Many people spend a lot of time trying to find “the” perfect method that will set them free.
The truth is there is no perfect method. Most methods are good, but none of them are perfect.
So what are we to do if there is no method that works 100%? How are we to beat our addiction?
The approach that worked (and is still working) for me is to use a combination of methods to help me break free.
Do everything possible at the same time
Instead of trying one method, hoping that it will work, I decided to do everything possible at the same time, to help me overcome my addiction.
Here is a story that inspired me to get sober.
One evening, an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all.
“One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
“The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
If you feed your right wolf the rest will take care of itself.
What did I do to feed the right wolf?
I did everything I could have thought at the time.
- Prayed in the morning and at night (If you don’t believe in God, simply replace prayer with a plan on how you’re going to stay sober for that day)
- Journal daily
- ERP practice daily
- Meditated daily (10 minutes of silencing my mind)
- Exercised daily (Low impact cardio, usually a part of my ERP practice)
- Ate healthy (3 meals and 2 snacks a day)
- Stayed hydrated (8 glasses of water a day)
- Got plenty of sleep (at least 8 hours)
I encourage you to commit to do a combination of positive things in your life on a daily basis. The more, the better. Some days you will do more, some days you will do less. But you need consistent systematic positive actions in your life in order to break free.
Until this day, if I find my life beginning to spin out of control, I revisit those items. I usually notice that I was skipping on all of them, so I re-commit to a systematic positive self care in my life. This approach never fails to bring me back.
In the next post, we are going to take a look at a powerful model that will help us understand how our beliefs affect our emotions.
Oh, and make sure to do your ERP Practice today!