just give it some time. Also, when the thoughts do come up, try to imagine the image getting very small to the point where it is hard to see. Try to imagine the image getting very dark and colorless. And then in the end imagine tossing the image somewhere far in the back of your head, or completely out of it.
Thank you so much Bro. I am a Christian, devout, and I have been struggling with porn/lust/masturbating every since my cousin showed me a video when I was 11. I have been way down, and way up and I am beyond frustrated with my life. I will try your steps and thank you so much man. I will pray that Jesus blesses you – I would ask that you pray for me too. You are a real celebrity in my eyes, doing what I only dream to do someday. …for you teens – it never goes away (thought it would as I grew older)-( I am 33 now), now is a good time to take care of this, it is a dagger in my life and yours that we love to stab ourselves with. Time to through the bloody dagger on the ground and walk away.
Thank you so much I loved the video and the type I am so relived to be recover from porn adiction
Never Before I thought this habit would destroy my life…until i found this place. Ever since i’ve beeen coming back to this website and reading more and more on how to break this addiction. And i have! Now i have lost all links to porn and have rebuild my own love life before porn caught up with me!!! So i Tell all porn addicts to come here and never lose hope it’s out there just go look for it at it will find you. Thank You Feed The Right Wolf!!!!!!
OMG i have been watching porn evr since and now i stopped. thank u soooooo much!!!!!!!!!
Thank you
I initially thought that i only need to worry about me not seeking it! How wrong was I! it will find its way to me soon enough and that’s a real battle! It is in advertisements , TV , movies! just around the corner when your least expecting!!!! stand firm .. you only thought you had to be firm! you have to be mighty powerful! i call the powerful within me and the great in the sky to help me with this! and i know am gonna win!
Watching porn really kills our self esteem, i’m 22 and trying real hard to stop. for now i can only stay 1 week without giving in.. i’ve watched porn since i was 12.. i feel so useless
i have trid to quit but i just cant
I am 34 years old and am currently struggling from porn addiction, and lustful thoughts in general. I have been struggling with porn for over 20 years now, (My Lord! to see that in writing hurts just about more than anything). I also struggle from depression, and I feel a main part of this struggle is from the guilt of watching porn, and masturbating. I gave my life to the Lord seven years ago, and have had hills, and valleys, but my every time I watch porn I find myself wondering about my salvation, and beating myself up over it, etc. The urge always comes late night, when I’m alone working on my computer, and I’m either tired or have been drinking (another struggle). I ask for prayer and that God would forgive me, and that I would get right wit him.
I absolutely understand exactly what you’re saying and going through. I also have given my life to the Lord, and it feels so great during the day. But the damned night is my weakness, like you. We’ll get through this together and i’ll keep you in my prayers.
I am 11 yrs old and I started watching porn for about 1.5 yrs.I really want to stop my addiction and maybe help my friend too.I DON’T WANT PORN TO CHANGE MY LIFE!!!!!! I really hope I can start.I am scared I will have to face laws in the future.This means a lot to me.So,
NO PORN FOR ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh!And I’m a 11 yr old girl
Thank you Alex for posting such a wonderful article here. I tried to quit watching porn many times before but eventually failed. But this time, I rectified where I was failing( actually, I was trying to stop this in shot). Your article opened my eyes and made me to think in a better way to stop this.
I have been struggling with a porn addiction for far too long i am 21 and i am married to the strongest woman on earth she knows about my addiction and has stood by me through it all i have been trying to quit but my cravings only get worse and i keep going back i desperately need help i dont know what to do and then i found this site please pray for me i have to beat this…thank you to all who have posted you give me strength
Hi. thanks for posting this im currently 17 and have been struggling with pornography since I was 7 years old. I find myself lonely and it just kinda happened and stuck all these years. In this year (2012) I have yet to watch pornography or masturbate which makes this the longest streak ive had since I discovered it. I find that meditating on the Bible and relying on God helps a lot. I was about to watch porn right now because I couldnt take it anymore but this article has given me hope. These past few days have been absolute torture because I cant stop thinking about it but I know that I can do this.
This site is a miracle aint it!? I was gonna do the same thing but i typed this in instead. Reading all this great stuff about how to stop, than a quick prayer for strength can work wonders. I haven’t been an addict as long as you have. But than again, i’m 5 years younger. Anyway, i like reading these because you feel a sense of family almost with these people who all have a common goal. Best of luck to you, brother.
I want to do what is right in my life. I want to live a life in a way that is good and right and true. I seem to fall so short. This week I have decide to quit watching porn. I need to stop before it is out of control. I got the cravings tonight but came to this site instead.It can’t get much worst so it has to get better.
I did the exact same thing when i found this site. You are in my prayers Girl. Good luck.
Hey man hang in there!! It feels like torture for a little while, but gets easier. One thing that helps me is if I get the urge and its strong I’ll get on my bike and petal like crazy. It helps!
I would do that. But the only problem is the same reason i’m in this mess. During the day, i dint have the urge. 100% of my mind is against the idea. But as soon as it gets late, than i have the syrong urge. I kinda wish i lived alone already so i could do that. But thanks and good luck to ya too.
This cycle appears to be more frequent with me now. Sexual thought…fear/avoidance…giving in/behavior…shame/guilt…never again…repeat. I know it’s bad and I know I want to stop. I just can’t seem to stop. I’ve already got 12 “smudges” for 2012 alone, the latest of which occurred early this morning (January 16th).
“smudges” = sexual climaxes
I’m gonna look at the Free Recovery Course and see if that helps. Wish me luck, everyone!
@david
I know your feelings.
I had (or have) them in every day of this terrible experience.
By my observations i can tell you just one little advide: AVOID BEING ALONE IN THE HOUSE….for me that was the starting point of my sexual tensions…..when i was just sitting near the computer…my tension was at a very high level.So the trick its to fool your brain…..read a good book , start a new sport , go out, get close to the people..i know its hard .. i am trying every day to get rid of the bad behaviour… BUT THATS WHY THIS FORUM APPEARED … SO PEOPLE LIKE WE ..HLP EACH OTHER .
GOD bless you all
I am feeling better just writing this things to you.
Being alone in the house is rarely a problem with me. It’s that I’m isolated in my own room and this problem usually strikes after everyone else has gone to sleep and I’m awake. Unfortunately for me, I have health and emotional issues that keep me from sleeping well at night. Where I live, it’s at least 5:30 in the morning and I’ve been up all night if that tells you anything. As for fooling my brain, it’s not easy to do because it’s that subconscious mind that frequently interferes with my normal routines and I’m too weak to resist it. The urges are just too powerful to resist. I act without thinking about it and then, I feel bad or guilty after it’s over and I come back to my senses. This happens all too often and I don’t know what I can do to stop it. I’ve had a very rough life, the most traumatic of which occurred when I was about 10 or so. Six older bullies…versus a helpless younger boy (me). Fill in the blanks.
By the way, the number of “smudges” is up to 13 now…the unlucky 13. This is one of those times where I hate superstition. All things great, weird and unlucky surrounds that number.
Getting back on-topic, the fact that I have these health and emotional problems that keep me from sleeping well also means that I have too little energy during the day to go out and do stuff like normal people. In fact, I hardly go outside, period, unless I absolutely have to…and even then, I have to struggle to get out. I have no friends around here where I live.
About the only thing I can do is read a good book, like you said. But, even that does little to help this problem because once I put it down, I’m vulnerable to more urges. This is how my life is. My family that I live with (I have no wife, girlfriend, or family of my own) has taught me to just accept what life gives me. If this is the way it’s meant to be, there’s really nothing I can do about it. That’s probably why I keep struggling and failing with trying to overcome these problems.
P.S., I appreciate you saying God bless us all. I believe in God. But, with the way my life is going, I feel like He abandoned me even though I know that’s not true.
@david
i know it’s impossible right now…to believe i can change….ive seen miracles happening.
After reading your posts…i believe u can change ..there’s a desperade person in you want this thing .Bad habbits are like repeated routines that (like you said) discharge your vital energy…no wonder you dont feel..going out…and see the world in black.
With time , if you just believe in your self a greater power will arise within your soul …you just have to believe that GOD is everytime with you and wants to enjoy life…thats why one big step is not to feel abandoned .
Ive seen people during history that were hit by tragedies and in the end overcoming every obstacles they had in their way…and thats why…we cannot cry about ourself .
Read again this articol and try to see what you can do about changing your habbits…..and believe in hope,love and faith without expecting anything instead.
I will say a pray for you and wish you all the best!
I wish I had your faith. I’d like to change this bad habit of mine. The problem with me is I’m too weak to resist the urges when they come on strong. Add everything else I’m going through…now including a bad cold that’s making me feel even weaker in both ways (both physically weaker and emotionally weaker)…and it’s no wonder I can’t stop, even though I want to stop.
My dad is like me…except he doesn’t do any “smudges” that I’m aware of. But, he’s like me in that we have too little faith. My grandpa has been telling us, time and time again, to have faith in God and that He will help us get through these troubles.
I have the perfect story for you.
