Three Practical Reasons to Quit Pornography


Call (916)259-3827 To Learn More

Money © by 401K

Whether or not you think you might be addicted to pornography, it can be a very harmful presence in your life.  If you are currently in a relationship, you may have noticed the emotional damage that your porn-viewing does to your partner and the conflict it causes in your relationship.  Along with the emotional damage, pornography can cause also cause some practical problems that you should take into account when you think about your habit.  Porn is bad for your brain, your sex life, and your finances; these are three practical reasons to quit pornography today.

  1. That porn habit is physically changing your brain.  When you view pornographic images, you probably feel a sense of enjoyment, or you wouldn’t bother.  That feeling is caused partly by a chemical called dopamine.  Your brain evolved dopamine as part of a system to reward you for certain actions, like feeding, reproducing, and bonding with others, which increase your chances of surviving and passing on your DNA.  In response to certain experiences, like a good meal, praise from a friend, or sexual stimulation, your brain releases dopamine.  Dopamine is a kind of chemical called a neurotransmitter, which gives your body an instruction when it comes into contact with a structure in the brain called a synapse.  In the case of dopamine, that instruction is basically “feel happy.”  The problem with porn and other addictions is that too much artificial stimulation of dopamine release- too much porn or drugs or alcohol- changes the chemical balance in your brain so that you need more dopamine to get the same feeling, and stronger triggers to release that dopamine.  Scientists call this tolerance.  If you already suffer from depression or bipolar disorder, this is an even bigger risk, because the chemical balance in your brain is already disrupted; if you don’t already suffer from depression, remember that this disrupting of your brain chemistry can actually cause it.
  2. Porn can wreck your real sex life.  One of the mental side effects of porn is something that some researchers have called the “Centerfold Syndrome.”  Being presented with airbrushed, perfect, idealized- and mostly fake- images of the opposite sex tends to change your expectations.  If you see enough slender, big-busted, flawlessly perfect actresses, for instance, that becomes your standard of beauty no matter how unrealistic it is (and it is unrealistic), s0 you start judging real people’s appearance more harshly.  That’s not unique to porn; the same problem has been pointed out with ordinary Hollywood movies, magazine ads, and commercials; the media we consume is setting unattainable standards that almost no one can achieve without plastic surgery.  Pornography just takes it to extremes.  The end result can be less physical intimacy with your real-life partner; a 2008 study in the Journal of Sex Research discovered that men who viewed a lot of porn were likely to say that they became more critical of their partner’s appearance and lost interest in sex with their partner as a result.  If you think you’re not one of those guys, bear in mind that twice as many women reported that their porn-watching spouses became more critical, and that this criticism made the women less interested in sex.  Porn skews your expectations in ways that can push your partner away.
  3. One way or another, porn is expensive.  At one point during the height of my husband’s last “episode,” we were paying more in a month for porn than we were paying for electricity.  Think about that for a minute.  Think about the things you could buy, the bills you could pay, the fun and exciting things you could do, with the money you may be spending on porn (which we’ve already shown is really hurting you anyway).  You may think that buying one twenty-dollar-a-month subscription to one site is no big deal, but that’s the danger of porn; remember that as you view more porn, you change your brain chemistry so that it needs even more porn to get the same result.  That means that your one site subscription can turn into three or four or more before you even realize it.  That adds up to a lot of money.  If you think you can avoid this by sticking to free sites, think again; that tolerance your brain is building will eventually mean that your habit is going to force you to seek more than you can find on free sites.  Besides, even free sits come with expensive risks, like adware, spyware, and viruses that can cause expensive damage to your computer (think of them as digital STDs).
If you’ve been convinced by anything you read here, or if you have questions, please check out Alex’s free recovery course, and visit our forums for advice and support.


Call (916)259-3827 For Professional Help

P.S. Recommended Resources:

  • Sex Addicts Anonymous
    I cannot imagine my recovery without this program.
  • Free Podcast and Mini Course from Candeo Can
    I owe my first 90 days of continuous sobriety to this program and highly recommend it.
  • Internet Accountability Software
    Using this software allowed me to get truly honest with my internet usage for the first time in my life. For some reason knowing that my every step was being observed and reported on, made it really easy to use internet only in a healthy way.
  • Treating Pornography Addiction by Kevin B. Skinner Ph.D.
    I have read over 15 books on Pornography and Sexual addiction and this truly is one of the best books on the subject. The reason is I recommend this particular book is because it is full of excellent actionable steps. Other books do a good job describing the problem, but don’t really offer a realistic solution.
  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse – How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens Ph.D.
    I know that about half of visitors to our site are spouses of people who might be suffering with pornography and sex addiction. To the best of my knowledge this book is one of the most helpful books for the partners.
  • Free Consultation from Coach Craig
    Coach Craig has been a good friend and supporter of this site since January 2013. He has worked with people from all over the world, including famous musicians and other high profile individuals. Yet, he is only a phone call away and would be glad to give you a free consultation. Call him anytime, with any question you might have, and I am know he will be extremely happy to help in any way he can.

