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Now What? 9 Things to Do as You Move Forward
Friday, January 27th, 2012 at
10:11 pm
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As you begin the recovery process together, both partners in the marriage have a lot of work to do. Spouses, these are things you should ask from your recovering partner to demonstrate good faith and repair the damage done by his or her addiction. Recovering addicts, these are things you should willingly do for your spouses, for your marriage, and for yourself.
Exchange passwords. As a couple, you should exchange passwords for email accounts, instant-messaging services, social media Read more [...]
Three Practical Reasons to Quit Pornography
Thursday, December 8th, 2011 at
4:34 am
Whether or not you think you might be addicted to pornography, it can be a very harmful presence in your life. If you are currently in a relationship, you may have noticed the emotional damage that your porn-viewing does to your partner and the conflict it causes in your relationship. Along with the emotional damage, pornography can cause also cause some practical problems that you should take into account when you think about your habit. Porn is bad for your brain, your sex life, and your Read more [...]
The Great Debate: The Dangers of Self-Stimulation
Tuesday, November 29th, 2011 at
3:51 pm
This is one of those things I've struggled with myself for years. Is masturbation harmful?
Technically you would think if you can do it without lusting or fantasizing about another person, or do it without looking at porn, then you would think it wouldn't be so harmful. However, for men especially, this is nearly impossible.
In my case, I have managed this only in cases where I went several weeks or months without pleasuring myself. If you can do that then it wouldn't seem "sinful" as most Read more [...]
Protected: How to use ERP Properly to Change Your Emotional Brain for Good
Sunday, November 7th, 2010 at
1:57 am
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In the last chapter, you completed your first ERP exercise. If you haven't done so, I encourage you to do it now.
The common mistake that people make is to think that the ERP is a tool that they can use to avoid acting out.
In actuality, it is the complete opposite. ERP is the tool that you must use consistently and systematically when you do not feel like acting out. Let me explain.
Remember our discussion about the triune brain model, and how the emotional brain can take over our Read more [...]
Protected: The Best Thing You Can Do Today For Your Sexual Recovery
Sunday, November 7th, 2010 at
1:54 am
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By now, you should have completed you personal sexual recovery plan.
Now you know what behaviors you want to stop, why you want to stop, and what behaviors to watch out for.
I also hope that you had a chance to read our introductory article titled "How to Stop Pornography Addiction".
Please do not continue reading until you have finished your sexual recovery plan and you've read through the introductory article.
Now please download and print the ERP checklist. If you don't have a printer, Read more [...]
Protected: Creating Your Sexual Recovery Plan
Saturday, November 6th, 2010 at
1:53 am
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You can spend thousands of dollars on the most expensive recovery course, but it will do you no good unless you take action.
Below is my old sexual recovery plan that I wrote almost 3 years ago. I got this idea from a book called Cybersex Exposed.
Sexual Recovery Plan
Column 1 - Problematic Actions
· Watching Pornography
· Masturbating
Column 2 - Warning Signs That Sobriety Is in Jeopardy
· Going on the computer when nobody is around
· Engaging in any kind of activities on the Read more [...]
Protected: Simple Practices to Get Your Brain Back
Friday, November 5th, 2010 at
1:48 am
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By now, you are probably a little concerned with the prospect of spending your life enslaved by your reptilian and emotional brains.
The unfortunate reality is that our brains have the capacity to get better at the behaviors that we repeat consistently. So if you've spent the past 5-10-15-20 years of your life practicing an emotional brain response, chances are you’ve gotten really good at it.
The good news is that our brains have the capacity to get better at the behaviors that we repeat Read more [...]
Protected: The Emotional Brain
Thursday, November 4th, 2010 at
1:45 am
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Now that we have discussed the reptilian brain, it is time to become more familiar with the emotional brain.
As you probably remember, the reptilian brain does not have the ability to learn. Therefore, it will continue to do the same thing over and over again, no matter what the previous experience might have been.
That is why the next step in evolution became the emotional brain. This brain has the ability to learn, balancing
the reptilian brain, and it uses signals of pleasure Read more [...]
Protected: Triggers of the Reptilian Brain
Wednesday, November 3rd, 2010 at
1:40 am
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In the previous chapter, we took a look at the triune brain model, which consists of 3 kinds of brains: reptilian, mammalian, and primate. Now let’s take a closer look at some of the external events (a.k.a. triggers) that can cause the reptilian brain to take over our decision making.
Essentially anything that has to do with survival of the species, such as sex, power, self image and food, will trigger a reptilian brain response.
The easiest example of the reptilian brain response that most Read more [...]
How the Human Brain Works
Wednesday, November 3rd, 2010 at
12:36 am
The triune brain model was proposed by Dr. Paul MacLean in the 1950s. It states that humans don't just have one brain, but rather a layer of 3 brains that have each evolved on top of the other over the course of years: reptilian brain, mammalian brain, and primate brain.
The Reptilian Brain
This brain is the first to be developed. It is responsible for autonomic bodily functions such as heartbeat, breathing, and temperature control. It is also responsible for the most important human Read more [...]
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