How to Stop Porn Addiction – One Powerful Technique to Help You Stop Watching Porn

Do you want to know how to stop porn addiction? The answer is simple but not easy.

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That being said, lets get back to the article below. It is organized in 8 major parts. In parts 1-3 I share my understanding of the porn craving. In part 4 I share a powerful technique that allowed me to stop porn addiction, at least for the first 30 days. And in parts 5-8 I list some other tips for long term recovery.

A few words about me – founder of this site. My name is Alex and I am a recovering porn addict. I have been in recovery since early 2008, and while my recovery is not perfect, I was able to abstain from watching pornography for over 99% of my time. Additionally, although I do not recommend this for single people, I have not masturbated since January 2009, CHOOSING my wife as the only source for my sexual  experience.

What I am about to share with you does work.  Below is a quote, from one of our readers. You can read more reviews here, if you want.

I never though that porn addiction is real, but after reading the info on this site I now truly understand it. This site is beyond awesome and amazing… it really explains what and why I am going through right now.
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I am not here to tell you what you should  or shouldn’t do with your life. But I think that techniques that I used to stop porn addiction, could be used to make lasting change in all areas of our lives.

1. Pornography Is Not Just a Bad Habit!

A first major component in my own recovery was an understanding that pornography viewing was not just a bad habit. It was an obsessive compulsive cycle (see Figure 1 below) from which I was not able to break free. It usually started with an unwanted sexual thought that I would try to avoid for as long as I could.

Figure 1. Obsessive Compulsive Cycle of Pornography Addiction

Unfortunately, trying NOT to think about something never really worked for me, and eventually I would get to a point where thoughts would get so intense that I couldn’t handle the pressure any longer. Then I would go back to the only way that I knew to make sexual thoughts temporarily go away – watching pornography and masturbating.

After sexual acting out I would slowly come back to my senses and realize what have happened. I would feel guilt for being so weak and giving in and I would swear to never do it again!

Unfortunately over time I would find sexual thoughts coming back, and since I didn’t know how to handle them in a healthy way, the whole cycle would repeat itself.

Clearly fighting my sexual desires only made them come back stronger and faster, and I began to rely more on pornography and masturbation to help me get a temporary relieve.

Eventually this cycle got completely out of control to the point where I would have to spending most of my day watching porn. My brain got so used to regular imagery that I would have to seek out really hard core pornography in order to temporary satisfy my desires, and allow me to return to my normal state.

In other words, I found that the more I fed my porn addiction, the stronger it got.

2. No Craving Can Last Forever!

The second component that I learn was an understanding that any human feeling, including cravings, cannot last forever. In actuality any physiological impulse is shaped like a bell curve (see figure 2 below).

At first cravings starts out slow but grow exponentially until they get really intense. Somewhere along this path most of addicts would end up giving in. As the result they get used to an idea that they could never get past their cravings and that their cravings will eventually get so strong, that they will have no choice but to give in.

Figure 2. Craving Curve

In actuality human beings cannot sustain any emotion or feelings indefinitely, and eventually any feeling or craving will decrease.

So the trick to stopping porn addiction is to learn to ride out cravings; to master a skill to stay away long enough for cravings to go away. This of course sounds simple, but as many addicts know it is not as easy to do.

Below I am going to share a technique with you that have helped me do just that. But first let me show you a few simple physiological signals that can be used to measure how strong our craving really is.

3. Physiological Signs of a Strong Craving

It is important to know certain physiological changes that begin to take place in human body when they experience strong desire to watch porn and/or masturbate compressively. Such changes include:

  •     Rapid Pulse
  •     Increased blood pressure
  •     Dilated Eyeballs
  •     Shallow Breath

It is important to know these symptoms because this knowledge can provide us with information needed to help us on our way to recovery from porn addiction. Let me explain.