It might be a poem, not sure. Anyway, look up the story about the Lord walking with a man on the beach. It proves that when all seems like it cant get worse, He is still with you. If you dont want to look it up, i’ll tell you the basics: a man is walkin on the beach with the Lord in heaven. And the beach represents the man’s life. There are two pairs of footprints, one is his, and one is the Lord’s. Than, in the man’s darkest time, there is only one pair of footprints. When the man asks ” Lord, why did you forsake me in my weakest time?” the Lord replys, ” I did not leave you. This is where I carried you.” pretty amazing story, and really short. Might wanna look up the reall version. God bless and good luck.
Alex, thank you so much, you returned my life back!
Continue, God bless you!
I was reading some of the people’s stories from 2010. They were 13 and 14 year old people. Which means i can directly relate. I have been an adict for 3 years. Thank God, it has never caused a conflict in any of my relationships, or with anybody i know. But it is tearing me apart as well as my relationship with Him. God bless you all and lets pray for each other to overcome this monster.
Thanks so much appa. i know u made this site for me to understand the problems of pornology.So thanx appa .Thank u so much..
(here appa means father in heaven jesus)
Im a 27 year old porn addict.
For the past 13 years , pornography has ruined my life.
It made anxious, depressed , a high level of shame , lack of courage, concentration and other nasty symptoms.
As i was saying, my career life, educational life, emotional life was destroyed by my addiction.
Now i feel lonely, helpless, depressed , regretting all the things that i could have done.
Please help how to escape from this addiction and bring back peace in my life.
Thank you very much!
PS:SRY for my english!
I am not gonna say much! but you can rewind all of that if you start now. I am guessing you were searching for ways to overcome your addiction online! that’s a great sign that you want to change and trust me that is all it takes to change… you r on the right track! have allot of faith and some will power for starters. Peaaaaaace
Thanks for your encouragement.It really helps , just by the fact that is said by another person .
You see i didnt tell anyone..about by problem in all this years, so thats why communicating on internet it helps me to realese some preasure on my chest.
I hope i could stay focus for very long period and solve my problem that “ruined” my dreams and hopes.
TYVM!
Tudor,
You are not alone, as this site points out. I struggled with a porn addiction for 35 years; it destroyed a marriage, several very good jobs, numerous friendships. I never saw it coming. I was raised by a single mother, schooled in a small private school with very harsh, women teachers, including the principal. I was sexually assaulted by a homosexual teacher at bible school when I was only ten; my grandfather routinely beat me up as a young teenager. I never went looking for porn; it found me. I discovered it as a young boy in magazines I found in the weeds down by the lake, as I was fishing. I still remember the very first images, even the names, of the women pictured there. I was fascinated, not just by the lust being generated but more so, even though I didn’t realize it at the time, by the power I felt over these women. Without the proper tools to defend myself I slipped into the powerful grasp of porn; and then at the age of 14 I discovered how to masturbate. Then began a long, painful road of hiding the acquisition and use of magazines for this addiction. Then along came VCR’s, and yet another avenue opened itself up: live porn. The battle that raged within me was vicious and cruel. There were many times of victory when I would dump all the stuff and cry to God for forgiveness, only to find myself tempted again and seeking a store to purchase another magazine. The seasons of victory were joyful, peaceful and pure; but each time I regressed the pain and grief increased to the point where I knew I was slowly being destroyed from the inside out. Then, along came the internet. Now, I didn’t have to work so hard to conceal the addiction; and yet again, a new avenue of bondage to this terrible affliction developed. I suffered with an internet porn addiction for 6 miserable years, only now I was much older, and a terrible realization began to sink into me which said, “You’re a lifer; you will never overcome this and you will die a stinking, porn-addicted, disgusting pervert”. I was terrified of this eventuality, yet I could not find the power to overcome. But God is a million times stronger; and as it turned out, the very tool which practically ruined my life, (internet) provided me a means to find a way out. I sat down one night and began to search for help, as you have, and I found it. I learned about the lies from Satan about porn, and I completely gave my mind and soul to God for help. I promise you, you can overcome this addiction. But you must continue to search out and find education, help, and understanding, such as this site provides. I found another resource, like this one, that helped ma a great deal. http://www.frontlinemin.org/escaping.asp One thing I have learned about this terrible addiction: the best help comes from others who have suffered through it and by God’s grace have overcome it. We need to help one another. Keep seeking help as you have, and don’t let a weak moment or failure stop you from moving on. Never yield, never submit and never give up on trying to overcome. I promise you, this sin “shall not have dominion over you”. (Romans 6:14) Keep trying; keep talking; you will heal.
I read your story and i can say it was very impressive.
I am happy for your recovering .
Its stories like yours that give me hopes that i could defeat this satanic habbit.
With small stepes we shall overcame.
Btw Today i went to church after a long time and i felt some realive and power .
I wish you all the best of luck!
Tudor,
Stay with us in this forum. I will (and I’m sure others here will too) partner with you to gain victory over this. Keep posting, and I will keep praying for you.
Mark
And the dogs were barking at the new moon, whistling a new tune, hoping it would end soon.
21 been stuck with this for 8 years now. I want help because I’ve been trying to stop for my now wife. Kills me that I still try looking up porn ect. even now that im married! Already I told her to throw everything away. But now im looking up taboo stuff on the net while she sleeps. I don’t want this to ruin my marriage. What else can I do!
Found freedom from this!!!!! Victory feels AMAZING.
There need to be more sites like yours!
I started this one aimed towards women struggling with this addiction.
http://www.femalepornaddicts.wordpress.com
-an EX-femalepornaddict
Thank you.
I’ve started to give up on life. My dad walked out on my family three years ago. And to cope with it I turned to porn. Soon I was addicted. Now I hate myself…. I feel like I should be stronger than this. I have a girlfriend that I don’t deserve and I don’t know how to love her the way your supposed to anymore. My mind is so destroyed. I don’t feel like I can come out of this addiction anymore. I need help, but am terrified of what others might think about me. Can someone on here help….?
I didn’t mention I am 16. I feel like such a hrpocrite because I lead music for my church’s youth department and have several christian music colleges looking at me for scholarships. I feel like I’m not good enough to even accept any of them.
I know how you feel!! I am 26 years old, married, and we’re both very religious. I even have some responsibilities in my congregation. At the moment I am seeking help within my congregation to take care of my problem with porn and my wife is very supportive. So I know what you mean when you say you feel like a hypocrite, but don’t beat yourself up with those feelings. Negative emotions lead to negative actions so learn to control those. My problem started when I was 19, April ish 2005. I became very depressed with myself due to perfectionism and because my mom walked out on my dad and I around that time. In that depressed state I had decided to kill myself so I figured it wouldn’t matter if I looked at porn, well I didn’t end my life, thankfully, but I opened a door I wish I had never opened. I looked at porn for a week then stopped. I did well for 6 months or so, but then the night masturbating started (which I mentioned up a few posts) I became so discouraged at not being able to stop that that I fell back into porn again around May of 2006. Then for 2 1/2 years I felt horrible because I couldn’t get control!! I hated myself too! I could have made so much advancement, so many people looked at me as a good example, but I was throwing it away. I wanted to die and prayed often that I wouldn’t wake up in the morning. Looking back I wish I would have talked more about my feelings to someone. They would have been able to help correct my negative thinking. Which is what I do now and something you can do too! Find someone older, perhaps your pastor. It’s emberrising to do, I’m not going to lie, but you will feel better getting it off you chest. It’s possible it could affect your responsibilities in your church and it may not, but believe me it’s better to have a clean conscience than serve with a dirty one!!! (Proverbs 28:13) You’ll feel good about yourself that you had the courage to do it! I’m sure your pastor wont get mad and condemn you. If he does he’s in the wrong!!(Isaiah 32:2) I met my future wife on Dec 21st 2008. From that time till we were married on June 5th 2010 I only looked at porn twice. Which was a huge accomplishment for me! Then I was good for a year and a half or so, but the past 4 months I’ve had a few slip ups. It’s discouraging to me and to my wife, but I’m not gonna give up and neither should you!!
You mentioned that you feel like your mind is destroyed, it’s not, damaged yes, but not destroyed. The good news is that you can repair it! I have! It is scientifically proven that over time we can rework the “wiring” in our brains if we supply it with wholesome things (Romans 12:2). It’s true you will never forget every image, but they will fade in time and you can re-learn to have a good relationship with your girl friend. Some advice on that, if you plan on getting serious with your girl friend in the future I suggest being honest with her. You don’t want to surprise her with that (if you still have the problem) when you’re married. That would be very unloving. Even if you have it under control it would be good to mention it because it could pop up later in life, that’s just the reality of the problem. I was open to my wife before we were married and she respected me for it ( for being honest) and was supportive. It’s true she may not want to deal with it, but if she does and feels you really want to get it under control you know you really have something special. It’s a choice she deserves. (Side note: remember sex does not erase the desire to look at porn) But don’t stress about that now!!! That’s something to consider in the future. Being 16 you have a lot to look forward too!! I had plans that I couldn’t do because of my problem, but I learned to be happy with my life now. There’s a lot I can do!! Also, and I say this to everyone, be happy with yourself that you realize that this is a problem and want to stop!!!! So many people feel that it is harmless, but its not! A good thing to remember is to stay away from movies that feature nude scenes or women scantily clad. That actually re-ignited the “flame” in me and caused me to fall backwards. IMDB is a good site to use to look ahead at the content of movies so you’re not caught off guard. Be careful of who you choose to hang out with!! People who think porn is ok and offer to show it to you may not be the ones you want as your close friends(Proverbs 13:20) That does not mean you want to look down on anyone, but be careful!
