Cognitive Behavior Therapy Archives
The Great Debate: The Dangers of Self-Stimulation
Tuesday, November 29th, 2011 at
3:51 pm
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This is one of those things I've struggled with myself for years. Is masturbation harmful?
Technically you would think if you can do it without lusting or fantasizing about another person, or do it without looking at porn, then you would think it wouldn't be so harmful. However, for men especially, this is nearly impossible.
In my case, I have managed this only in cases where I went several weeks or months without pleasuring myself. If you can do that then it wouldn't seem "sinful" as most Read more [...]
Treating Pornography Addiction – Summary
Wednesday, September 28th, 2011 at
9:28 am
The following is a summary of “Treating Pornography Addiction, The Essential Tools For Recovery” by Dr. Kevin B. Skinner. Chapter 1 – The Creation of Pornography Addiction Starts at young age through early exposure and early sexual experience Controlling or uninvolved parents Loneliness and Isolation Learning form unhealthy relationship model (when parents don’t get along) Chapter 2 - Understanding Levels of Pornography Addiction Non Clinical Definition of an Addiction Read more [...]
Thank You for Your Time! Course Summary Inside
Friday, November 12th, 2010 at
2:45 am
We have reached the end of this course. I am very thankful for you taking time and reading everything I had to say.
I want to summarize everything that we've talked about up to this point, also to point you in the right direction so you can continue your journey of recovery.
Summary
In our course, we've talked about:
· Chemical Changes that Take Place Inside an Addict's Mind
· The Addictive Cycle and Point of No Return
· Triune Brain Model and How it Affects Our Decision Making
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Protected: What Does a Trigger Tell Us?
Tuesday, November 9th, 2010 at
2:11 am
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Sometimes it feels like we have no control over the amount of triggers that show up in our life, and that they are completely dependent on the outside world. This, however, is only partially true.
But before we go on with further discussion, let me ask you to do a simple task.
Look around the room where you are sitting and notice all of the things that are green. It could be a vase, a dollar bill, or a plant. Anything that is green.
Stop reading and look around the room now!
Did you Read more [...]
Protected: How to Handle Triggers or Mini – ERP
Tuesday, November 9th, 2010 at
2:09 am
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I hope you were able to record your own statements of truth and that you are continuing your ERP practice.
Today, we are going to talk about a quick method that you can use to handle a trigger when a full ERP practice is not available. I call it mini-ERP.
Mini-ERP
Mini-ERP is a stripped down version of a full ERP practice and is very useful, since you can't stop and measure your pulse every time you get triggered while driving your car or walking on a busy street.
Mini-ERP consists of breathing, Read more [...]
Protected: 7 Beliefs That Kept Me Trapped
Monday, November 8th, 2010 at
2:07 am
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Here are some of the most serious false beliefs that kept me trapped in my addiction.
I was able to identify my negative beliefs through Journaling, by looking at the A-B-C-D model. I then re-wrote my negative belief with a statement of truth, as you can see in the examples below.
Belief #1: "Uncontrolled erection is a sign that I have an uncontrollable animal inside of me."
I think an erection was one of my earliest sexual experiences. Nobody told me that this was supposed to happen, and I Read more [...]
Protected: An Important Strategy to Help You Break Free
Monday, November 8th, 2010 at
2:01 am
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Many people spend a lot of time trying to find “the” perfect method that will set them free.
The truth is there is no perfect method. Most methods are good, but none of them are perfect.
So what are we to do if there is no method that works 100%? How are we to beat our addiction?
The approach that worked (and is still working) for me is to use a combination of methods to help me break free.
Do everything possible at the same time
Instead of trying one method, hoping that it will work, Read more [...]
Protected: A-B-C-D-E Model that Will Change Your Life
Sunday, November 7th, 2010 at
2:03 am
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If you enjoyed the triune brain model, you will probably enjoy the A-B-C-D-E model as well.
I first learned about this model from Candeo Can, although they only called it A-B-C-D model. I later saw E added at various Internet resources, and thought that it fits well with our practice.
A-B-C-D-E Stands for:
A - Activating Event
B - Belief
C - Consequence
D - Dispute
E - Exercise and Evaluate
Essentially, this model is used to help us understand how our subconscious brain works.
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Protected: How to use ERP Properly to Change Your Emotional Brain for Good
Sunday, November 7th, 2010 at
1:57 am
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In the last chapter, you completed your first ERP exercise. If you haven't done so, I encourage you to do it now.
The common mistake that people make is to think that the ERP is a tool that they can use to avoid acting out.
In actuality, it is the complete opposite. ERP is the tool that you must use consistently and systematically when you do not feel like acting out. Let me explain.
Remember our discussion about the triune brain model, and how the emotional brain can take over our Read more [...]
Protected: The Best Thing You Can Do Today For Your Sexual Recovery
Sunday, November 7th, 2010 at
1:54 am
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By now, you should have completed you personal sexual recovery plan.
Now you know what behaviors you want to stop, why you want to stop, and what behaviors to watch out for.
I also hope that you had a chance to read our introductory article titled "How to Stop Pornography Addiction".
Please do not continue reading until you have finished your sexual recovery plan and you've read through the introductory article.
Now please download and print the ERP checklist. If you don't have a printer, Read more [...]
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