How Long Does It Take To Recover From Porn Addiction?


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One question people are commonly asking is “How long does it take to overcome porn addiction?”

There are really two stages to the process.

First stage is breaking out of the obsessive-compulsive cycle and that stage takes anywhere from 30 to 90 days. And the reason for it is because it takes about 30 to 90 days for a person to form a habit or to learn a new behavior and make it a habit.

Second stage of overcoming pornography addiction is relapse prevention, and this stage is an ongoing process throughout the rest of the person’s life.

So while it only takes 30 to 90 days to stop compulsively watching pornography, it takes a lifelong effort and maintenance to prevent yourself from going back into your addiction.

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P.S. Recommended Resources:

  • Sex Addicts Anonymous
    I cannot imagine my recovery without this program.
  • Mindful Habit Course by Coach Craig
    Great advice from a great person.
  • Free Podcast and Mini Course from Candeo Can
    I owe my first 90 days of continuous sobriety to this program and highly recommend it.
  • Internet Accountability Software
    Using this software allowed me to get truly honest with my internet usage for the first time in my life. For some reason knowing that my every step was being observed and reported on, made it really easy to use internet only in a healthy way.
  • Treating Pornography Addiction by Kevin B. Skinner Ph.D.
    I have read over 15 books on Pornography and Sexual addiction and this truly is one of the best books on the subject. The reason is I recommend this particular book is because it is full of excellent actionable steps. Other books do a good job describing the problem, but don’t really offer a realistic solution.
  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse – How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens Ph.D.
    I know that about half of visitors to our site are spouses of people who might be suffering with pornography and sex addiction. To the best of my knowledge this book is one of the most helpful books for the partners.
  • Free Consultation from Coach Craig
    Coach Craig has been a good friend and supporter of this site since January 2013. He has worked with people from all over the world, including famous musicians and other high profile individuals. Yet, he is only a phone call away and would be glad to give you a free consultation. Call him anytime, with any question you might have, and I am know he will be extremely happy to help in any way he can.

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  1. Dawn Atargatis says

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  2. no nmes says

    Hi iam two days into quitting porn and tbh it is killing me atm but i know in the long run i will get better people just remember talk too someone it is not a uncommon thing

  3. Anonymous says

    hi, I know when my addiction started. Before I got addicted with porn I just once an innocent girl. yes, you heard it girl I am now 14 y/o and badly addicted with porn. I t started when I heard my male classmates watching it and the volume of it is very loud so that I can hear every moan. I got curious whenever someone in the video their watching saying “I’m cumming, squirting, babe the juice, Baby your wet”. So that when I have the free time I search for that then I saw a video I watch it at first I was thinking after I watch that but when it happened again I can’t stop myself. now I am challenging and questioning my self “what do you think your doing watching again? waisting your time? ruining your own life?” That questions make me realize that what I am doing is bad Defenitely !!! bad

  4. Rick says

    One thing that needs to be addressed in this fight for our lives is the generational impact or roots. I new my battle was strong because it is in my bloodline. Porn is an iniquity, meaning it is a repeated act that passed down through your generations. We are 3 fold beings…spirit, soul and body. We are a spirit, we posses a soul(mind, intellect, emotions, imagination) and we live in a body. Everything we do with our bodies and soul opens doors to the spirit and spiritual things. In some cases, you need to check your lineage. There IS a spiritual component that we are fighting as well. Whether you believe it or not demonic forces have studied your genealogy, family weaknesses and birth. Only the redemptive power of the blood of Jesus has the power to deal with the spiritual aspect. We must be honest, accountable and do everything we can do in the natural, but the spirit needs to be dealt with as well. I declare freedom from porn addiction and appropriate the blood of Jesus over our past, present and future generations.

