Congratulations on Taking Your First Step Towards Freedom!

Your recovery course will start shortly. Additionally you can view the full course online.

Meanwhile, if you haven’t already done so, I recommend reading How to Stop Porn Addiction to give your recovery a quick jump-start.

Also I would like to remind you that I believe that educating yourself is very important, but it is actions that you take that will set you free.

I recommend the following  4 action steps to bring the lasting change into your life.

  1. Read through every article in the Free Recovery Course, and COMPLETE every exercise. You might also find it helpful to journal about your progress on our forum.
  2. Sign up for accountability software. I recommend Covenant Eyes at $10 a month, but if you are looking for a free option, K9 filter could work for you.
  3. Sign up for our Accountability Groups at less than $30 per week. If you can’t afford it, you can substitute it with  Sex Addicts Anonymous. In either case, I think you must have accountability to other people, to get some real recovery.
  4. (Optional if you can afford it) Sign up for recovery coaching from one of our coaches with some discounts and scholarships available.

    Call (916)259-3827 To Learn More

    Unfortunately some people cannot afford this service, and I do think you can recover without it. That being said, a lot of people love the personal connection, accountability, and guidance. You can call our coaches for a free consultation, and I highly recommend you to at least do that.

I hope you will enjoy our recovery course!

Please feel free to contact me at any time,
Alex

Call (916)259-3827 For Professional Help

P.S. Recommended Resources:

  • Sex Addicts Anonymous
    I cannot imagine my recovery without this program.
  • Mindful Habit Course by Coach Craig
    Great advice from a great person.
  • Free Podcast and Mini Course from Candeo Can
    I owe my first 90 days of continuous sobriety to this program and highly recommend it.
  • Internet Accountability Software
    Using this software allowed me to get truly honest with my internet usage for the first time in my life. For some reason knowing that my every step was being observed and reported on, made it really easy to use internet only in a healthy way.
  • Treating Pornography Addiction by Kevin B. Skinner Ph.D.
    I have read over 15 books on Pornography and Sexual addiction and this truly is one of the best books on the subject. The reason is I recommend this particular book is because it is full of excellent actionable steps. Other books do a good job describing the problem, but don’t really offer a realistic solution.
  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse – How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens Ph.D.
    I know that about half of visitors to our site are spouses of people who might be suffering with pornography and sex addiction. To the best of my knowledge this book is one of the most helpful books for the partners.
  • Free Consultation from Coach Craig
    Coach Craig has been a good friend and supporter of this site since January 2013. He has worked with people from all over the world, including famous musicians and other high profile individuals. Yet, he is only a phone call away and would be glad to give you a free consultation. Call him anytime, with any question you might have, and I am know he will be extremely happy to help in any way he can.

Comments

  1. Phil says

    ….You can call our coaches for a free consolation, and I highly advise you to at least do that….

    Do I receive just consolation or do you mean a free CONSULTATION’?

  2. jackie says

    60 year old female. Introduced to sex novels as at 12 yrs old. Easily aroused. Did not have sex until senior in high school. Looked forward to trying the acts in the novels.

    Got married at 19, he was 25. He did not have lot of experience. I initiated the stuff i read in books.

    Then we graduated to x-rated movies. we pretended we were having orgies with folks on tv.

    Husband had a great time. I realized i did not enjoy the sex just the movies. I started watching them by myself. I married again and started the same pattern.

    Now divorced again. no sex life just watching and reading porn on internet. In the church trying to do the “right thing”.

    I am surprised to say this but I think I’m addicted to porn! I say I’m doing it to have sexual episodes at home by myself. No sex in almost 5 years. Church kept me grounded for awhile but now it’s not enough to keep me off internet sex sites.

    Ready to start recovery. I think I hope!

  3. Gwaredd says

    Greetings!

    Having stumbled across this site quite by accident my first though was yup! this is it. I haven’t been a daily or even monthly user of porn. Sometimes I have gone for months. Then, it seems, out of the clear blue it hits. The least little thing will trigger it; something as simple as a “harmless” ad on the internet. Sometimes I say to myself why do they have to have half naked women selling chain-saws!!?? Maybe this is a wee bit of an exaggeration but I think not.

    This past week I went though a severe bout of this crap: five or six times in less than a week and like a lot of you chaps I wind-up feeling like a slime-ball after its been salted. I’m angry with myself, feel depressed, and wonder when its going to end. I saw the free course and signed-up. At this point I’ll try anything.