Keep fighting!! There are so many people like us that have succeeded!! It sucks when parents leave
… but remember we cant control what other people do only ourselves and don’t (not that you do) hate your father for what he did. That wont help you. Talk to someone about those feelings too. Don’t give up!! You can succeed!!!!
At my church our youth group averages around a 170 and our church works had to get as many teens in ministry as a teenager being the next generation of the church. so we have a ministry training program that we have I opened up in to a group of guys that i meet with to pray and stay accountable with. And I have to say you were right. It turned out i was not the only one and now we are all fighting together. I was good for about a week and a half then slipped and fell back into it and now have set up an internet blocking system which i recommend looking into. However if your married try to have your spouse make the password because i still slipped up and just typed the password in to get around it. However the block will help you think while you do it.
Also..
I broke up with my girlfriend though because i opened up to her and although she didn’t say anything i knew it bothered her. Plus i didn’t want her losing her high school time with a guy who can barly help himself.
WOW! I’m very proud of you!!! What you did took courage and it was the right thing to do!! It’s your first step to recovery.
Don’t worry too much about your former girl friend. You never know that down the line you may have a chance to get back together again, but this time you will be free of porn!
I too got an internet blocker and only my wife knows the password. It helps a lot!!! We have the K9 internet blocker. I like it too because it keeps track of what sites you try to look up.
Be strong! You can succeed. This scripture in Proverbs 24:16 is encouraging. It brings out ‘that a righteous one may fall 7 times, and he will certainly get up.’ So even if we relapse, fall, we don’t want to beat ourselves over and over, but get up and try again. That’s what matters to God, not how many times we fall, but, that we keep getting up! Keep getting up my friend!!
I’m really encouraged by your comment C. Its just good to know there’s another out there who struggles with the same thorn and yet is holding it up.
Well done.
I’ve posted on this page before; been sometime now though but i keep reading the comments others have made from time to time.
i have decided to reply to this very comment because from your choice of words and the composition of your comment including the effective way you have used scriptures to Help our struggling teen…..I have so much conviction that we have much in common and that I will not be able to say here openly.
Maybe if I refer to you as Brother; you might get the point. I am also a struggling teen with responsibility as well but there’s much about me I wish other’s knew. I need your help personally and I please need you to help.
I am begging you to try help me cultivate this quality I’ve been dying to posses; Gal. 5:22-23 the last quality to be more precise.
SELF CONTROL
You could talk to sister about my request and probably pray about it as well and I’m sure you wont refrain extending some loving kindness to me.
Alex would get my mail off yet still I’m sure you can reach him so we may get in touch.
Please help your little one! I need it!
NOTE:
I have finished with the course from Feed The Right Wolf!
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I’m kind of in your shoes, too. I, too, am giving up on life, though my problems are a little different than yours. And, I don’t have a girlfriend. My mind is also destroyed. That’s why I have the same addiction. I don’t want to do it. And, believe it or not, I actually hate pornography because it got me trapped in it with no way out. That combined with my stresses I have said above in other comments is not helping me escape from it. Like you, I also need help, but I don’t know who to turn to or what to do. I’m afraid I can’t help you since I can’t even help myself. But, I thought I would share what I’m going through because I believe I know how bad it is.
Struggling teen, i know where you are coming from and understand how you feel. I myself have never been close to the decision of giving up on life. But i have been very close to mulitiple people who have. I do understand. Suicide is something i never joke about. Because its simply, not fun. I would rather go ride my bike than end my life and leave the pain and suffering for somebody else to carry. I think we all would rather play a game than end our lives if we really thought about it. So, hang in there brother. All the people commenting on this here website support you and i. I forgot to mention, I am an adict to. And i an also 14. We have much in common. Stay strong and enjoy what the Lord has given you. Which is more than most ; )
I don’t know if I left a comment before or not. But, in case I didn’t, let me tell you all of what’s going on with me.
I’ve got a split personality. On one side, I’m trying to remain a nudist. That’s the “good wolf”. But, on the other side, I’m a porn addict. That’s the “bad wolf”. Now, what drives me to porn or any kind of sexual thoughts varies, but most of it seems to be stress-related. I get stress on a (nearly) daily basis if that tells you anything.
However, I’ve recently discovered that it’s my sub-conscious mind that’s the real enemy with this problem. Now, I know stress encourages this kind of action, but occasionally, this happens on its own for no apparent reason at all. And, I always feel bad or guilty about it after I do it, no pun intended.
I mentioned that I’m trying to remain a nudist. About 3 or 4 years ago, I decided I wanted to be a nudist. Before then, I was also a porn addict, too. I thought maybe being a nudist would kill the cravings of porn or anything sexual. Well…for a while, it seemed to work. However, once people learned of the nude lifestyle, I got criticized and stressed out more than ever. With the exception of very few supporters, I was bombarded with negative reactions from people who assumed nudism was the same as the very thing I’m addicted to.
That additional stress put many more burdens on my already complicated life I was living. Mix well and what do you get? Back to the porn addictions once again. I should note that I’ve got major health and emotional issues that also keep me down. I don’t have a life…not the life I was living before. I sleep poorly at night and sometimes, during the day, too. So, I’m always tired and my thinking is not at its best when I’m tired.
I get no exercise…except for masturbation (if that can even be called “exercise”) now on account of all this. And, it’s not always directly linked to pornography that gets this going. Sometimes, these urges can start when seeing a girl wearing any kind of clothes, whether in life, TV, or the internet. Curiously, had the girl been all naked (in ANY situation other than sexual ones), I wouldn’t get the urge to masturbate. In short, nude girls/women do not encourage me to masturbate…unless said nude girls/women are doing sexual stuff with each other. Yet, if those same girls/women are wearing clothes (regardless of what the situation is), it can sometimes (not always) cause the urge to masturbate.
All this because of:
1) high stress
2) health problems
3) emotional problems
4) my sub-conscious mind
I have a name for what happens when masturbation leads to…you know what. I call them “smudges” and, since 2010, I’ve been keeping a record of how many “smudges” I do. Here’s how many “smudges” I did in 2010 and 2011:
2010 – 266
2011 – 237
Now, right away, in 2012, I’ve already got 4 of them. And, it’s only the first 4 days of the year. Funny that the first one occurred in my sleep…which you know what kind of dream I had to make that happen. Somehow, that seemed to be a trigger for making 3 additional ones occur…all while awake from masturbating.
While it may seem so, I DO NOT want to do these “smudges” and, if I could, I wouldn’t do any at all…at least, while I’m awake anyway. Your techniques on how to stop this problem might work. But, as I’m always tired due to poor sleep, if I don’t do any “smudges” at all, that means I also get no kind of exercise at all. And, I’m already noticing that I’m gaining weight. Between stress, health and emotional problems, my sub-conscious mind, and now the need to do SOME kind of physical activity due to being overweight, is it any wonder I’ve done so many “smudges”?
It’s the only “activity” I keep coming back to because I’m too tired to do any normal exercise like everyone else. If I didn’t have stress, my health and emotional problems would lessen their grip. That would lead to better sleep, which would lead to feeling better about myself and doing other exercises to keep me from doing these “smudges” (the wakeful ones, anyway). Now, I know I’ve heard that everyone has stress. While that is true, I’ve had too much of it in my life that it’s reached a point where I can’t take even the tiniest amount of stress without feeling frustrated at least…and doing a “smudge” to relieve that frustration if it gets too much.
To end this, my life is extremely complicated, to say the least.
you don’t sound like u have a problem with this. I might be wrong! but it seems like you have given your self the excuses you need.
Perhaps, but I really wish I didn’t have to resort to doing these so-called “smudges” of mine. Since I started keeping records of them in 2010, I kept saying that I wouldn’t do so many of them for the next year. My goal for the annual number of “smudges” starts out at 64. When it’s reached before the year is out, the goal increases as necessary. For 2010 and 2011, I had to make the goal shoot up to 300 as both years skyrocketed beyond 200. Although my set goals were different in 2010, I fixed them for 2011. Since then, the goal changes as follows:
64
100
200
300
400…(each goal, excluding the first one, rises 100 more if reached)
When I got 266 “smudges” in 2010, I was hoping 2011 would stay under 100. That failed as I got 237 of them. Now, I’m hoping 2012 stays under 64, even though I suspect that will fail, too, I’m afraid. But, I’m not giving up. Each year, I’ll keep trying until it finally does stay below the first goal, whatever it takes.