  5. PT says

    My name is PT and that’s all I will be able to say about that, I cannot begin to tell my story but I want to. I was in high school
    never knowing what porn was but then I just got entangled with it. For about 3 years I watched it continuously destroying everything important in my life and then I went through those cycles over and over and I couldn’t stop. Then one day I decided I had enough I wanted to break this, at the time I knew this addiction would be with me for a long time, but I forgot once you become an addict you can stay sober not be cured. So 7 months gone by struggling and today I watched it but it was my desire and actions and know I am watching more bad stuff then regular porn. But I don’t want to go any further, after this day I will never go back to porn because if
    anyone is luck its me I have a family but I was stupid and impulsive to watch this. I know the journey from here until forever is hard but I will conquer this, to the people who just started breaking from this or want to its so hard but to continue going you have to give it all. Some day after I truly break this addiction I will tell my story and hope they remove porn from the internet forever I wish I had never destroyed my life because my present and future would have been different but now I will do it I wish good luck to those who begin their fight or going through it.

  6. Jane says

    I don’t even know how my addiction started.
    When I was a kid I used to spray my ‘v’ with water, and within years that evolve to me watching porn and touching myself. I get even more scared knowing that I’ve done it since I was just a little girl. I hate it so much, I want to get out of the addiction, I’ve been trying to recover since like 6 years ago, but it’s so damn hard and there’s no community or whatsoever that could help me in my region. This is so frustrating :(

    • cory says

      Jesus loves you. Keep praying about this. There’s power in prayer and trust, God can hear you and will see you through this. Don’t give up trying.

      • Anonymous says

        or just use logic and reason. It’s damaging your brain more and more every time and watch it. Just keep thinking about that. No need to ask fairy tales to solve your problems.

    • Anonymous says

      Jane, if you go online to reddit — porn free (google it) it’s a forum where you can share in your recovery from porn and read other’s experiences getting free from it. All the best!

  7. Luis says

    I’m glad I found people alike to me in terms of battling this sinful habit. As some people say, when I was young and single, I didn’t realize how bad porn would affect my life. My first girlfriend recently broke up with me because I watched porn and had cybersex. She is the first girl that I ever really loved. I feel so bad for allowing this bad habit affect my life and my significant other to this point. At least, losing her made me realize how it is damaging to my relationship with God and with womem. I decided to turn away from this sin and I really mean it this time. I want to feel the joy, happiness and God’s peace again. And from now on I want to have healthy relationships that’ll lead to a healthy marriage

    • Al says

      One of the worst things about the greatest and most lasting lessons in life is that we have to have experiences to learn them. What happened to you is what I’ve feared for most of my life; losing a love. There is nothing that can replace that feeling of being loved. But unfortunately we must move on.

      I pray that our Father reveals to me a healthy view of women and sex. I now have a child and I cannot allow this sin to affect my child for the worse. I must be strong for her, for my family, and most importantly for God.

      Luis, you’re in my prayers to become diligent in your journey and to love the progress that you make escaping sexual lust.

    • Jane says

      I feel you. I really want to get CLEAN. I never caught up in a situation like you, I don’t think anyone ever know that I have this addiction though..

  8. A different Craig says

    Okay so my story is a weird one. I’ve recently come to terms with the fact that I am indeed addicted to porn, to the point where I am constantly going from one extreme fetish to another. The most recent one is an interracial fetish. This one has been around for about 3 years. At first it was me and a black girl; then a black guy and a white girl, untill that was boring and it began to some very, let’s just say homosexual turns. However being someone who is not remotely emotionally or outside if porn, sexually attracted to me, this obviously presented real life issues for me as when I was ‘hot and bothered’ these images and such would immediately spring to mind, and I’d want my girlfriends to indulge them, some did, some didnt. I’m only 19, and the sex I’ve had with woman has been extremely enjoyable and it is only during sex I do not, ironically think any of these fetishistic thoughts.