We can learn our pulse rate during normal state and then use this information to recognize if our pulse is getting too high. Therefore pulse can serve as an easy to measure indicator that we are about to get out of control. At the same time we can use pulse measurement to let us know that we are exiting the danger zone and that the physical craving begins to decrease.

Another very important component that is easy to observe is our breath. Breath is the only subconscious bodily function that we can consciously control. Think about it! You cannot control your blood pressure, you cannot control you pulse, but you can control your breath. You can take slow, deep, controlled breaths, and through that you can have a direct effect on your subconscious mind. This is a very powerful key to stopping porn addiction!

4. Killing the Craving

So let’s move right into action. The technique that I used to help me overcome the craving is called Exposure and Response Prevention or ERP and is generally used for Obsessive Compulsive disorder and other psychological problems. It’s been around for a very long time, tons of people use it, and it is very effective. I’ve originally learned this technique from a book called “Kill the Craving” which uses ERP to help people with alcohol and drug addictions, and I slightly modified the approach to help me overcome porn addiction.

The key idea of this technique is to systematicallyexpose yourself to situations that would usually cause you to feel a strong craving and practice responding to this craving in a healthy way.  This practice allows our subconscious mind to learn a healthy response mechanism by the time we are faced with a real craving.

Over time you will learn that cravings do not rule your life, and that there is a way for you to ride out a craving and return to your normal self without having to act out. And the high that you get from feeling proud of yourself will be much stronger than any high that you could possibly get from porn addiction.

ERP works in the following way. You first identify a trigger, and as soon as you feel the physiological response from your body, you measure your pulse rate, which you would likely find to be a bit higher than your normal pulse. After that you immediately shift into a controlled breathing exercise to calm your subconscious mind. Next you review your personal motivation statements, to remind yourself of all the positive things that you can bring into your life if you were not to act out. Then you measure your pulse again, and note the difference. Last but not least, you follow up with an act of self care. Let’s look at those steps a little more closely.

Step 1 – Identify or imagine the triggering situation.

While ERP is very effective with helping you overcome a real trigger, it will not be as helpful unless you have already practiced it continuously before facing the real danger. Therefore I recommend a commitment of at least 30 days with complete ERP practice being done the first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

A quick note on sources of trigger is due here. The book that I’ve mentioned earlier “Kill the Craving” recommended alcohol and drug addicts to look at photographs of their addictive substances in order to generate an addictive response. This approach, however, did not seem practical for porn addiction, because looking at addictive images was precisely what I was trying to avoid.

I solved this conflict by creating a strong mental image of myself in a triggering situation instead of looking at actual photography. For example I would imagine myself being alone with computer, or passing by a magazine stand at the store.

Our brain is not able to tell the difference between a vivid mental image and a real life situation, and will produce a similar physiological response. That way Exposure and Response Prevention techniques can be practiced in a safe environment, without having to expose yourself to the real danger.

If at any time during the day you begging to feel a strong craving and a desire to act out, follow up with an extra ERP exercise. Personally, at first I found myself doing 3-5 ERP exercises per day, but soon was able to get through most of my days with only 1 or 2 exercises.

Step 2 – Measure your pulse rate as soon as you observe your body begin to change.

It is easier to measure your pulse for 15 seconds and multiply it times four. Follow this link to download a quick reference chart that will help you to quickly convert your pulse rate and keep the record of your progress.

It is likely that measuring your pulse rate may feel like a burden at first, but after a few days of ERP practice you will get used to it and it will become very easy.

Also, after 5 to 10 days of regular ERP practice you may notice that your pulse rate will not change as much as it did at first from you merely imagining a triggering situation. Please do not use this as an excuse to go look for more triggering stuff. After all it is the sole purpose of ERP practice to train your body not to react addictively to triggers. Therefore, take the decrease pulse rate as a sign of progress, and continue your practice for at least 30 days to allow new habit to form. (It takes about 30 days of repeating a certain task for human beings to form a habit)

Step 3 – Perform Controlled Breathing Exercise.