David my man you definitely have a unique approach to this. The i look at it is that why do u have a goal in the first place? If comes year end and you are at 50 and your goal was 75 would you try to catch up? of course you wouldn’t… targets are for positive activities not negative ones… i suggest you make your goal for this year on ZERO! and see how long you can go… i think you will be allot happier.. you are not alone in this! this is how i am approaching this and i am happier since i found this page close to a week ago
A goal for zero is unrealistic for me. I’ve already got 5 now. A new one just happened about a half hour ago. And, I think I know why I’m having a lot of “smudges” in recent days. I’m worried about my dad. Next week, he’s going to get surgery and he’s not a young man anymore. I’m worried that something may go wrong. Doctors are not perfect, you know. They can make mistakes. Once he comes home from surgery and if everything is fine, that will be one weight lifted off from me. That should reduce the frequency of “smudges” for a while. I still have other issues, too, but right now, that’s the big stress on me. I don’t want my dad to die. At least, not until he gets very old and dies naturally. Not now!
A reminder…the first “smudge” hit right away on the second of January. If I made my goal at zero, it would fail on the second day. At least setting a goal for 64 (for now) gives me more time before it is reached. This way, technically, I’ve still passed because my total so far is still less than 64. But, by year’s end, we’ll see how many I wind up with. This is like a pass/fail thing. If I stay below 64 for the entire year, which is my goal, I’ve passed. If I exceed it, then I’ve failed.
As for why I keep changing the goals from 64 to 100 and so on, it’s to try and reset the goal to avoid going over it. I know it makes no sense to change goals, but I’ve been doing this since 2010. Might as well keep it going this way.
I would love to have a mere 50 of them by year’s end. My goal is not to “catch up” to the actual goal set. It’s to stay below the goal. How happy I’d be if my total “smudges” by December 31st was only 50 of them.
David it sounds like you masturbate in your sleep. I had this problem myself for a few years(and I say this for anyone out there who has the same problem)and it was VERY distressing to me! I would be half awake and half asleep I would “know” what I was doing, but couldn’t stop. I tried many things like wearing pants, then pants with a belt, gloves, these things would work a few days then it wouldn’t. I realized that I would do it about 45mins after I went to bed so I set my alarm clock for 40mins. I would wake up turn the alarm off and go back to sleep. It worked a few days then it didn’t anymore. I was soooo devastated and would beat myself up! That only left me too weak to fight the urge to look at porn. It was a painful cycle! I wanted to end my life so many times. Then I finally came to realize that at those moments I really could not control it and learned to ignore the self-condeming thoughts. Eventually it went away on its own! Also, what helped me was to do a little research online(carefully though!) and I found that it is a problem others have and that at a particular point in our sleep cycle(I forget the scientific stuff) UNCONTROLLABLE things, like this, can happen. The purpose of me telling you this is to help you see that when it does happen don’t count it as a “smudge” and don’t get discouraged over it. Also try seeing a doctor on sleeping better, that will help. Sleep is so important! Ive gotten rid of my video games and cable because it would keep me up too late. It has helped me. I’m almost 3 weeks “sober” with porn. It helps to talk to someone too when you feel those urges. Don’t give up! Don’t tell yourself you can’t because you can!
You’d have to be here. And, that goes for anyone on here. That’s about all I can say because I’m so tired right now due to extreme lack of sleep.
I restrained from online pornography for 15 days but i gave it today
i.e. on the first day of 2012, it feels awful. I was sick and just did to get temporary relief. I am 17. Please help!
Dont beat yourself up. Its just a day of the year, dont see it as that you ruined the year because you made a mistake on one day.
yeah i gonna study hard and go the right way
and kill this bad habit of mine.
thanks michael, feels good to get some help and motivation from friends in this world.
god will help me and i will be true to myself.
i do feel sad of what i have done i hope many more fined this helpful i have no i just hope dident ruin my life before it stared.
I love porn. I want to get it off my chest. Im 16 and need to stop. I know this is not how i should be living. Please pray for me. I truly need it. Im a joke to my friends and family. They dont know about this. Please pray.
You are 16 your whole life is a head of you! focus on the good habits and try to grow them.. that is the best time to stop you are very lucky and mature to seek help now! God bless you!
This is a list of some of the things i thought i would personally gain by stopping. Its is worth it!
1- Pleasing my creator
2- Feel proud of my self
3- Increased self confidence
4- Finally get rid of shame
5- Finally get rid of cycle of self hate
6- Get rid of feelings of guilt
7- A great high through self control
8- Gain healthy sexual appetite
9- Gain healthy sexual drive
10- Get more energy
11- Free time to do more with my time
12- Improve the quality of everything I do
13- Regain my focus
14- Gain a stronger eye sight
15- Confidence to start healthy relationships
16- I will stop feeling like a hypocrite
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I have a question for you Alex. You say you have not watched porn or masturbated for over 2.5 years.. which i admire tremendously!… What is your thought on love scenes in movies? Is it better to avoid them? As many of them i consider borderline soft porn… i am really interested in your answer on that!
Thank you
I would encourage you to be very careful with them. Personally I have a rule that I do not watch any rated R or sexual movies with any ratings when I am alone. That way it helps me to rule out the possibility of me hunting for something through that.
Alex. I really want to thank you for this forum! it is great what you are going here. I have been struggling with this for years and i think your site has given me the push i needed to do something about this bad habit. Your site is now on my favorites
Thank you
I am 13 and T usedto do it every day. I cant stop. My grades are bad now because of this. Thank you for the tips and procedures. I am only once evry 2 days now. Thank you. Its getting better.
if you really want to see how its getting better, use microsoft excel to chart it, it really helps to see how you’re doing
if you really want to see how its getting better, use microsoft excel to chart it, it really helps to see how you’re doing
this is really useful information. thnx so much.
Sir really i appreciate youand your thought will really work for the whole world
One another thing is the state of mind of the person reading this article so better you prefer a state of mind for reading this article
like it should be read after having guilty in mind which usually comes after number of masturbation. should go to extreme heights of guilty and then read this article!!
this way it would definitely touch inner soul of reader
One of the greatest article I’ve ever read however this way still have a problem which will continue for ever
!! WITHDRAWAL EFFECT!!
IN THIS WAY WE HAVE TO FIGHT AND FIGHT FOREVER WITH BAD WOLF BUT BAD WOLF WILL NEVER DIE. HE WILL REMAIN WITH GOOD WOLF EVEN WEAK BUT STILL IT WILL BE THERE ALWAYS AND WE WOULD BE TRYING JUST TO MAKING OUR GOOD WOLF STRONGER AND NOT KILLING COMPLETELY OUR BAD WOLF!!
THE ONE STOP SOLUTION FOR THIS ADDICTION IS JUST TO TAKE A PLEDGE
NOT A PLEDGE FOR NO MASTURBATE
BUT A PLEDGE TO AVOID ANY SUCH EXCITEMENT TRIGGER FEELINGS
“IGNORE ALL SUCH FEELINGS AND PASS AWAY”
I VE TRIED A LOT TO AVOID ROLLS OF PORNOGRAPHY IN MY LIFE USING VARIOUS TOOLS AND AT LAST WAT I GOT A TOOL WITH CONTENTS WHICH IT SHOULD BLOCK AND WHICH IT SHOULD FOLLOW HOWEVER THE EXISTENCE OF CONTENTS WHICH THAT TOOL SHOULD BLOCK STILL STILL THERE.
1. BETTER WE FORGET ALL THINGS EVEN STUDY ABOUT THESE TOPICS
2. READ ONLY MOTIVATIONAL TIP: GET AWAY RIGHT NOW FORCEFULLY LIKE HAVING BATH WITH COLD WATER WHERE ONLY FIRST MUG WOULD BE DIFFICULT.
3. MOST IMPORTANT: EAT HEALTHY!! WE HAVE A PROVERB IN INDIA
HEALTHY FROM STOMACH!! HEALTHY FROM MIND
SO FINALLY TO GET OUT OF THIS GUTTER:
MAIN THING IS OUR FOOD, WE DON’T HAVE TO WATCH OUR PULSE RATE THIS WAY IT WILL BE CONTROLLED ITSELF AS WE WOULD BE TAKING HEALTHY FOOD
USE A POSTER ON YOUR WALL JUST TWO MAGICAL WORDS
“PASS AWAY”
FOLLOW THAT ALWAYS AND FORGET ALL REST MAKE YOUR MIND EMPTY FOR A WHILE AND START THINKING ABOUT A HEALTHY TOPICS
ALL THE BEST FOR ALL
Beside all disregarding the tips and all techniques this is the best and most interesting topic I’ve ever read on internet regarding this topic. writer must have done a lot of practice to keep this blog and must be a very hardworking person who follows his oaths from deep of his heart
great job
may god bless you and may this planet becomes a healthier place to live for all which i think would never possible as online pornography would never stop.
few people like us discussing this topic on internet may start working on healthy lifestyle but lots and lots of people are still there in that gutter cant live productively and they doesn’t even feel it dangerous. they have never searched such topic on Google nor they ever thought about this topic i mean Porn-Free life.
there are staying as they are and this all because of online pornography business which may never be blocked.
too sad but we have to live with this!
there is a practical advice in “QUR’AN” religious text of Islam that to stop evil, stop thinking about it, it will go away itself
i mean to kill bad wolf stop his fight with good wolf just ignore bad wolf it will go away itself and we don’t have to practice to make our good wolf powerful for years
as “OSHO” said:
Darkness doesn’t exist in reality it is just the lack of light
we can not switch on darkness while we have light in a room
however in a dark room we can switch on light
similarly bad wolf doesn’t exist its just the weakness of good wolf
all the best
susheel
nice to see i am not the only indian struggling to make my life better
and for you alex, u r the best wolf in this world.