Relavant Keywords:how to quit porn, side effects of watching porn, Side effects of porn, quitting porn, porn and depression, reasons to stop watching porn, porn side effects, side effects of pornography, reasons to quit porn, reasons why porn is bad

Comments

  1. Bingo says

    Don’t understand how porn can be “expensive”, when you have the internet and you basically have access to everything you want, need and even didn’t know existed !!!

  2. johaan says

    there is no harm in watching porn i m 33 years old guy .. i hv 3 kids n i still watch porn and hv sex with my wife..

    • Anonymous says

      I have no idea what you feel after u watch porn. Me I feel guilty and depressed. Morally porn is not a good thing to look at in other words it teaches someone to have sex with anyone they want. If some one wants to have pure mind and intimacy he or she has to stay way from porn. Porn is good only for porn industry due to the billion dollar income.

  3. Rainbow says

    I am without porn and sex for almost one month now and I feel fantastic! Sex in moderation is best, but porn – best do without it as it simply give you a distorted view of your partner.

Trackbacks

  1. [...] That porn habit is physically changing your brain. When you view pornographic images, you probably feel a sense of enjoyment, or you wouldn’t bother. That feeling is caused partly by a chemical called dopamine. Your brain evolved dopamine as part of a system to reward you for certain actions, like feeding, reproducing, and bonding with others, which increase your chances of surviving and passing on your DNA. In response to certain experiences, like a good meal, praise from a friend, or sexual stimulation, your brain releases dopamine. Dopamine is a kind of chemical called a neurotransmitter, which gives your body an instruction when it comes into contact with a structure in the brain called a synapse. In the case of dopamine, that instruction is basically “feel happy.” The problem with porn and other addictions is that too much artificial stimulation of dopamine release- too much porn or drugs or alcohol- changes the chemical balance in your brain so that you need more dopamine to get the same feeling, and stronger triggers to release that dopamine. Scientists call this tolerance. If you already suffer from depression or bipolar disorder, this is an even bigger risk, because the chemical balance in your brain is already disrupted; if you don’t already suffer from depression, remember that this disrupting of your brain chemistry can actually cause it. Porn can wreck your real sex life. One of the mental side effects of porn is something that some researchers have called the “Centerfold Syndrome.” Being presented with airbrushed, perfect, idealized- and mostly fake- images of the opposite sex tends to change your expectations. If you see enough slender, big-busted, flawlessly perfect actresses, for instance, that becomes your standard of beauty no matter how unrealistic it is (and it is unrealistic), s0 you start judging real people’s appearance more harshly. That’s not unique to porn; the same problem has been pointed out with ordinary Hollywood movies, magazine ads, and commercials; the media we consume is setting unattainable standards that almost no one can achieve without plastic surgery. Pornography just takes it to extremes. The end result can be less physical intimacy with your real-life partner; a 2008 study in the Journal of Sex Research discovered that men who viewed a lot of porn were likely to say that they became more critical of their partner’s appearance and lost interest in sex with their partner as a result. If you think you’re not one of those guys, bear in mind that twice as many women reported that their porn-watching spouses became more critical, and that this criticism made the women less interested in sex. Porn skews your expectations in ways that can push your partner away. One way or another, porn is expensive. At one point during the height of my husband’s last “episode,” we were paying more in a month for porn than we were paying for electricity. Think about that for a minute. Think about the things you could buy, the bills you could pay, the fun and exciting things you could do, with the money you may be spending on porn (which we’ve already shown is really hurting you anyway). You may think that buying one twenty-dollar-a-month subscription to one site is no big deal, but that’s the danger of porn; remember that as you view more porn, you change your brain chemistry so that it needs even more porn to get the same result. That means that your one site subscription can turn into three or four or more before you even realize it. That adds up to a lot of money. If you think you can avoid this by sticking to free sites, think again; that tolerance your brain is building will eventually mean that your habit is going to force you to seek more than you can find on free sites. Besides, even free sits come with expensive risks, like adware, spyware, and viruses that can cause expensive damage to your computer (think of them as digital STDs). If you’ve been convinced by anything you read here, or if you have questions, please check out Alex’s free recovery course, and visit our forums for advice and support. ( This articles was originally published in http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/2011/12/three-practical-reasons-to-quit-pornography/ [...]

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

Current day month ye@r *