    Well, that’s my couple of coppers worth. I believe I’ll hand around a bit. I’m sure I gain strength from reading what some of you other have had to deal and are continuing to deal. At least a bloke like me will know I’m not the only one.

    Cheers!
    _______________
    I started out with nothing and still have most of it left.
    ~Welsh Proverb

  4. mac says

    Hey everyone, I dont know what to say but all i could mutter that i’ve been stuck to porn for long though in the past two years i was able to stay clear for nearly a year but after that i dont know how it all happened i found myself in it again i tried but keep stumbling, sometimes i could stay clear a whole week but the next i find myself in it again and usually gets annoyed with myself anytime i masturbate after watching porns… i just want to put a total halt to it, i need a happy life, i want an honest and longlasting relationship with my girl, i dont want her to see me as a betrayer and most importantly i want to get my moral life back as in when i was say 5years, i just dont want be ashamed of myself anymore, i need to be proud of my life, i need to get rid of this canckerworm(porn), i need help, i believe i’m much better than who i am now, pls, pls, pls help me out…i am 18 and started watching porn at my age of maybe 12 or 13.

  5. Andrew says

    this is my first time to this site and i have got to say that Alex and his crew are like heros in my eyes! i so wished they could have been there much sooner in my life! the work they are doing is amazing ,i completely applaude them for their bravery and honesty and in the last 2 hours have made me finally see the light at the end of my long dark journey of porn addiction!!
    ive been heavily addicted to porn scince i was about 12 years old, it all started quite innocently with a small amout of porn magazines through my teens but i was hooked and by the time id reached 18 i was going into sex shops buying more, then i bought dvds , i had no idea whatsoever that i was addicted and so i carried on this behaviour till my late twenties, i had great girlfriends but i lost them all due to my addiction none of them knew i was an addict, i found myself time and time again becoming less interested in sex with them and more interested in watching porn, which sounds crazy to most people but thats how it happened to me, i became very depressed after lossing my last girlfriend but even then i didnt think porn was the problem so i returned to it to comfort me, not knowing of course that it was only making me worse, i felt my life starting to fall apart !
    just when i thought it couldnt get any worse i bought my first lap top then all hell broke loose in my life!
    i had gone from a few nights a week for maybe half an hour each time to using laptop in bed every single night for at least 4 hours a night, i was mentally and physically drained and felt like crap all the next day in work, i stopped going out to meet women, i lost all care for my appearance i felt disgusting and unloveable, i hated myself and the world!
    this has been going on for the last 5 years straight , ive suffered deep depression, panic attacks and low self worth to the point that twice i have thought about taking my own life!
    it was only a few months ago that i finally realised that porn addiction is very real and very dangerous for mental health, so many times ive seen or heard people laughing or saying that porn addiction isnt real , and blaming the addict rather than the actual addiction.
    so its great to see Alex and all here at feed the right wolf showing that this thing is real and that we as porn addicts are not alone! i felt completely alone until i came to this site a few hours ago, my tears are falling as i write because my life so far has been destroyed beyond belief and i always though it was me because im weird or strange but finally now i see that its this nasty bastard of an addiction that has dominated my life!!!
    thank you Feed the right wolf im glad i found you!!
    im done with porn forever now and i want my life back, so im going to fight it with everything ive got!!!

  6. Anonymous says

    Learnt a lot l cant imagine today …thank u for this website ,its really helpful .l believe there is a lot to life than fill ur mind porn that doesnt bring food on your table , add value to your life or help u fulfill the purpose god put u here on earth ..l hope l change for the best d may god really intervine in pples lifes tt want change

  7. Anonymous says

    Hey every one am 16 yrs been struggling with this addiction since i was 12 its really sad i never had a girl friend cos of this addiction i always thought i was better of alone but stumbling across this website, i discovered that theres more to life dan just masturbating and watching porn i, became so secretive when i began watching porn and this affected my social life so much, i am so happy i found this site cos my parents are pastors and this habit when i read about it, i saw it is similar to fornication cos i always think about different gals or even the actors in these porn movies when i masturbate i discovered its really sin! God bless you craig i would really try to stick to ur methods to stop my addiction