Sir i understood my problem
sterss
i havv been sober for periods 2months or 1month
bt when i m stressed or angry i come to porn what can i do to stop it?
I tried to cut internet but many my works r from internet
please reply
I would recommend just continue doing what you doing, and trying to learn to use internet in a healthy way. Try to set boundaries for yourself. I.e. not to use internet for any entertainment purposes, or not to use it after 10pm.
Thank you very much Alex…i was very tensed and in deep stress to how to curb porn addiction cause its has terribly ruined my life. My grades got down and even my body got under tremendous physiological change.My social life was not less than hell, but after reading your article and coming to know about ERP, its just made not only everything back to normal but also more better than that.And all the credit goes to you
Hi,
A lot of good info. I especially like the bell curve thing, and taking care of oneself. I truly hate pornography, but it has also given me some kind of “comfort” in stressful situations, which is very lame I must admit. What I don’t like about this site is that the after you have watched the video, there are automatic links YouTube video’s with explicit material. Maybe that would be something to adjust.
Thank you, I was not aware of this happening on this page. Usually I make sure to disable such suggestions, but I guess I overlooked it. Thank you for pointing it out, and it has now been disabled.
Dear Alex, Your information is truly effective and inspiring. If one follows these methods sincerely, he can easily get out of porn addiction. No need of professional counselling. Great job, Alex, keep it up, brother. Realization and admitting mistakes go long way, in improving one’s life. God bless you.
I m married for a few years and she doesn’t know. I wish I had the guts to say something but here I am on this web page…. Just not sure where to start. Well at least I’m not hiding it from myself anymore, so I guest that’s the beginning. Never thought it would be so hard to kick a habit off that I hate so much. So many other things I seem to be very successful at it mylife that are much harder yet this I can’t seem to leave it behind, so frustrating…
Thank you but I believe that this is way too hard to grasp and I disbelieve it effectively works. When you get attacked from the enemy it’s constant even if you wanna go forever without doing it you’ll be in the gauge of “about to give in” It’s sickening that you can pray about it and it won’t help.
It is good that this is where to turn after the fact… so soon after the fact, in fact. I personally justify myself for I know it to be wrong, for a lack in openness in my marriage. I think this addiction is far reaching into a life. It holds many opinions… and it makes it tough to hear women say they “don’t mind as long as he comes home at night to her…”
I can’t believe they really want that kind of relationship…too many mixed signals.
I want to just “move on” from it.
Quite the contrary! I thought it was fairly simple to grasp. Just like smoking when you first quit you will feel that you are constantly in a struggle but as time goes by , you get stronger! and it gets easier for you to win against the urge to do this unhealthy habit!
hey thanks for ur valuable information to overcome or get rid of this evil “porn addiction”
i am just 21 now ,but can i get rid of this porn addiction ,i am telling it so because i am addicted of this watching porn from more than 12 years , i am not joking i am serious i tried it many times but never able to stop this habit more than a month
my habit is much intensified as i am using this addiction to overcome my depression bcz of my break up with the girl i love the most more than me so piously for many year ,bt she not even cared to me a little and insulted me like a useless or worthless
i am happy dieing overcoming my depression than living with my depression
finally i just want to ask one question do u really should i stop my addiction or can i ever stop my adiction as more than half of my life i am addicted to this
by the way thank you for sharing this valuable info.
” the msg that i want to give other people i.e “prevention is better than cure” it is simple but very much effective
and for god sake plz.. stop being addicted to any addiction
I started Crying while reading this. Thank you so much. Im doing this and on my own strength, but you allowed me to find that strength. Thank you.
Your website has opened my eyes to seeing what my husband goes through. I am recommeding this site to him to help curb and destroy this problem. Thank you!
been sober since october 29
keep it up guys, we can do this.
I am so excited about my rehab, but I feel that no one is as excited. I dont see many comments here. in 8 days I will have my first 30 days competed
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props my friend hope you are completely free from this
I’ve wrestled with masturbation and pornography for nearly ten years. Thanks for the time you took to prepare this website and may the good Lord of heaven reward you on that day. Remain in Him.
Thank you! Good site. I have my first 30 days and I’m going on…
Thank you and bless you.
just cut off you internet connection and stay in real life condition..
This year, I have eliminated my addiction to webcams/cybersex entirely. But porn is still there.
I’ve been able to go at least 30 days without porn and masturbation. This has allowed be to attend college, participate in school clubs, go to the gym, and make new friends (as opposed to being isolated).
I’m beginning to learn more about the subconscious mind and how it can be influenced in more positive ways. How we can teach ourselves to develop good habits and stick to them.
But there are still times where my cravings peak and I act out. Recently they’ve only lasted about 30 minutes each time and no more than twice a week. Which is much less than in the past. Episodes of acting out would sometimes last five or more hours and span as much as 6-7 days a week. It started to take control of my life and worsen my depression. It used to fill me with so much guilt/shame that I was afraid of leaving the house.
While my porn habits are no longer as severe and my life has improved tremendously. I can still benefit from continuing to learn and practice techniques like ERP mentioned on this site.
As I continue on my journey of healing and self-discovery. I encourage everyone to never give up
Thank you for giving us this awesome website!
Ish guys, ive been readin soulcity magazines, they say mastubation is a gud thng to stop hiv spread. But i ws suprsd wen it got 2 the point were i wont spent a day without it. I want 2 quit guys im tird of being a slave to porn. Bt its nt easy guy “help me”
I need help, I don’t have it in me to talk anyone about it. I’m so embarrassed and ashamed. Ive been married 6 years and yet to tell my wife. I’m really in a dark place and want to breathe again
I would highly recommend our forum as a good place to start. http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/forum/
In any case, you are doing the right thing. You have a long way to go, but at least you started walking in the right direction.
I am in day 5
it’s really a thing of joy to find people who share this addiction with me. i have tried my will power in stoping this but no good result came of it. i’m an introvert (don’t enjoying mixing with people) so i usually spend most time alone during which porn and masturbation haunts me. i’m going to try this ERP method and i do hope it pulls me out of this evil. Thanks so much Admin for this piece of work. i sense a beam of hope in it. friends, pls feel free to demand my email address from “Admin”. it’ld be of great joy to me to have someone with the same problem to share with. we can all do it. God loves us all and we’ld provide the strength we need to scale through amen
Thank you,
And as always , I encourage to join our forum http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/forum/ as a great place to connect.
Thank you so much. Much Love.
Today I just masterbated 4 time from 8 am to 1 pm. it was my off day, the whole day went to garbage! I litterly hated my life. so I googled how to stop an addiction. so your site came and I start readin, I have read the steps 3 times, watched all the videos and I even read all the sdie side notes. I think I have been in your site for three hours and spend long time writing my reason to stay sober and did the ERP at least 5 times so far. I have already started my journal and my first page is my reason to be sober. I am not sure how I am gone do, but I know the feeling. one time I didnt watch porn or masterbate for 14 days and I had this great feeling that I can not explain! I am a little nervous allready, but I am gone do this. I derserve a better life, and my familly and friends deserve a better me as well. You are an amazing perosn for creating this site and sharing your experiance with us. Thank You, I have been sober for 3 hours and I am planing to make that 3 decade
pray for me
i would like to point out that im not 18 yet but i am a raging porn addict its gotten so bad that i have to like at porn everyday and tonight i finllay decided that my addiction was way out of control when i spent 8 hours up in my room watching porn i think it all started for me when i was 13 and i had sex with my girlfriend for the first time and now all my relationships are about sex and i cant stop watching porn and this is the first time that i have told anyone about my addiction but it feels so good finlley admitted to poeple that im addicted to porn
please help me,,,, i am very much addicted to matrubuate once or twice in a day,, tell me how to control this addiction as fast u can
If there is a fast way, I don’t know it. The only way I know is a slow way and it using the techniques that I’ve outlined in this article and in the free recovery course
Thank you very much porn was chasing me when im alone in my house but now im free from it.
PORN SHOULD BE OUT. The best way to remove it out of your system is by download ing the porn blocker. This 100 percent erases any porn related item in your computer and prevents another from entering.
same things happends to me iam not addict but if idnt watch automaticaly porno image cms on my mind i cant stop masturbating..masturbating is need porn is not need idnt need porn to masturbate but when i watch porn its helps me more to masturbate.m figthing to myself to over this shit..max time i go without maturbate like 12days i was thinking abt take 6mnth rest but icant caze if i take rest like of 7days i started geting erections and sexual thaught pls help me abt this..and by over masturbating i had prostrisis but doc cured me..he said doesnt matter how much u masturbate uare body will cm back to normal since my harmone lvl is high as doc said..but prob is i want to take rest of 6mnth and i removed net tooo. without porn i can go go 3-7days without masturbation and if i have net i cant stop watching porns like for 4-5hrs:( 2-3yers ago i used to be so normal i mean 1time a day was used to make me happy now if i do whole day it wont make me happy
every time i feel guilty and angry after i get orgasam..once i cure my pychological issue it will be easy to deal with my week sexual function caze i can feel that by sexual function comin back to normal but this addiction cms in my path..
