Why Feed The Right Wolf?
The name for this site was inspired by an old Cherokee tale of Two Wolves.
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all.
“One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
“The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
I used to think that watching pornography was a harmless and healthy
My name is Alex and I am a recovering porn addict. I have been in recovery since early 2008, and while my recovery is not perfect, I was able to abstain from watching pornography for over 99% of my time. Additionally, although I do not recommend this for single people, I have not masturbated since January 2009, CHOOSING my wife as the only source for my sexual experience.
I was raised in a regular home with two normal parents. Like many teenage boys I started watching pornography when I was around 10 years old. I was very isolated from other kids and for a large part of my life pornography was my only “true friend”. I didn’t know that porn could have a negative effect and viewed it as a healthy way to have fun and deal with my emotions.
My Pornography Use Continued to Escalate
Over the years, my use of pornography continued to escalate. I thought that I will be able to stop once I get into a relationship with a real woman but realized that it was not the case. High stresses of life, combined with anonymity, availability, and accessibility of porn over the high speed internet seemed to have taken my porn use completely out of control. It went on until about three years ago. By that point my porn addiction was completely out of control. I would spend up to 8 hours every day watching porn and masturbating. In order to make time for my habit I would skip sleep, work, and even time with my family. I felt guilty, shameful, worthless, and hopeless.
Finding a Solution for Porn Addiction
After a while I simply couldn’t deny that I had a problem. I swore to myself that I would do whatever it takes to find a way out. I’ve dedicated my undivided attention towards finding a solution for my porn addiction. I’ve read every addiction book that I could get my hands on, until I finally found a technique called, Exposure and Response Prevention, that allowed me to see the first glimpses of light. I then proceeded to read even more books, began seeing a therapist, purchased few recovery programs, and began attending a 12 step meeting for sex addiction.
Combination of Different Methods Brings the Optimal Result
Through my experience in recovery, I noticed that many people were too fixated on one particular approach. Some people relied solely on group therapy, some on religious programs, some on cognitive therapy, and some on eastern philosophy. Yet in my experience a combination of different methods appeared to be bringing the optimal result. I’ve shared some of my ideas with my friends in recovery and received a very positive response. That is what encouraged me to develop this site. I’ve summarized the most important information that allowed me to stop porn addiction in 23 short and fun to read articles – I call it the “Free Recovery Course”.
In the Free Recovery Course You Will Discover…
- A chemical process that takes place in your brain causing you to get addicted
- The addictive cycle that your body goes through and how to break out of it
- How the human brain works and why sometimes you lose control of your actions
- Four simple exercises to strengthen your brain
- How to create your sexual recovery plan
- How to control your cravings
- An important strategy to help you beat your addiction once and for all
- How your beliefs are causing you to suffer
- Seven beliefs that were keeping me trapped
- One big lesson that I learned from my relapse and what you can do to avoid my mistakes
- Two very important tools that can magnify your recovery
- Four things that you CAN do to help you stay sober for the rest of your life
Frequently Asked Question:
What do I have to pay for this information?
We offer a combination of free and paid services. This site was design to provide free help to any person struggling with porn addiction, and we are staying true to this mission. Overtime, however, increasing number of people has asked for more “hands on” and “personalized” help. That is why we decided to add a coaching element to our site. That being said nobody is going to try to sell you anything! We wanted to have more customizable services available to those with means to make such an investment in their future. However, all of the techniques tough on this site can be applied on your own, or in combination with a 12 step program (recommended approach).
Does this information really work?
Every person is different. It has most definitely worked for me. Additionally you can read a a lot of positive comments throughout this website. Since we started offering a free recovery course in August of 2010 over four thousand people has signed up for email delivery, and over hundred of thousands of people have read it over our site. We’ve received no complaints and have been thanked too many times to count.
Why should I listen to you?
Our coaches, are certified and experienced. They are professionals and great at what they do. My only credentials is that I’ve been there. I am not a doctor, nor do I play one on TV. English is not my first language, and my educational background is in computer engineering. That being said, most of the information that I share on this site did not come from me directly. Rather it is my collection and interpretation of different approaches and techniques that I learned from a large number of books and training courses offered by people who do have credentials. I like to believe that I did a very good job of putting it all together, but I’ll let you be the judge of that.
Why should I read your stuff?
Because it would allow you to learn from my mistakes instead of making your own. Note that you don’t have to be addicted to pornography to benefit from this site. Most of the information provided is common sense, day to day psychology that will allow you to better understand the inner workings of the human mind, and allow you to get a greater control of your life.
Since this site presents information from a variety of different approaches you would be more likely to find something new and effective that could turn your life towards new direction and allow you to enjoy a new level of freedom. This information is provided at no additional cost. You virtually have nothing to lose (except for a few minutes of your time) but you have a world to gain.
Last but not least, because by reading this information, commenting on this site, and participating in the forum, you would not only help yourself, but you will also help others. A journey of thousand miles begins with a single step. And by giving a little bit of your attention towards this site you can make this world a little better. You’ll see that by learning and applying some of the techniques discussed here, you’ll begin to transform your life! And you will be amazed to discover that your transformation will begin to improve the lives of those around you!
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