    In the last year however me and an old friend of mine recently discovered we had feelings for each other, stronger than we could have though; love, pure and simple. Like nothing we’ve ever known before, sure we’re young, but she matters the most to me in this world. She has indulged me in these fantasies before in the few encounters we have had of this nature in the past. But since we became a serious thing it has bothered me immensely, if this is the girl I want to someday marry, which she might well be, I want to think of HER when I am horny, not some weird fetish – you can understand that, right?

    She is currently overseas though, and has been for the last week or so.I’ve made a conscious effort to eliminate these thoughts by not watching porn and not masturbaiting, only relieving myself during sex, which I can’t have with her being in a different country. So this is making not masturbaiting extremely hard, and today I finally gave in, but not watching porn, just using good old imagination. It was while doing this these fetish thoughts began to resurface, however whenever they did I would stop, think of her and resume. It wasn’t perfect but after about 40minutes of this it seemed as though the frequency of the images weakened and the images I wanted to see intensified, and the amount of pleasure I got from each changed accordingly. I am wondering if this is due to some sort of rewiring in the brain? As the images I wanted to see we’re more in line with pre-addiction things I’d think of, all to do with females, nothing else, and it seemed as though due to this after a lot of effort it seemed to go back to these ‘original wires’? I want to be porn free, and if such wiring exists, back to the original wiring, by the time I go to see her in holland next month.

    Anyway the point of this really long essay-like question, is do you think that this kind of ‘wiring’ actually exists?! And how long do you think it will take with me making a conscious effort not to watch porn or think of those thoughts while masturbaiting before I return to my ‘pre-addiction’ wiring ?

    Thanks for reading and I really appreciate it if you reply, but understand if you don’t, it’s a long question with a loooot of context!
    Cheers!

    • Al says

      I can relate. Having been exposed to it in the 1st grade, I’ve been to some disgusting fantasies and have had to realize that they were getting worse. Not that i’m embarrassed to mention them in detail, but I don’t want to trigger thoughts that may lead a reader of this post into temptation. In the Bible we call that a stumbling block when we cause another to be tempted.

      My ‘re-wiring’ has been a lengthy process, albeit a process; therefore don’t attach a timeline to it. If you can rid yourself of these thoughts in a month’s time, more power to you. Just don’t be disappointed if it’s only temporary.

      Just as you eat meals everyday, and work/study or enjoy recreational activity, practice healthy breathing and awareness tactics displayed on this website. Treat your rehab process like you treat sleep; you need X hours daily to be prepared for healthy activity. I emphasize the issue b/c we can be sober for days, months, years, and even decades; but it takes one time to relapse and fall into that cycle again.

    • Alex says

      Hi Craig,

      Sorry it took me a while to get back to you. I’ve read your comment carefully. What you are describing sounds very normal. My advice would be don’t try to fight your thoughts, just focus on your actions.

      Thoughts come and go, and sexual thoughts, to some extent will always be there, it is just part of our nature. Overtime, once you decrease your exposure to pornography I believe it will get better though. Fetish usually is a sign of oversexualized brain that is “bored” but what most would consider normal sexual stimulation.

      Over all, I think you are doing really well for a 19 year old guy. Try not to be too hard on yourself, but do try to do your best.

      Regards,
      Alex

  9. john says

    I fell in love with a girl and now I have been fighting against lust for the past 6 months…slowly I quit porn for 3 months….then I relapsed….then now i have been porn free but I have constantly found myself thinking of those images…Its unbelievably hard…this girl I am in love with is in another country…I am only 17 years old…I have been successful in controlling my mind when I am outside and whenever I see a girl I never think of anything lusty…But when I am home Its incredibly hard…The reason for me to quit porn is because of the angel I saw….When I relapsed…let me tell you i felt so depressed and I cried for several hours looking at her picture….There is still years before I will be able to marry her….I am afraid I will lose this battle….PLEASE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS GUYS…..

    • Smitty says

      I’m only suggesting things that I practice additional to what I’ve learned from this website: please take these as suggestions that may help but may not cure you.

