Stop Hurting the One’s You Love and Those That Love You

There is a selfish component to recovery so I thought I’d use this post to be remind everyone that our actions, whether our SO (“significant other”) knows it or not, is causing hurt and pain. It’s moving you away from LOVE. That can’t be a good thing. That can never be a good thing.

Developing empathy will help you recover faster. Ask your SO how your habit makes them feel. Really ask and be prepared for a difficult answer. Learn how they feel unloved, unattractive, and sometimes even grossed out.

Embrace every ounce of the suffering you’ve caused and grow from it. Learn to bring love instead of reject it. Learn to see the world through someone else’s eyes and stop being a selfish dick.

Learn to respect and honor your sex. It’s powerful – and that’s science! If you believe anything about Darwinian Evolution you have to agree that sex is powerful. So stop playing with fire and use your SO’s pain as motivation to be the man you want to be. Listen to them and you will be a better lover, communicator, and human being.

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P.S. Recommended Resources:

  • Sex Addicts Anonymous
    I cannot imagine my recovery without this program.
  • Mindful Habit Course by Coach Craig
    Great advice from a great person.
  • Free Podcast and Mini Course from Candeo Can
    I owe my first 90 days of continuous sobriety to this program and highly recommend it.
  • Internet Accountability Software
    Using this software allowed me to get truly honest with my internet usage for the first time in my life. For some reason knowing that my every step was being observed and reported on, made it really easy to use internet only in a healthy way.
  • Treating Pornography Addiction by Kevin B. Skinner Ph.D.
    I have read over 15 books on Pornography and Sexual addiction and this truly is one of the best books on the subject. The reason is I recommend this particular book is because it is full of excellent actionable steps. Other books do a good job describing the problem, but don’t really offer a realistic solution.
  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse – How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens Ph.D.
    I know that about half of visitors to our site are spouses of people who might be suffering with pornography and sex addiction. To the best of my knowledge this book is one of the most helpful books for the partners.
  • Free Consultation from Coach Craig
    Coach Craig has been a good friend and supporter of this site since January 2013. He has worked with people from all over the world, including famous musicians and other high profile individuals. Yet, he is only a phone call away and would be glad to give you a free consultation. Call him anytime, with any question you might have, and I am know he will be extremely happy to help in any way he can.

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