Chat

Sorry the chat feature was discontinued, please visit our forum instead.

Call (916)259-3827 For Professional Help

P.S. Recommended Resources:

  • Sex Addicts Anonymous
    I cannot imagine my recovery without this program.
  • Mindful Habit Course by Coach Craig
    Great advice from a great person.
  • Free Podcast and Mini Course from Candeo Can
    I owe my first 90 days of continuous sobriety to this program and highly recommend it.
  • Internet Accountability Software
    Using this software allowed me to get truly honest with my internet usage for the first time in my life. For some reason knowing that my every step was being observed and reported on, made it really easy to use internet only in a healthy way.
  • Treating Pornography Addiction by Kevin B. Skinner Ph.D.
    I have read over 15 books on Pornography and Sexual addiction and this truly is one of the best books on the subject. The reason is I recommend this particular book is because it is full of excellent actionable steps. Other books do a good job describing the problem, but don’t really offer a realistic solution.
  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse – How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens Ph.D.
    I know that about half of visitors to our site are spouses of people who might be suffering with pornography and sex addiction. To the best of my knowledge this book is one of the most helpful books for the partners.
  • Free Consultation from Coach Craig
    Coach Craig has been a good friend and supporter of this site since January 2013. He has worked with people from all over the world, including famous musicians and other high profile individuals. Yet, he is only a phone call away and would be glad to give you a free consultation. Call him anytime, with any question you might have, and I am know he will be extremely happy to help in any way he can.

Comments

  1. Ticker says

    Been 2mos porn free. Ive been really making headway last 2 years. Alex’s small video on youtube helped the most because it gave me something to do when I got the urge. Must of watched it 50 times I just play it and practice my ERP. Man I do owe all the headway Ive made to him I think. I practice everything in that small video. Thanks

  2. No Name says

    I have been addicting to porn for eights years. I didn’t have a girl friend and I really want to have one. I also have many plans for my future including quitting pornography. However, when every time I try,I fail. When every time I fail, I feel bad about myself. I have been reading the book The Power of Habit and I want to try its technique for my porn addiction. Therefore, I want to join our group so we can help each other- such as talking about it, sharing our testimonies and listening to each other-and overcome porn addiction.

  3. Polly says

    OMG…. I can’t believe this… there’s an ADD on this page saying, ”Tired of masturbating?.. Find a F#@k-Buddy near you and F#@k her tonight at your place… No credit needed.. Browse photos”.. What’s going on? This is a sex/porn addiction recovery site isn’t it? I bet the owner of this website doesn’t know about this.. Makes me feel sick to my stomach.. Partners of sex addicts and sex addicts in recovery come here to get away from that kind of smut..

    • Alex says

      Polly,

      Where did you see this? I would gladly remove it, but I just can’t seem to find it anywhere. I’d appreciate if you could point me to it.

      Thanks,
      Alex

      • Polly says

        Alex, it’s gone for now, but I swear it was here.. These people must have some sort of advertising trick up their sleeve.. When I saw it.. I was just so shocked.. After what my husbands been doing and what I’m dealing with, I can’t handle seeing these types of ads.. Alex, if I see this ad again, I will do a screen shot of the page and send it to you. Kindest regards, Polly…

        • Alex says

          Oh I see Polly,

          The bad ads sometimes do show up. I have certain categories, like “Dating Sites” disabled, but sometimes few bad ads get through. If you see it again, just note down the URL and I’ll block that specific site.

          It is also a good idea to have ad blocker installed.

          Also clear your cache, since ads to target you based on your previous search history, and if anybody visited bad sites, the ads will know it and target you based on that.

          Regards,
          Alex

  4. Anthony says

    Hi, everyone I’m here to help myself beat my porn addiction. I stumbled on this site after breaking a two week period of zero exposure to porn or masturbation, unfortunately I folded, gave into my urges and went right back at it again. However, after reading through Alex’s, brave story and building up a formula using the step, by step program discussed by Alex, I’ve been off porn for a week and counting. I’ve been hooked on porn since 13, I’m now 28. I’ve had a rough life and whenever things stop looking my way I tend to slump back into porn as a cruch. Now i can see im not suffering alone. I teared up after reading another blogger’s testimonial, his story was very close to mine and the parallels were much too earth shattering for me to hold back my emotions. I believe the community fostered on this site can offer the necessary insights needed to fight our addiction. If we continue to voice or triumphs and pitfalls eventually we can resist our urges for good.

    - my biggest problem now is studying and writing papers at home. Day or night the urges intensify whenever I try to do either of these things at my house.
    - I became a gym/nutritional buff to try and learn discipline through routine exercise but they don’t seem to interact. I stay on schedule for my nutrition and exercise but I cannot install the same will power for my porn addiction? does anyone have pointers?

    I too have a day counter app, my longest so far is 20 days. I’m currently at 8 days and I will fight to keep that number counting from here on out.

    Thank you, for listening.