Once again, it is not possible to thank you enough for what you have put together in here … But thank you anyway <3
lets choose the right wolf
I pray to God everyday for help and guidence to stop my addiction. God heard me. God spoke to me through you.
May God BlessYou Forver and Ever,
From a changed person.
I hope you omit this part (I did however look at soft core pornography on a few occasions so this method is not perfect) from your magnificent article because this step could be one huge setback during the process
thanks
If I omit this part, I wouldn’t be telling the truth, and would be given people false hope. This method is not perfect, nor was my recovery. I did, however, make very significant progress. I had a very small slip (looked at nude photography for 5-10 seconds 4 months ago) and before that I was able to go for 9 months with also small slip, and I believe I had 6 months before that. I have not masturbated in over 2.5 years now. Given that I was not able to go for even a week less than 3 years ago, I think I’ve made a lot of progress as is, and I don’t think I need to sugar coat anything. Plus if I did, I would be lying. I am just saying it how it is, and what (and how) works for me.
Am doing really good, did walk a fine line today but I am doing quite good so far. There have been several opportunities for me to give in, with no one with me in the house and such, but I did not. It does get easier over time. I have had close calls but I am managing.
Aug 9 2011 2:29 am.
Sir, people like you gives me hope that this world is not just about evil…I was really impressed by your conclusion and the scientific way by which this article has been delivered and…
The (morning and evening prayer)gives an indication that you are a good person…may God bless you and help you with your cause sir.
thank you .
Really Great site, It is really good to know that I am not the only one with problems…. I know all of you are doing your best to change-soo good luck and turn to God in your time of troubles, he always hears you!
Great.
I feel so guilty now. I've been looking at porn 3-4 times a week and masturbating 5-6 times a week. thanks for the help
to August 8, 2011 7:39 PM im the woman of the comment you mentioned, and as you did i also gave in today.. i feel so angry with myself right now. but i need to be strong and fight again, i cant let the devil and my stupid selfish desires win this battle. and yeah boredom is a bit problem to me too, and having a laptop in my room isnt helping me either. i need to keep myself busy, gonna resume my daily reading of the bible, jehovah is the only one who can give us the strength that we need. as i said the first time, thanks for all the info, ill read everyday if i have to.
hi candy i really understand ur problem why?because i ave the same type..but the real reason am txting this to you is as believers we can make commitments and agree between ourselves to curtail this evil.i want you to join me to do these together.my numba facebook is memnon37@yahoo.com(search via email) add me so we can met.am looking forward to this.God bls
As always thanks to everybody for all your comments.
Last anonymous, I hope you were able to find a 12 step meeting. Let me know if you need any help
Hi, im the same anonymous who posted at Augest 4, 2011, 4:42 AM. I was reading the comments people had made since mine, and i noticed the anonymous from August 4 2011 6:43 PM had the name Jehovah God. I as well would very much like to keep my relationship with him strong, and i know that porn and masterbation offend him, and are sins. Porn has also made my life more stressful, because of the guilt and the paranoia of being caught. I know how much it would hurt my family, my friends, and i know that i am already hurting god. I gave in today… So i came back to this site to reread the info and read more comments. It nice to know that others can understand what i go through. I realise that instead of feeding the beast when i am having a hell week(or day or w/e)like last week was for me, i need to stay busy with other things. It does not help that i was alone on the p.c late at night…i need to stop doing that. And i should have turned it off when i was tempted and prayed for strength. Im going to try and go three weeks with no porn now. Beat my two and a half. Im gonna try to extend it every time.
That’s what you got to do Sister. Jehovah’s by your side!
He will help you cultivate Self-COntrol.
Gal. 5.22-23
I've felt 'lost' for a few years and have barely talked to anyone about it. I've been trying to self-heal and over the years I've been attaching my depression to a few different things. Lately, I've realized that the root of my problem is masturbation. I am 24 years old and I have steady job and relationship. Both have at times suffered due to my 'lack of focus', which most probably stems from me masturbating once each day. I am well aware of the consequences but I just can't change although I truly want to. Thanks for the website. This just gave me a flicker of hope. I am definitely trying these techniques.
Im crying while Im reading these comments…its good to know that Im not the only one who face with this problem. Im a girl, 18 years old, I've been facing with this porn addiction and masturbation for about 2 years, specially in the last 4 months. its just so HARD to break it, I've tried almost everything and nothing works. when I give in I feel so good, oh its great but then….when I realize what just happened I start to cry.
I read this article and Im gonna try the ERP thing and I really hope it helps me, I dont know what else to do. I want to please Jehovah god, I want to be FREE. I hope I can get rid of this otherwise I dont know what Im going to do….thanks for this article and please, post more things that can help us, we need it.
if u liv in a big cty then its worthless to do it u shuld continue
What the hell is wrong with you?!?!?!!
You have to understand how much the idea of sexual addiction challenges people. It not only challenges them personally, but challenges every facet of their society. There are a billion factors at play; from the invent of advertising geared to tap into our reptilian brain (in combination with fear-based advertising that started in the last century), so many people being told of sexual liberation (and then taking it entirely out of the intended context), using sex as crutches, wrong tools. When sex is what you know and your whole life you’ve been told it is cool, fun, something puritans and prudes hate, etc then it is very easy to scoff at the mere idea of such sexual problems existing. This makes it very easy to “troll” and a mockery of the real issues that are beginning to snowball. I firmly believe in the next 50-100 years humanity will begin to acknowledge what we have done as a real problem and not something sadly misunderstood. That, while we think we’re increasing and empowering our sexuality, we are actually diminishing it in great strides. Brush off comments like these, I believe one day they too will understand more than they do now.
I cannot say when I truly was an addict, but I can say that I started viewing porn at about the age of 14. So, if we assume that my addiction began at age 14, that means I have been addicted to porn for 13 years! After dedicating my life to serving Christ and attending a church (planing on becoming a member), I realized that porn is the thorns in my life that must go. However, I have a history of beating myself up when I mess up so I am not good at changing my behaviors. I tried going cold turkey, but I ended up getting the shakes and nightmares and eventually gave in. I decided I needed to research this more and find a good recovery plan. Most websites are good at telling you what the causes of porn addiction are, but except you to fork over major cash for their recovery plan. I just don't have the money to try plans that may be ineffective. This site was exactly what I was looking for!!!!! I been writing down all the information in note form and now have a plan of attack! I am going to be learning now about keeping a journal and also looking for a 12 step group in my area (especially if it is a 12 step SAA type meeting).
When I read you comment I teared up. I am also a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day saints. I am a priest at the moment 16 years old and planning to serve a mission. But I have this ponography problem that is reall hurting me spiritually and phiysically. I always know it’s completly wrong and I want so bad to stop. I pray daily, read my scriptures, but every now and then I slip up and see some pornography. I hate it, its the worst thing ever. But reading your comment really helped. It lets me know I’m not alone. I know we can beat this. I hope everything works out for you. Much love.
Hi, i have been struggling with a porn addiction for about 3 and a half years. The last four and a half years of my life have been hell, and i think i started using porn to help me escape from it. (And to satisfy my curiosity) Eventually i was discovered, and since my browsing habits were watched,i stopped for a while. But sadly, i was smart…and desperate. i figured out how to erase or hide my browsing habits, then we got google chrome and the incognito window. That incognito capability allowed me to continue my unhealthy habits. I am really hoping your guide and a few others will help me to break my addiction, i have tried on my own, but they most i have gone without porn was like, 2 and a half weeks. I am trying to extend it every time. I realise that my porn habits will cause be problems in the future, especially with the whole trust thing. I am also very interested in this girl, and i would never want to hurt her by viewing porn. Thank you for this site!
wish me luck guys… m starting the exercises from today….my next post will be 3 months from now…i hope i recover from this sickness…n hey..thanks
thank you for saving me i hope you are having a good life
You described my life for the last 2 years perfectly. Every time I would say "it's ok, this will be the last time", but it never was. When I tried to avoid it or tell myself no, the urging would only get stronger. Sometimes it felt like my whole life was crashing down and the only way out was to watch more porn. It shocks me that I have been falling to this sinful behavior for 2 years now, and I still haven't gotten a grip on it. I'm going to college now, and I need to get this addiction out of my life. I really hope that your program helps me, and I will keep a blog here of my weekly progress. God Bless!
Thursday, July 28th -Porn Free-
Just left the pornography addiction and now I'm into sex addiction
Dude thank you very much, i find myself struggling with this thinking the whole world is gonna fall on top of me but no a good perspective of this really helped myself & others thankyou . good things are to be earned from this.
I'll pray to god that he should bless you, your amazing, i mean that Feed the right wolf story is really cool, but i think that works with other addictions than poragraphy. thanks anyways, im gonna try this out. I'll post a new comment here if it works
D i feel really excited about this 
thanks agaiin 
Thank you so much for creating this website and all the information, tips, and guides. I think I knew from the beginning that this was not just a bad habbit or small issue that could be stopped with a little willpower. Now I recognize the addictive and obsessive-compulsive aspect of this, and how it affects the mind and body scientificly. I think that when I know why I keep making the wrong decision and how to actually fix my problem, I can combine knowledge with willpower and end the bad cycle.