After you record your pulse rate, follow up with a controlled breathing exercise. Simply, breathe in for 10 seconds, hold your breath for 10 seconds, and breathe out for 10 second. Repeat it 10 times.

I use my fingers that I keep resting on my knees to keep the count of my breaths, tapping each finger for one of ten counts. That way I can free up my mind from counting and concentrate on breathing.

Remember that our breathing is the only subconscious function that we can control through our conscious effort. Do not overlook this step.

Step 4 – Review Personal Motivational Statements.

Next you review your personal statements. You will have to do a little homework on this. Just sit down and write down all of the reasons why you want to get sober. Why do you want to stop watching porn? What positive changes would it bring into your life? What negative consequences will you be able to avoid?

Answers to these questions must be able to touch the bottom of your soul. When I read mine I can literally feel the Goosebumps! That is how badly you need to want to stop this addiction and get the good things in your life. If you are not going to feel the Goosebumps and if it is not going to touch your soul, it is just not going to be strong enough to make you choose life instead of porn when you will be faced with real temptation.

Some of the statements that I used were: My dreams of having a wife and a child will come true if I walk away. I will be stronger and more in control if I walk away. I will regain my self-respect and dignity if I walk away. My family will be proud of me if I walk away. I will be able to look into people’s eyes, and feel proud of myself if I walk away. You can download 30 sample stamens here.

I had each of my reasons written on 3 by 5 cards, which I would read out loud to myself during each ERP practice. Cards allowed me to be doing (i.e. moving the cards), reading and hearing the message at the same time. Human beings learn the best by combination of action, seeing and hearing. (We learn even better by teaching something that we already know to somebody else. So when you get a handle on ERP practice yourself, try to teach it to another addict).

Step 5 – Re-measure your pulse rate.

When you first begin your ERP practice, you might notice that your pulse rates remain the same between steps 2 and 5. Sometimes you may even find it going up a little. It is normal. Over time you will learn to decrease your pulse rate, and you will be able to bring yourself back to your normal state. Ideally you should be able to decrease your pulse rate from its highest point by about 4 to 8 bits per minute.

Additionally, as I mentioned earlier, overtime you will notice that your pulse rate in step 2 will not be getting as high as it did at first in reaction to the triggers. This will be a sign of your progress.

Step 6 – Follow up with an act of self care.

This is also a very important step. You have to do something good for yourself. Preferable you need to get out of the house.

For my first 30 days I would go out and jog after my morning practice. And if I felt the craving again during the day, I would do another ERP exercise and follow up with a different act of self care, like cooking a healthy meal, journaling, or taking a nap. After my evening practice my act of self care was simply to go to bed early. You can view a list of 67 healthy things to do for fun.

5. One Technique is Not Enough!

I want to share one short story with you that helped me to put everything together and stop watching porn for good. Exposure and Response Prevention technique is great, but I think it would not have gotten the job done if it was used alone. Anyway, here is the story:

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all.

“One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

“The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

So I thought what can I do to feed the right wolf? The answer was not as obvious as it might seem.

Over time I came to a conclusion that if I took a good care of myself, my good wolf will be stronger, and my bad wolf will be weaker. Therefore in addition to the daily practice of Exposure and Response Prevention, I committed to the following rules:

  • 8 hours of sleep a day
  • Eating Healthy (3 meals, and 2 snacks a day)
  • Drink plenty of water (at least 8 glasses a day)
  • Journaling about my triggers
  • Meditating
  • Morning and Evening Prayer
  • Avoiding Dangerous Situations (think acronym HALT)
    • Hungry
    • Angry
    • Lonely
    • Tired

6. Warning!

Soon after you’ll stop porn addiction, you will become able to get in touch with your true feelings. While this might sound like a good thing, you could find those true feelings to be unpleasant.

Chances are you’ve used your addiction for a very long time to escape discomforts of life, and when you take away this crutch, you might feel the full weight of your past mistakes.