    • Anthony says

      PS: Hint/ I read the testimonials on this site whenever I get the urge to watch porn. The powerful stories usually help to calm my axieties. If it persist I use the resistance methods prescribe. This post is one of those instance of powerful urges. I’m calm now – time to hit the gym!!

    • sweet says

      Hi Anthony I stumbled into this page trying to find help for my husbands addiction he until this day does not accept he has an addiction but I know I see all the history and I am afraid hes denial to this addiction will end our maarriage

      • Anthony says

        Hello Sweet, Here is how I noticed my addiction. I use to tell myself porn is a normal reaction to sexual stimulating materials. It was super impossible to convince me otherwise. Interestingly enough I delved into behavioural psychology during my early 20′s, and couldn’t make the text book connections observed in most addicts. I only admitted to my addiction once I hit a new low in my life and decided to take a general addiction quiz online. This was inspired by listening to a motivational podcast about breaking bad habits and creating good ones. Then I started to review the symptoms of numerous addictions and was surprised at how many (yes) boxes I checked. I self diagnosed and now I’m here trying to rebuild my life. It took me 10 years to admit how self-destructive my porn addiction is to my well being.
        If you want to help your husband the first step is being proactive and educating yourself on his addiction. For instances, as mentioned above I would turn to porn over something as trivial as being stressed when writing a paper. I cannot tell you what the next steps are but this site and other sites are out there dedicated to porn and other addictions. Trust me, he’s suffering on the inside, no addict feels fulfilled once the deed is through.

        - A strong supportive network and personal accountability is necessary to beat any addiction.

    • Somebody that needs help says

      WOw!Just seem as though you were talking to me. I started watching porn and masturbation just at the exact time as you, when i was 13yrs. Am gonna be 28yrs in 2wks(u r 28yrs too) and that means we’ve both been in it for the past 15yrs!!!. I must say, if anything happens today i’d tell myself that that was the biggest mistake i’ve ever made in my life. Your story is really an inspiration and an encouragement I must say. If you can, I can too!

  5. Anon says

    i fear that will i ever be able to step out of this……
    i dont no :(

    but … every month at least 1 hr i see porn,,, play porn games one or the other…:(

    i am a student. my parents leave me home to study.. most of the time i study …whenver this urge comes… most of the time i fight it away.. but…. at least once i give in…

    i have been using a mob app to keep track of the no of days i have been able to keep the streak up…. will it help me.. or will it like discourage me???:(

    • Anon says

      i used to punish myself by slapping myself… going to 10 km run…so on…. getting frustrated….

      ANYONE HELP!!
      I Havent told my parents abut this.. i cant let them no…. if they no i am dead!!!:(:(:(:’(

      • ashamed chick (yes.. chick.) says

        i am in the same situation, dude. i have been addicted to porn for five years and i can’t seem to stop. i can’t let my parents find out either, only for much bigger reasons. i am stepping out of my comfort zone here to telll anyone here who can help. i only use my addiction to hide my feelings of anxiety, guilt, and depression due to being touched by my grandfather and my cousin, and sending my ex nude photos that almost got leaked throughout my school and almost expelled. i don’t want to be a bad person anymore. i hide my feelings behind a mask and have almost lost my true self to this mask. please help!

    • Anon says

      i am the same person who just commented in the review section…about the number of days…. but i just broke my streak again of 24 day..

    • Anonymous says

      You should make an account here and start a journal. There are plenty of people to talk to here that understand.

  6. says

    I represent a DVD series that deal with pornography and sexual addiction from a Christian perspective. It features Dr. Ted Roberts of Pure Desire Ministries who is an expert on sexual addiction recovery. I would like to speak to someone about considering our producat as a resource on your website. Please check out http://www.conquerseries.com and see what an incredible asset this could be to your organization. Thank you – Elizabeth Ganzi

  7. Sheref says

    6 miserable years of whaching porn, God only knows how pathetic and lost I am right now . i lost everything i ended up now with no single skill in any aspect ..i quited more than 100 times without exaggerating …i was drinking sea water as a punishment for watching and it didn’t work.i NEED SUPPORT

  8. RHB says

    hi i tried your techniques it worked.but after 1 week i got such a urge to masturbate that i was not able to control myself and when i was alone i watch porn and masturbate.the feeling after that was not so good.when iam busy i dont feel bored and as i have notice my thoughts i watch porn when iam bored or iam alone or when iam not doing any work.but the problem is that i can’t be busy all the time. please help.because i dont have any job as i am student so it is difficult to be busy all the time.

    • Alex says

      Hi RHB,

      It is hard to stay busy all the time, I agree. I encourage you to find other healthy alternatives to find yourself occupied. Picking up a hobby (like theater), going to 12 step meetings, taking a work out class, all could be good alternative to help you find positive use for your time.