      Your surroundings play a key role into addictive behavior. When we’re alone

      • Smitty says

        When we’re alone we think of ways to spend that time, usually looking at porn. You’re only option here is to:

        (1) Plan your alone time. If you know when you get home from school or whenever, prepare an activity that either involves someone else on the phone, or being outdoors to keep you from being alone.
        (2) When you’re unexpectedly alone, as fast as you can, find a way to occupy your time with company. Calling a relative is great b/c usually they’re glad to hear from you and that you’ve shown a genuine interest in hearing from them.
        (3) Find another hobby that gets you outdoors more often. Joining a soccer team helped me b/c I am accountable for being present at practice and games to help our team win. <<Being goal-oriented is a huge aid in the rehab process.
        (4) VERY IMPORTANT – chronicle your day. Make time to write/record a voice memo of your daily activities. Spare no details, talk about what made you feel that urge again, or what may have upset you, any feeling that you've encountered that day. Listen to/read it every following day to remind yourself what to be aware of as you go along.

        People are creatures of habit, as i'm sure you've heard before. We take the same paths to the same destinations on the same schedule, even if its not everyday. So new habits must be created to produce more healthy and positive effects away from those lustful habits.

        Even meditate on what women are, why they're here and how men and women were purposefully created to live together. I use Biblical principles, as a Christian, not sure if you're a believer. But I know that men and women were created to sustain life, grow together, teach each other to be better today than we were yesterday, and to enjoy sex as a gift and privilege; not as a selfish pleasure. You're in my prayers, brother, and that you may understand how to rid your mind and heart of sexual lust and any other selfish desire in your life.

        REMEMBER: Struggle is a by-product of change. If you're struggling, you're changing.

  10. gasson says

    Hey i was an addict for three years but abstained for 7 months but i relapsed. I now watch porn and masturbate 3 to 8 times a month. What should i do..

  11. Aaron says

    I never had any girlfriend and I wanted to experience sex once so then to fill that emptiness and I started watching porn and masturbating. I didn’t know that I will get addicted to it. I still don’t have gf. I have spend all this years thinking about porn ruining my life. I want o study and want to be a millionaire but these porn videos on internet distracts me a lot. I just wanna get away from it. The more I look at girls the more I think about sex and the more I watch porn and masturbate. This ruin my studies. I just wana forget porn and girls especially. Sorry for my bad English.

  12. trying says

    My boyfriend is a porn addict..and its comppletly runing our relationship :(…he wants so badly to get over it but he keeps relapsing. I really love him and I don’t want us to break up…he says he feels like he cheats on me every time he gets off to porn and that I’m motivation for him to stop because him feeling like he’s cheating on me is horrible…is there someone who can maybe help me as to how we can get over this?..he’s very closed down and just shuts off when he relapses..please I need help as to how I’m going to help him get over this?

    • FTRW Coach Craig says

      I am so sorry “Trying” – please know that you are not alone. We are here to help and I’m really glad you reached out.

      Is your boyfriend willing to get help? Is he doing anything about his problem? He needs to take action. There are a number of great free resources out there – this is one of them.

      Has he tried the free course on the site? Here is the link to that:
      http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/porn-addiction-recovery-course/

      There are some other free resources out there – http://www.recoverynation.com/ and http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/

      We also provide a very affordable team coaching option. Here is some feedback from two guys who are going through the program – http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/coaching/

      **If you are wondering if you should join this group just know there are few things as powerful as the support of your fellow men in this journey of recovery. In only three weeks I have made more progress than in the last year of constant work. Besides the community support the content and leadership from Craig is rock solid – highly practical, well organized and passionate. Get it done – sign up and change your life for the better. JS

      **This feels life-changing to me. I’ve never talked to anyone about my feeling and issues before and the positive feelings and connections I’m making with my brothers are strengthening my resolve for change. It’s good to know you’re not alone in the world, and it’s awesome to receive encouragement from people in the know. Craig is a fantastic motivator for us to get our sex on straight. This is about ACTION, brothers! MM

      Please have him email me at craig@feedtherightwolf.org or call 916-259-1232.