Just realize that this pain is a temporary. Use this pain as a guide to identify what areas of your life need improvements, so you can face them and get the life that you truly deserve.

7. Other Resources to Consider

I used everything that I’ve outlined so far to help me get my first ever 90 days of sobriety from porn and masturbation. In the matter of fact I have not masturbated yet since I did my first 30 days of ERP practice. I did however look at soft core pornography on a few occasions so this method is not perfect. Actually, I have yet to find a perfect method, and when I will I’ll make sure to let you know. But for now I wanted to share a few other resources that I found helpful.

12 step groups

There is a lot of criticism out there in regards to 12 step groups, but I’ll recommend you doing what my sponsor told me to do, “Take what works for you, and leave the rest behind”. The best thing about the 12 step groups is that the infrastructure is already in place.

If you live near a major city, chances are you will have multiple meetings in your area. If you live in a remote location, you can always attend a phone meeting. It is there, it is available, and you can meet people who have similar problems and are looking for similar solutions. And best of all, it will only cost you a 2 dollar donation per meeting. You can view a full list of 12 step meetings here.

I’ve been attending Sex Addicts Anonymous for almost 2 years now (I started right after I lost my first 90 days of sobriety), and it has been a tremendous tool in my own recovery.

Professional Coaching

Professional counseling and coaching is a great tool, but you need to be careful, and pick a person experienced with porn addiction. That is why we are so happy to announce that we have our own coaching team specializing in helping people in recovery, their spouses, and couple’s together to survive and thrive from this addiction.

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Additionally we have a Free Recovery Course posted on this site, which provides a lot more of other helpful information.

I am sure there are other good programs available, so make sure to find what works for you.

Accountability Software

Knowing that there is no way to hide my internet history made it much easier for me to make good decision when browsing the internet.

I recommend Covenant Eyes that costs $10 a month. This software does not filter any of the internet content, but it keeps a detailed report of all your internet activity and emails it to your accountability partner.

A free option that I also use is K9 web filter. This filter can block access to certain sites and keep track of all of the internet history. Just make sure that somebody else is in charge of the password.

No software is perfect and there is always a way around it, nevertheless I found those tools to be extremely helpful.

Educate Yourself

Read as much as you can on how to stop porn addiction. This is what I did and continue to do. It will not only help you to stop watching porn, but it will help you with the rest of your life.

Start Your Own Recovery Blog

Seriously! Starting this site was one of the best things that I did for my recovery. It forced me to really internalize everything that I’ve read, put it through my own conscience, and explain it to others. Best way to learn something, is to teach it to somebody else.  On top of that not only do you get to help yourself, but you get to help others too and make the world a better place.

You could try to do it through one of the free sites like blogger or tumbler, but I would highly advise against it. I started this blog on blogger, and a year into it, when it began to get more popular, I had to migrate to my own hosting and it was a nightmare! If I could go back, I would most definitely get my own domain and hosting from start.

I recommend Blue Host as a way to get started, because it is very well respected, very affordable, super easy to use, and it has excellent customer support.

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Spiritual Life

Get involved with your spiritual life, and make sure you make room for it.

Journaling

Journaling was one of the most beneficial tools for me. There is something magical about getting your thoughts on paper.

Remember, progress and not perfection!

Don’t try to do it perfectly and don’t try to be perfect. You will make mistakes, we all do. As long as you keep working at it, you will get better. It took you many years to get this far into your addiction, don’t expect to fix it all in 30 days. It will take you some time. Be patient with yourself, keep going, and your life will continue to improve.

If you stumble don’t beat yourself up.

Just learn from your mistakes, and over time you will become a new person. If you keep working at it, there is no other way; you will become a new person!

8. Thank You!

Thank you for carrying, thank you for trying to change yourself, and thank you for continuing to look for solutions. By making changes in yourself you are making this world a much better place!

If you know someone who is looking for ways to stop porn addiction, please share this message with them!