  8. Peter says

    I received the idea to look up resources for combating porn addiction on the web from a pastor years ago but haven’t taken the plunge until now. From the look of your website, I am hoping it is all I am wishing and praying for, which is a safe non-judgmental place to unburden my conscience concerning my own specific porn addiction, which may differ from the norm in some respects. By the way, my own marriage of 20 years collapsed about a year and an half ago, due, I believe, in large part to my own addictive behavior, whether or not she knew the extent of it).
    As an artist, I have a vivid visual imagination. I started out wanting to see the images in my mind played out on my computer screen. I began looking at erotica and anime (or hentai), but eventually that no longer satisfied. By now I have managed to create a real hell-zone by mingling the antithesis of my own religious convictions with my porn habit. I have developed a thrill-fixation with the most illicit forms of sexual deviancy, particularly the notion of ‘lack of consent’. Even though the images I have viewed are readily available online, even free, I am guilt-stricken that I may have viewed material that was far more immoral than ‘normal’ types of pornographic images, and this haunts me. I genuinely want to be free. This is not me! I would never harm a flea, but when it comes to porn, I find myself trying to push the envelope a little bit more each time because it’s the only way for me to stay aroused/interested. If I am going to change or gain victory, I have to make effort by my own choice and that is what I am doing. I am so relieved that this and other resources exist. The problem for me is that I have no money to spend on counseling, and I have a hard time with books. Repetitious content eventually jades me. Incredibly, I have never spent a penny nor held a single subscription to feed my own years-long internet porn addiction as there are so many free sites out there. It is definitely a problem of accessibility. Since I need a computer with online access for my work, I can only conclude that the problem was and is me. More specifically, the problem all along has been my lack of decisive action. Not anymore. I can’t keep this thing bottled-up anymore. Nothing else matters as much as this. No marriage or relationship. To know true-love I will have to work on myself first (which is self-love) no matter how unsettling, fearful or vulnerable it feels. In putting myself in Alex and all of your hands, I am taking a giant leap into the unknown. Who I was is not who I will be!!!!

  9. Katrina says

    hello i know this is a website more made for men to talk about there issues but i need some help. my names katrina and i have a porn addicted husband. he is always on it. when im home sleeping in bed. in the kitchen cooking his supper taking a shower. when im at work. he even does it while hes working. he has over 700 pornograghic pictures of women that arent me and he racks up his phone bill just to use his web browser. i have caught him time and time again. i just dont know what to do. it makes me feel like i aint good enough for him and makes me feel like i have to dress walk talk and act just like these girls that hes looking at. ive talked to him about getting help for it and he flat out refuses. he dosent see how much it hurts me or how much he actually does it nor does he really see how it can be an addiction. i dont want to leave him over it but i honestly dont know what else to do. can anyone help me?

    • Michelle Perra says

      Hello Katrina!!! Thank you SOOOOO much for reaching out! I know how hard this is for you … my hubby, Craig, and I have been there ourselves and I know how unhealthy this can be for your relationship and for YOU. I’m sorry that he wont get help … that is so frustrating. The sad part is … we can give them the information but we can’t make them get help. It’s sad but it’s true.

      First, you will have to decide where your boundaries lie? Can you live with the behavior for ever? If not, what does he need to do for you to make you want to stay?

      Sometimes, men don’t like the work addiction …. but understanding that his habit or whatever he wants to call it affects you and your relationship and you are having a problem with it, is important for him to understand. ANd frankly, if he can’t understand that you have a problem with it (even if he thinks that he doesn’t have an issue) and it’s making you unhappy …. then he is making a decision … and not a good one. Talk to him about how it affects you and how it makes you feel … and not on what he is doing wrong. Just changing your wording a bit sometimes can help too!

      Have you tried some couple’s work? Sometimes, if you approach it that way, they don’t feel so much like they are the problem and might be more open to the concept of help. Craig and I have worked with couple’s before to work on communication and empathy and the guy is able to see how his “hobby” is really affecting the relationship. It can help!

      Another suggestion is to listen to the podcast that Coach Craig and I do about this issue, we call it Sex Addictions and Afflictions … you can find it here .. http://www.spreaker.com/user/sexaddiction . Some women have listened to it with their hubbys and they really felt like they could connect to Craig. Craig is very honest, motivating and has been there so he knows exactly what the guys are thinking. For some, that has helped the guys say OK … I’ll get help.

      One last thing … this site has a forum where people can share their stories and reach out for some support. Check it out here … http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/forum/ … we have one for the partners too!

      It’s so tough when they can’t see what the problem is! Just remember, it is so important to take care of yourself and get help for YOU too. It’s hard riding the wave of this … so reach out if you need to!!!! Many women are going through exactly what you are going through .. you are definitely not alone!!!!

      Anyway, I just want to give you a BIG HUGE hug!!!!!!

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