And to those of you who feel like you began to look at worse than normal sexual content, know that you are not crazy, insane, evil, or anything irreversably terrible; you are just a victim of yourself, but rather than pity, you must fight to fix your problem! YOU CAN BE A BETTER PERSON NO MATTER WHAT YOU HAVE DONE! It's who you truely want to be that you really are.
Thank you for this awesome article, I'm 16 and have been addicted for 2 years now. I've tried to stop by myself using willpower but never lasted more than 2 weeks, I believe that with this information, and ERP I will be able to break the cycle.
Thanks and God bless you
Im 13 and i think ima try to change
I totally agree that it's not just a bad habit. It can actually affect your sexual health.
I am an 18 year old teen who has struggled with an addiction to pornography and masturbation since the age of 13 when I got curious about puberty and what it meant to be a man and an adult. I have been devastated because I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormon) of which I am very passionate and active about and for which I would like to serve a 2 year full time mission to spread my knowledge and testimony of Jesus Christ. I have been plagued by these addictions on the additional field of my standing with my Father in Heaven. I am really excited that I found your techniques because I've been trying to beat this on willpower and failed. ERP sounds like a great technique to add to my arsenal as well as the others you mentioned i.e. K9, Spirituality, Journaling and such. I've begun a private blog which I only know about to be able to share my thoughts while subconsciously being "accountable to an audience" that's not really there. I am very thankful for this article, site, and the videos. Thank you for helping me out with something that I'm ready to get rid of.
I'm gonna give it a shot.
Thanks so much for trying to help!
This article is very useful and helpful. I agree with the steps suggest and thank you for providing this. Ram.
Sorry, but I don't buy this.
Human sexual desire is not a "bell shaped curve"; it is a constant, never-ending need. There is nothing more central to human nature than a desire to pass on one's genes to the next generation (or as we understand it in biological terms, to experience sexual pleasure). Thus, if you are not having sex regularly, it is entirely normal to be masturbating in order to relieve sexual tension. Of course, porn is a different matter, and compulsive viewing of pornography is definitely a problem.
Thanks a lot.
I'll try to follow these …
I'm also a bad porn addicted person
I want to thank who ever wrote this for i now this thing in my life will vanish not completely but to the point i can continue with my life and practice to be a musician thanks again.
Underage People – Attention I don't believe I am qualified to give you any advice, but I do have a resource for you that will be very helpful.
I asked a good friends of mine if they had any resources for young people, and this was their reply:
"We start them here: http://yourbrainonporn.com/things-you-didnt-know-about-porn
But they are also welcome to join our forum at Reuniting: It's a tribe of folks all ages. We don't just talk about recovery, but recovery is the main focus. They will definitely find some "mom and dad" energy (without any harsh judgment). Most seem to find this comforting since they feel they can't talk to their real parents sometimes."
Please use this resource, and I wish you all of the best on your journey!
im 10 years old and im addicted.but thanks dude hopefully it works.and god bless you.
This is really helpful
unfortunatly.. I not an adult and I don't have an adult to tuurn to.. so I'm gonna have to rely on free internet help like this one
thanks you so much , i am now 20y and i've just realized that sex addiction will definitely break my latter life .I only have one life and i know that i must cherish it . God bless you !
Thank you for sharing pal, really nice erp excercise
thank you. also check http://www.yourbrainonporn.com
thank you so much
thx but what can i do if my peers influence me to do it, and i can not live in school if i ignore them or ditch them
your advice is great! I am realising that porn is a deadly monster and can take control of my life. Your techniques are amazing! God bless u!
To person with a long question about your mother. Would you mind taking this discussion over to our pornography addiction forum ?
I just feel that this format would be more helpful, and this way other people can provide their feedback as well. If you are concerned about your privacy, you can always create a different email address and use it to register.
thank you for killing porn
Thank you, I will be trying this! Porn is a deadly monster that traps you like nothing else, I want to defeat that monster.
Can I ask something I’m first time revealing this secret with you and it played a vital role in my life to feed the pornography addiction and cause a huge stress in my life. My father died when I was 2 year old and my mother didn’t get married again. In order to feed her sexual desires she choose the wrong way now she is sexually addicted. I started hating my mother and blaming her that she is responsible for what has happened with me this is the most difficult thing to accept in my life but now I can understand the brain science behind this addiction after reading brain science behind this addiction.
I want to help my mother she need my help but the problem is that she is uneducated and can’t understand these kind of stuff she doesn’t even know what is mean by this addiction then how can I bring her to Candeo or help her to cure herself from this addiction.
Please help me regarding this I love my mom and I want to help her whenever I think about it I couldn’t stop my tears.
Best Regards
13 year old. Please please listen. Do not struggle with this on your own. Be very very brave and speak to your school counselor!!! Please don't hurt yourself anymore!
we need someone with high tech knowledge that can hack into these porn sites or portals and shut them down for a couple of hours as they recently did with the mastercard site… if everyone could list the websites they watch or consider "the gates" for yourselves as you go through your porn rush, some statistics could be develop and contacting these sites directly for accountability could be an option… with enough firms a senator could be contacted about the issue and legislation to regulate this addictive industry could be pursue… just a thought, but teamwork is necessary…. last thing… please review 2 books, they have them in audio: 1. The Power of Now, and 2. Zero Limits. These 2 will help everyone… guaranteed! May all your spirits be awaken!!! and God bless you blogger!
13 years old, 7th grade. Determined to get my life back before I make lasting stains on it, but couldn't do it alone. Thank you in advance
Alex,
I am now 40 days Sober, and hopeful.
I could never have done this without the help from this website. Journaling has been life-changing for me.
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
Thank you for this blog. I have tried to quit countless times and will now attempt to quit using this particular methodology. I am probably one of the most addicted porn users here — 1-3 times a day, need very rough, degrading hardcore stuff, weird fetishes, cartoon porn, humiliation crap, you name it — I've seen it all. I've hacked into numerous pay sites, watched thousands of videos to the point where I couldn't even get hard when I tried to have sex recently. I can barely get aroused with extremely graphic content.
But I will try and slowly ween myself off the rough stuff, watch triggers (soft-core content to start) and then breath in and out. I have notecards posted on my door so whenever I go in and out, I will see my statements and ERP reminders. I have so much to lose (abilities with women, my career aspirations, everything) and cannot believe I have let it get this bad. Now whenever I see a cute girl on the street I immediately get horny and want to run home and look at porn. Hopefully ERP several times a day can help with the cravings. Hope to report back in a few weeks with some good news!
-Optimistic
To Anonymous asking about paying for professional counseling.
This question comes up a lot, and unfortunately currently our society doesn't yet officially recognizes the porn problem as a legitimate health issue. Which means your health insurance will probably not pay for your treatment.
However, there are a lot of problems that come with pornography addiction, that look legitimate in the eyes of your health provider – such problems could be depression and other similar issues.
For example, when I used to see a psychologists, I got it for free because I was also struggling with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Depression. Those two issues paid for my bill, while I also got help for my pornography addiction.
thank you for sharing these helpful method to stop porn addiction.
I have tried and tried to stop my addiction but failed, hopefully by applying these methods, I could stop feeding my addiction..
Thanks again.
Very good blog,You are helping people very rare in the world on which we live.What a good advise blog.Will use these methods to stop feeding the addiction.
Wonderful blog . Thanx a lot for your insights. I have been addicted for almost 10 years now. I did not try seriously enough earlier as i did not feel like it was an addiction. But since last 4 years i have been trying to get rid of this addiction but i have always failed. Reading your blog i feel more confident about myself that i can get rid of this addiction by following the recovery program that you have suggested with small changes according to my lifestyle. thanks again
God, thank you! i know you have spoken to me through this person. I'm 17.. and i have had this addiction for atleast 8 years. I've tried many times. and this addiction brought more and more grief into my life. i have failed everything. i pray about it every day. i cry about my relationship with God everyday. God help me. God help all of us… My addiction is soo strong! pray for me guys. pray please!
Hello. This is a great web site, and thank you for posting this valuable information. I have been an addict ever since I first got home Internet access more than 16 years ago. I'm sure the roots of my problem go much further back. I have made numerous attempts to control my addiction by myself but to no avail. Now I realize I need help and am willing to commit myself to do whatever it takes to recover.
I installed the K9 filter on both of my home computers and turned over the passwords to a trusted friend to whom I confided several years ago. I've often thought over the years that I could benefit from professional counseling, but I've never known who to call, where to go, etc. It occurred to me that perhaps my employer's Employee Assistance Program could help. Has anybody had any success with these? I looked at what my EAP has to offer, but there doesn't seem to be anything specifically related to porn addiction. The closest thing seems to be alcohol/substance abuse.
If anybody has any advice in general and specifically where to go for professional counseling, I would most welcome it.
BTW, I have your website in my bookmarks so that I can reach these info of relief faster than I would begin transforming to a different dimension. Good work and seems professional.