And remember to feed the right wolf :)

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Comments

  1. Anonymous says

    I Have been addicted to watching it for a few years now . I have been trying to stop my self. I am a 22 years old girl and i have a really great boyfriend and family .I usually succumb to it when I am sitting alone in my room and i get bored . I feel so ashamed and disgusted with myself , because i know i am more then this , i am better then this . So i will do this for myself. Shall feed the right wolf from now on . Thank u so much .

  2. santana says

    Many thanks. Finaly I fondd a window to stop my my 30 years adiction. I will let you know my progress for sure. the best

  3. Josh says

    This is just what I needed. I’m only 15 and I have been struggling with this for more than 2 years now. My addiction is unfortunately a once a day thing. Everyday its the same routine. I end up doing the same two things I’m never proud of which is pornography and masturbation. I have never lost any faith in my spiritual life. I know God will help me; the problem is that I go through this everyday. The guilt is too much for me to bare. I make sure that I look to God for a way out. But sometimes just because I fail doesn’t mean he’s not helping me. I need all the prayers from people struggling with the same problem as me. I pray for all those who are in need so please pray for me too. I thank you for making something like this. This is my start for my road to recovery.

    • says

      thanks for sharing ur story, i hope i will get education, knowledge, and enough courage to stop viewing porn, for good, thanks for every one helping other to over come this adiction

    • Anonymous says

      I feel you bro its so hard and then I feel so ashamed that I can’t even turn to God
      I need prayer too and ill pray for you

      • Kuro says

        Hey there. I’m most likely never coming back to this page again. But i just wanna say that God is always there for you and He will never stop forgiving you for your sins. However we must never take this for granted. I will pray for u man. ALl the best. I know you can make a change in your life.

    • anon says

      maybe god is trying to make you realize something, I’ve realized it, but you must look for it on your own, its the only way, but once you have realized it life will be much more easier

  4. Anonymous man says

    So I am 22 and a virgin. I have never masterbated till 2 years ago. I have watched porn throughout my teenage life and ever since i started masterbating it has given me temporary stress relief and no more wet dreams. I jsut want to ge over this addiction becuase I find myself masterbating 2-4 times a day. First of all I want to know if thats normal on a daily basis for 2 years? And second of all I tried to refrain myself for a week and then I gave in. I am going to try your techniques starting now and I will let you know how it goes.

    • says

      Hi,

      I am not a doctor, and I don’t know what or how much is healthy. I believe that each person should experiment to find what works for them. Based on my experience I would say that probably masturbating 1-2 times a week is healthy for a single guy. I would advise against all sorts of visual stimulation though, because in my experience that is where most of the damage comes from. That being said, like you have experienced before it is possible not to masturbate all together. I would encourage you to find what works for you.
      Alex

  5. Misfit says

    My problem is that my prolonged battle with porn addiction has left me so ashamed and full of self loathing that I have all but lost the ability to talk to prople. I just can’t look them in the eye knowing the kind of man I’ve become. This has left me feeling very distant and alienated, to the point that I don’t even talk to my family anymore. Suffice it to say that the lonliness that acrues helps only to feed the desire for release. I would have a very hard time getting close enough to anyone(even my family)to be in a position of trust and accountability. It seems like this battle will inevitably have to be fought on my own.

  6. Dougy says

    Well, I’m clearly not alone out here. I too feel like this is an unstoppable horror bent on destroying my life. I’ve never been addicted to anything but this, and if I could just overpower this one beast… my life would be so much better. I’m going to try these tips, and I’m going to try even more! I’m going to start to take an active approach to fighting this demon, instead of always resorting to my belly up posture. I WANT TO BEAT THIS THING!!!
    Thanks for all the advice.