      You also need support too and I commend you for reaching out and trying to help him. Good luck and please keep us posted.

    • says

      Hello Trying,

      In addition to what Coach Craig said I would like to offer an additional comment. While we (as partners) can support our SO’s through a healthy recovery, we cannot be their motivation. It is not sustaining enough. He must have his own internal motivation to want to stop. It is true that some addicts start recovery for other reasons but at some point a shift has to take place to where they are doing it for themselves. Coach Craig asks some important questions regarding this.

      The best thing for you, in my opinion, is that you get some information and guidance for yourself on what kind of help you can provide and how to step back and let him do the work he needs to do. Detaching from his recovery will help both of you in getting to a healthy place.

      http://www.recoverynation.com has a wonderful program and support network for partners. I think you’ll find it to be a good place to start.

  13. Jim says

    Wether we know God or not porn/masturbating makes us feel ashamed. We know that it is a wrong path and our conscience is telling us it is wrong, we should listen because it is the voice of God. Evil speaks to us too. It lures us to things that promise to make us feel good but never do, we end up feeling more and more degraded as time goes by. That is a voice that we should not listen to.

    God gave us a church with a sacrament called confession. It has helped me more than I can tell you. It is not easy to confess sins but make the decision and put one foot in front of the other and go. You will be given grace to overcome.

    When you get right with God the voice of your conscience will change, you will stop feeling guilty and find that peace, joy, and love can come into your life. The voice of evil will be the one that tries to make you feel bad then. The father of lies will say things like “the Church is for fools”, “you gotta find some kind of release”, “you are not hurting anyone”.

    Be aware of which track you are on, which spirit it is that moves you, and make decisions with your eyes open. Find ways to get close to God, try confession! I wish you strength and give you my prayers.

    • Smitty says

      Very true! Embarrassment is a usual fear in confession. Shame, guilt, contrition are all on deck and these feelings are all necessary. I’ve had to embrace these feelings b/c I realize that it’s God’s will for us. Our Father has made confession necessary b/c it brings forth accountability and help from others whom we confide in. I recommend this method for everyone who struggles with anything. We must consider being saved from these lusts are far better than being judged. Ppl will judge, but they don’t know you’re struggle. Ppl who judge also don’t have your bravery, and their fear of you being prosperous brings forth their judgment. The folks whom I fellowship with don’t judge b/c we know that we’re all sinners and fall short of God’s will and glory. But we all fight the same fight together, whether it be alcohol addiction, drug abuse, sexual lust, pride and self-praise, etc. WE ALL FIGHT TOGETHER.

  14. Tired of it says

    Yet I fail again, just 5 minutes ago I gave in. After about the hundreth time this is the longest I’ve lasted, a crummy 10 days. Of those 10 days were horrible, my body craved it and I gave in. But I’m going to get up and try again. This time I’m going to rid porn of my life for good.

    • Smitty says

      I’m a victim of relapse as well. This usually helps me, and when I don’t practice these things I give-in.

      If you haven’t used the tools on this website, I encourage you to use them. Learn about your behavior to change it. Your mind may be making decisions you don’t want to make, so you have to be aware of what triggers those temptations.

      Even try to write/record a memo of your urges when you feel the urge. This will help you identify triggers, it will also become a speed bump to slow down that Narrowing Process. Read/listen to that memo later on when you’re in a calm state w/o any urge and make yourself aware of these snares and traps. Do everything you can daily to rid yourself of this problem.

  15. chelseaguy2013 says

    9 days now in reality, no porn at all, nearly gave in to the monster, broken my previous record of 7. Porn is disgusting, degrading to women, detaches you from reality. And does catastrophic damage to relationships, Good luck everyone, the journey of a 1000 miles starts with a single step

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