      Alex

      • Anon says

        I face the same prob ….. out of 65 days i remained free without porn and masturbation for 61 days… i remained free for 24 days a stretch
        but on the 25th day its bad…
        suddenly i am urged to see porn and i couldnt control
        i am a student and most of the time i have exams …so i go use the net for checking doubts…but its turns out…..:(
        wht to do??:(::( i
        i am terribly guilty… i try too follow your idea of staying busy all the time.. but it turns out either one loophole opens up and give in…:(:(

        will i ever be able to stay out??

        will keeping track of no of days of being porn free will do good or bad??

        • Nick says

          same here, i’m so crap out, especially no one know (bet only God knows) in my family, I’m so tired of porn yet i can’t escape, I don’t live in the US, and over in my country, seeking help is like telling the whole world on stage that you’ve got such an addiction, especially in an asian country, it’s real shameful. I’m 16, and i need help, badly.

  9. David says

    I am posting my story here because this chat is a ghost town for a majority of the time i’m online. I am currently 14. I started watching porn more than three years ago. Back then my addiction hadn’t ‘kicked in’ yet so I had spaces of 1-2 months sobriety. Now I find my self not being able to go a week without masturbating or watching porn. I desperately need help. There is a good friend of mine that keeps asking why i’m upset but im too afraid to tell her, should I? Any general advice is much appreciated.

    • Alex says

      Hi David,

      I am not a doctor, but I think it is healthy for a teenage boy to masturbate once or even few times a week. I would advise avoiding pornography all together, though.

      In any case, I don’t think that you are addicted or have a problem. I think you are 100% normal healthy teen boy.

      Regards,
      Alex

      • David says

        Thanks, but my life is turning into a mess. I think it’s because of porn . I’m socially awkward, failing at school and making a lot of stupid decision. I’m not sure if that’s just who I am or what porn has made me become. What do you think? Sorry for all the questions.

        • Alex says

          David, social anxiety is normal for teenagers. Porn doesn’t usually cause it, but people do often turn to porn to try to escape anxiety associated with social problems. Such approach, of escaping rather than facing your feers, compounded over many years, creates devastating results and true porn addiction.

          I would recommend you to face your social anxiety head on. Try to find good place where you get to talk to people, without fear. I realize school might not be a good place for it, but after school activities can be. Perhaps you can find a theater group, or some activities through your religious organization. Whatever you find, as long as it gets you out of the house, and forces you to talk to others it will work.

          Social communication skill, just like any skills develop with practice. All you have to do is keep getting yourself in situations where you get to practice those skills, be patient with yourself, and let the time pass, and after a while, you’ll see your social anxiety go away.

          Regards,
          Alex

      • Kolbe says

        Hi David, I inderstand what you mean i am 15 normaly i would agrea with Alex. But whenever I managed to stop i am less awkward and just happier (in between cravings). And even if you are not addicted than maybe kicking porn would be good anyway. I agrea with everything Alex says on this site and he might very well be right but i am just offering up my prosprective.

        • David says

          Thanks, I will try starting the course again. (gave up a few weeks ago and just tried to ‘go with the flow’ but that didn’t turn out too well). I don’t think it matters if I’m addicted or not, it just matters that I stay away from all that kind of stuff or things will just get worse. I know what you mean by being less awkward and feeling happier too.

          • Remember says

            Hi David,

            I have been in your same boat. I began viewing pornography at age 10 or 11.

            I can say that my pornography use did affect me in ways that other things wouldn’t. Self-esteem plummets, which affects other aspects of your life.

            If you are religious, then you may have more profound feelings after viewing pornography. Talk with your parents or religious leader to maybe help.

            Hoping for the best.

            -Remember

          • Taylor says

            Hey David,

            I can totally feel you there. Same here. It just sucks really bad having that urge, right? Now, something that helps me is to have two or three memories ready that really touched me (like in a good way). And whenever the urge comes I try and rekindle those moments. Just helps me to focus on what is really important to me.

            If you want we can support each other in our struggle to overcome it. Like accountability partner or so. You in?

          • David says

            Thanks guys. Sorry for the late replies, things have been pretty tough recently. Taylor, I’d be keen but I don’t really know how. If you have any ideas then just say but I’m probably not going to be much help at the moment. Thanks again.

  10. sm says

    i have been struggling since 8 yrs from now…I think I can stop watching and masturbating ..but certain circumstances like being alone at home in the afternoon, etc, I can’t stop at that point of time..Its very humiliating..please help me.

  11. lwazi mngadi says

    Help me. Everytime I see a girl I think of erotic images and it makes me sick,worse I can’t talk to girls anymore

    • Joe says

      Iwazi, I know what you mean. For now don’t look at girls. Take a break and meet a few of us here till you develop a plan that works. We all have very similar problems.

    • Joe says

      Alex, and the rest of us are here to take the shame out of this problem we have. As long as you suffer from shame which I suspect you do, recovery is even more difficult.

    • tnt says

      hey it is because your mind has been trained to do just what it is doing when you see a woman think about her as a person with thoughts and feelings and view her with the respect she deserves think of who she is on the inside and you will see your thoughts of her will turn in the right direction porn has not feelings or thoughts and requires not respect

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

Current ye@r *