  7. ABDULLAH says

    I WANT TO DIE DUE TO THIS ADDINTION ,I BROKE THE FAIYH OF MY PARENTS .BUT THERE A HOPE .I WILL TRY MY BEST

    • says

      my dear brother, u dont need to die, u willbe over come this adiction, soon, very soon, inshallah, just keep working on it, remember thisnis same as that story, 2 wolf strugling with in our self, and one going to win who ever we feed, ha ha ha so instead of dying, work on ur habit, try to starve that bad wolf, as a muslim, to think die, there is no sorry for that sin, porn adiction isa sin, but u can fix ur self, to thinl about killing ur self, is great sin,, there is no cure if u kill ur self, be alive, work on ur habit, as Allah for forgiveness, hope and inshallah he will for give u, and erase ur bad deed, then do more good deed, teach other to how to over come this adiction, let them live clean life, and pay back in order to teach other for free how to o ver come, killikg is not a losution, satan is always their to take us from right path, get back on corrrect path teach other, ask Allah for repetence, and never do that sin again, or atleast pray that God please give me strength , so i never go close to porn thing, u will be on ur path of success, u dont need to tell million of people that i am porn addict, just tell ur God please help me, for give me, we make our own path either towards hell or paradise, so choose the one go to paradise,

  8. Rach says

    I have the same problem. And picture 1 on thi page is EXACTLY what I feel. Once I read some of the posts I found out I’m not alone. I allwayse thought I was alone and I was the ONLY ONE. but god was nudgeing me and telling me I wasn’t. I could feel him in me.
    Lately I’ve been REALLY into church and prying. Every time we pray in church I pray to god that I’m no perfect and I really need his help. I can tell he’s trying to help m trough this but I keep letting him down. I’m only 13 and I feel terrible. I havnt told anyone at all, not even my friends. I’m scared to tell my sister! I need help. More help. I’m trying my hardest and I really REALLY want to stop!
    I’m a reader. I try to read when I get “the” feeling. But it never works. And my sister has said lately that my eyes have been dialated. I didn’t even know this is why. But now I do. I learned so much from reading this. But I still need support or my wobbly structure is going to fall agian. And once agian I’d have sined.
    Please help me!

    • Anonymous says

      You are just like me! Only I’m 12. Everytime I watch it I’m like ” what have I done?! ” and I’m always afraid I won’t have gods forgiveness! It’s just terrible…

      • Anonymous says

        I felt the same way, and still do … No-one knows, no-one, about my addiction. It came last year, when I was 13, but I kept asking myself “is this normal in male puberty?” I’m glad that I’m not alone emotionally, and that there is a path to freedom.

    • Help... says

      I know exactly how you feel. But after reading this article, I felt God’s presence more than ever. He LOVES us and is willing to forgive us. We have this wonderful God and I especially have been neglecting his love. WE CAN GET THRU THIS TOGETHER <3

    • Anonymous says

      i would highly suggest an accountability group with others it helps you stay clean. Prayer and scripture is deffinitly helpful too!

  9. Brant says

    I am 32 years old, and have been addicted to porn ever since I got my first real taste of it. Over 16 years. I have gone to ridiculous extremes to acquire pornography, have spent thousands of dollars on it, destroyed three computers with viruses contracted through unsafe websites, and have slowly watched the dosage of my “fix” increase in intensity as time goes by. I have overcome tobacco and alcohol addictions. Now it is time I break these shackles too. I am hoping that the advice on this page will help me to do that.

    • Alex says

      Sometimes what has worked for me does not work for others. I would encourage you to seek additional advice on our forum, and try attending a 12 step program such as Sex Addicts Anonymous.

  10. Mark says

    I am 14 years old and I can’t stop watching porn. I started when I was 12 and can’t get over the guilt and the sexuality. I feel like I want to have sex with anyone attractive. The only up side is that I don’t masturbate

    • Kate says

      You will progress if you don’t break the chain now. and it gets harder the more you do it. I was 8 when I first crossed porn. I stopped and picked it up again recently.