I had my first oral sex to a girl at twelve when I was ten. I then discovered magazines then internet porn, am now at 28. I have been trying to quit this for a while. It can be couple of months without it then I get back to it. I have healthy relationships and social interactions at this point. It is because I respect women and appreciate their companion to me. In fact, I admire my gf's support, her intelligence and unconditioned love towards our relationship for the past few years. Porn irritates me because I know it is twisted and it just not the reality. In fact it can be very harmful. My father was alcoholic. I thought I was successful at staying away from alcohol and drugs but failed in porn. I am just a few years away being a family guy, and I have no right to drag others into this. As i put it this way: I was all complete and clean once, I can be it again. (note: there is a tremendous difference in my behavior when I am out of it). I was born without this habit, I will not die with it. I accomplish good things when things are at their equilibrium state. That's how I need to spend my time in my life.
my history about pornography exactly like@rugzo and one day YES this is what i believe.
I was addicted to looking at the bra and women's underwear pages of the Montgomery Wards cataloges as a child. My addiction expanded as a teen when I saw a nude picture on the ground from a nudie magazine and I graduated to Playboy and other nude magazines. Now, with the internet, pornography is just a click away and it has hindered my life and my walk with the Lord! I want to be clean and I am willing to try this program for myself and my future wife. Thank you for this info and I will post back here when I am free of this addiction. AS A 47 YEAR, PORNOGRAPHY IS A DRUG THAT WILL NOT CONQUER ME ANYMORE!! Thank you once again!
I am 87 years old and have been fighting with this for 58 years. I have tried this method for two years and it is great!
Thanks ..
It helps to know that one can get rid of this vice at no cost at all. I have been struggling with this addiction for almost 7 years now and just reading this article gives me hope that my dark days are drawing to an end. May God in his infinite mercy bless you.
great
Thank-you the benefit I'm getting from you outwirghs any gift I've ever received thank-you so much and God bless you
I too have been struggling with porn addiction and I wouldn’t have realized the negative effect it was having on my life if it wasn’t for the trouble I have been getting into lately. Thanks a million and God bless you; you have provided me with method to set my life straight.
Thank You so Much I thought that I was crazy for thinking the way I did. You have Really Helped Me God Bless You
wow. for a long time addict and counselor, i was really stuck in between my own problems and helping others. i felt i was a bad influence and hypocrite for thinking how can i help everyone but myself. i feel better from this article above and believe it will help me and others to get on the right path. thanks to the author and stay clean!your mind body and spirit will thank you.
It helps to know and I am trying it to and I am 12 and in 7th grade but this will help a lot and reading the coments let me knot I am not alone
Great article, I think masturbation is the driving force with porn as the fuel for this?
Thanks for the wonderful article , helped a lot ,God Bless you
God Bless you
nice work may God bless you
Thank you so very much for this informatiomn. I finally realized what porn addiction is doing to me and how is affecting my life and this is a real help. I appreciate it.
God bless you!!
I want to thank you for the videos and these tips that you have offered. I get tired of having to try to pay for alot of anti-porn programs to help me combat it. It will be a nice change of pace to try something without the fear of wasting money. I do believe that these techniques and ideas you have posted will be a good idea for Christians and many others to try. God Bless!
Thank you to everybody for your wonderful comments! I am really happy this information is helpful!
Really great information, this site needs more visitors. Thank you and God bless you
I have been addicted to porn for at least two years now and i really hope that this can help me overcome my addiction No one is going to pay you for doing this but you did it anyways, and God will bless you for that
Thank you! I started looking at porn 6 years ago in 8th grade… I am now determined to get rid of this addiction. I don't want it to get in the way of having a happy marriage in the future.
ive been struggling with porn for two years. the longest time ive gone without it is only 5 weeks because of a vacation. im possitive this will help me and GOD BLESS YOU!
THANK YOU SO MUCH! I'm running out the door, but in case I don't find myself back here to give you more of my thoughts, at least know that your efforts are very much appreciated and I learned a lot!
nice to see something without the religious bullshit here. well done.
Thanks alot for the vids,just wht an addict needed,Ive soughted help from many other sites and urs is the best iv ever came across. Im 17 years of age and ive been in a relationship which has been going on for 4 whole years.Weve even discussed on living a platonic,pure,sexless life in the future,so our love wud last forever,until end of time.before i got into it i had been viewing porn,but ive had put a halt for it for about 2 years since then but now im back into it,serious than before.now i masturbate 1-2 times a day,i try to do it in a healthy way like concentrating about other things but it keeps asking for porn..the type of it is anime,cartoon,and 3d games and stuff,because i believe that viewing a real person wud be betraying her in my heart.Im happy about myself in a way for having the ability to turn away from real pornography which includes real people .well thts the thing with me..i reason too much with myself,and all the determination to stop it falls to this single thought and etc of that sort. SO PLESE HELP ME OUT HERE..SHE TRUSTS ME,I WANNA HAVE THE FUTURE IVE ALWAYS DREAMED OF HAVING….god bless you,for not taking that selfish act of selling out vids like most others do n being open to all of us wanting to walk away.I owe you with my life
Thank You So Much!! I'm only 15 and when i read this it helped a lot. Thank you for posting this info and God Bless You.
I am out of ideas on what to try outside of admitting it to someone else and facing the consequences of confessing it to them. I am starting this program tonight in hopes that it will be the thing that finally kicks the habit. The videos were amazing. They described me perfectly. I hope this works because I am tired of constantly having to feed the wolf and feeling like I am weaker than a stupid image or video. I want to be free of these chains that have bound me for 15 years and I think this might do it. Thank you for posting this information.
story of my life
I searched the internet for these steps and found your site. Thanks for sharing.
This is exactly what I need, thank you so much!
I'm a teenager and have been masturbating for three years. I never realized how much it would effect me when I started. Nobody ever talked about it. But it has ruined my life. Thank God for people like you.
Ashish, my site and videos are for adults only. I certainly am not qualified to provide any advice to underage people. Please turn to an adult in your life that you can trust, and ask them for advice!
i'm 14 and i have been masturbating from two years. It's always after masturbation that i feel guilty of myself and search for the real path- the path of truth and fearlessness. I hope this video will diminish my lone evil of pornography addiction and project me towards a better life… i don't have words for u, but i believe that GOD will certainly bless u.
I cant believe that i even tried pornography. I started one night when i was alone doing home work. everyone was in bed and i stayed up late trying to do homework. And my computer was right there then i did it. I told myself i would neaver do it again then i did. I stoped for a while then i got a tablet Wich it just feed the wrong wolf. I have been trying to clean off all of the crap that came with it but i still pullup the web and there it is. Please pray for me it is relly corrupting my relationship with GOD.
I'm really appreciate of you! may God bless you and your family!
i wish i could give u something but im only13 thanku god bless u
Thank you for all you help. May The Good Lord Bless you
Wow…I really like the story of the Cherokee. Thanks for sharing pal!
Thanks a Lot Jonathan,
I recommend signing up for my Free Recovery Course, it is packed full with information, and I think you will find it very helpful.
my name is Jonathan from Ghana, Thank you very much. Initially i thought may be you know me even when you have not seen me because all the introduction was true about me so i really took it very serious. once again i say God bless you and thank you.
Hi Jonathan, my name is Hussein and I am just like you. I have signed up for the Free Recovery course from Feedtherightwolf.
The reason i’m replying to your post is that it is vital that people who face this problem connect & help each other out. It is highly impossible to quit all by your self.
I am willing to share my problem with you if only you would give your hand so that we work together in getting our lives back from this prison.
I hope you would think about this very well. To have someone who is willing to share EVERYTHING without secrets.
I look forward to hearing from you. Here are my contact details.
Note from Admin
To protect Hussein’s identity his personal contact information was removed. Please email me if you would like to get his contact information.
All our readers, encourage you to use our forum as means of private communication.
I think Hussein has hit the nail right on the head. There is an urgent need for people trying to recover from this problem to connect. It will sure help working as a group and not as individuals. Admin, please forward Husseins mail to me or mine to him. Thank you and best of luck to all trying to recover.
I am also in Ghana.
Hi Kweku,
I agree 100% that not only there is an urgent need for people in recovery from porn addiction to connect with one another, but that it is one of the best tools (if not the best toll) that we have in our recovery.
The only reason that I removed Hussein’s private information is to protect his identity and guard it from spammers. I believe our porn addiction forum provides a much safer environment for mutual support and communication. On there members can send private messages or talk as a group.
For a live phone calls I recommend phone or skype meetings from Sex Addicts Anonymous. I was considering starting our own meetings for a while, but just don’t see the need to re-invent the wheel since SAA allready have over 5 phone meetings every day and a very large and supportive community.
In any case, I’ve contacted Hussein for you and gave him your information. I’ll let you know if he will reply back to me.
Thanks,
Alex
Indeed those are such strong points and statements. Just right to the spot. Splendidly discussed and empowered pieces of advice. Calling someone for a distraction can also be a very effective approach towards overcoming such addiction.
what a great videos.
I definitely recommend this video to my friends. It's really helpful with those people who wants to stop their addictiveness in pornography.
Very wonderful video to stop pornography addiction. I think this will help lots of people those who all are addicted to it.
DO NOT CALL THIS PERSON. This is a random number on the internet, and it can lead to all kinds of danger. His stated intentions are good, but they may not match his real intentions. DO NOT CALL THIS PERSON.
Thank you Mark. I’ve removed the phone number.
Alex