I am writing to get current and honest about my recovery. I just had a big slip last Thursday, which is the result of poor choices that I’ve made in the previous year. Bellow is the summary of some of conclusions that I draw for myself.
1. I got cocky
I began to think of myself as THE Alex form Feed The Right Wolf. The reality is that I am just an Alex. I am no better and no worse than anybody else in recovery. I don’t know any secret sauce, and like everybody else I get out of recovery exactly what I put into recovery.
2. I got lazy
I stopped feeding the right wolf. All of the things that I’ve done in the first years of my recovery, I slowly let go of. I didn’t journal, didn’t write on FTRW, didn’t see a therapist, didn’t meditate, didn’t go to my 12 step group. Didn’t, didn’t, didn’t
3. I tried to do it alone.
In my first years of recovery, I had a strong support around me, from therapist, to sponsor it a 12 step in recovery, to a large 12-step group, to all of the people on this site. Since they, I stayed away, and tried to do it by myself. Alone. This is just not the kind of thing that you overcome in isolation. And when I do isolate, things tend to get worse.
I think that is it. I hope you are doing better with your recovery than I did with mine.
P.S. Recommended Resources:
- Sex Addicts Anonymous
I cannot imagine my recovery without this program.
- Free Podcast and Mini Course from Candeo Can
I owe my first 90 days of continuous sobriety to this program and highly recommend it.
- Internet Accountability Software
Using this software allowed me to get truly honest with my internet usage for the first time in my life. For some reason knowing that my every step was being observed and reported on, made it really easy to use internet only in a healthy way.
- Treating Pornography Addiction by Kevin B. Skinner Ph.D.
I have read over 15 books on Pornography and Sexual addiction and this truly is one of the best books on the subject. The reason is I recommend this particular book is because it is full of excellent actionable steps. Other books do a good job describing the problem, but don’t really offer a realistic solution.
- Your Sexually Addicted Spouse – How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens Ph.D.
I know that about half of visitors to our site are spouses of people who might be suffering with pornography and sex addiction. To the best of my knowledge this book is one of the most helpful books for the partners.
- Free Consultation from Coach Craig
Coach Craig has been a good friend and supporter of this site since January 2013. He has worked with people from all over the world, including famous musicians and other high profile individuals. Yet, he is only a phone call away and would be glad to give you a free consultation. Call him anytime, with any question you might have, and I am know he will be extremely happy to help in any way he can.