  11. Julian says

    I am only 13 note I don’t like what i’ve heard about it.please I need helpand and every since i found out i could i would masturbate. My older brother and friends at solder friends showed me my first porn wheni was a little kid. I am in foster care and Mt foster parents are ready good Christians i know this because the holy spirit always tells what i am thinking whenever i get aroused he always seems top know and he starts top tell me about God and why i shtheouldn’t sin and the kind of trials and tribulations the enemy will put on me and i’m tired of giving in to the satan and his tricks. In my time here i have been effecting his whole family with my problems. I don’t want to go to hell. So please help me the only reason i found this website was because i was about too masturbate i’m at least trying i neednsn extra push.

  12. Tyler says

    Hey everybody I’ve been addicted for 2 years now and this website has opened a new door for me please pray for me, god bless all of you

  13. Anonymous says

    almost 3 months without giving in, but this week i broke the cycle and watched porn. i don’t blame the media, i blame my self for being weak and stupid. I know now i can overcome this and so the battle continues.

    • ShadowInTheWind says

      Don’t blame yourself. You’d be weak if you would stay at the place where you fell without moving on. Taking another step on your journey needs courage and you showed that you have one.

  14. Nate says

    I’m a 16 year old and I’m very addicted ve been trying to stop the last few with little or no success. Any tips to stop? Please I need help soon!

    • Anonymous says

      Ya the breathing exsersise helps me about 90% of the time but the other times I have trouble and give in aboutonce a week is there any more teqniques I can get tht u find useful .

  15. Kate says

    I’m also a girl addicted to porn, and there’s a lot more girls out there addicted to masturbation. It’s really hard to face that. “That’s a guy problem” I would say. “girls don’t have these issues.” But they do. It was a way for me to deal with my terrible at home life, and my extreme loneliness. I typically don’t have an issue when I’m in a relationship, but I still use those chemicals to relieve stress, even if it’s just making out. I don’t want to end up using those moments of intimacy to relieve stress… and I never want to be so vulnerable that it’s hard to say no when I don’t want something… I hate not having control over my own emotions… I spent too many years of my life being controlled, by this and other issues. I need help but I have no insurance for psychological help… and I don’t feel crazy. I just need to know what to do and I need to do it. :( It’s nice being told that just wanting it bad isn’t enough… I can’t tell you how often I’ve been told it should be.

        • Anonymous says

          Actually, you would be surprised at how many self-help and group help programs that Mormon church offers, even to non-members.

          • Anonymous says

            the only thing that will help is the true jesus christ and a personal relationship with God mormonism is sadly herecy and adding on to Gods already perfect plan

          • Kate says

            WOAHHo. hold up. I have felt forces darker than you can imagine move against me from an early age… I have felt something getting in the way of my relationship with god… trying to scare me away… This being said, life sucks… Do we really need to make it worse? Will you condemn me also? Is that in your right?Because I’m pretty sure that IS NOT your right. You did not die for my sins, nor did I for yours. We are both debtors before the savior… and we must both do our best, whether my best is comparative to yours is not why I posted… I came for advice… not judgement and attack on anyone’s beliefs.

          • ShadowInTheWind says

            Wait… Mormonism isn’t good, but that’s different topic for different site. Kate, no one (I hope) wants to condemn you. But I agree that spirituality can be very helpful in your struggle.

    • Jose says

      I hear ya when you say that it should be easy but it isn’t. Logic doesn’t seem to be a real consideration in the face of any addiction. I also understand about what you are saying about using real physical relationships as an alternative to porn. That is defiantly not right or fair to anyone. I ended up taking an active stance against getting into any sort of relationship of the “romantic” type just for the sake of avoiding unnecessary temptation and additional stress that seemed to be inherent. I’ll pray that you find your way and that God will bless you through it! =)

    • Al says

      It’s true, wanting it to go away isn’t enough but may be the first step.. I believe it says something good about the person. You have the desire now search for the reasons.. This can be done by thinking deeply on just “why” you want to stop, in order for it to work it has to touch your soul and really move you.. It can become a motivational statement.. Still working on mine..

      bestwishes

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