Free Recovery Course for Porn Addiction and Sex Addiction

Welcome to the recovery course.

Watch this video to learn more about Feed The Right Wolf and then download your FREE recovery course.

Please note

Educating yourself is very important, but it is the actions that you take that will set you free. If you are ready to change your life I recommend the following 3 action steps:

  1. Read through every article in the recovery course.
  2. Sign up for accountability software. I recommend Covenant Eyes at $10 a month, but if you can’t afford it at this time, K9 filter could work for you.
  3. Sign up for a group or one-one one sessions with one of our coaches or this powerful online program that I highly recommend. Call (916)259-3827 to learn more (I know Coaches Craig and Michelle Perra personally – they do amazing work, save families, and change lives).
    If you can’t afford this investment, substitute it with attending Sex Addicts Anonymous meetings either in person or over the phone. (12 step program is not perfect, but it does provide a much needed live support environment.)

Here are the first few articles and a list of topics that the course will cover.

If you would rather not share your email, you can donate any amount and get a link to download the PDF version of the course.

Understanding Porn Addiction

  1. 5 Brain Chemicals in Healthy Sexual Act and How it is Different from Pornography Addiction
  2. Pornography Addiction Cycle
  3. How the Human Brain Works
  4. Triggers of the Reptilian Brain
  5. The Emotional Brain

Practical Steps to Break Porn Addiction

  1. Simple Practices to Get Your Brain Back
  2. Creating Your Sexual Recovery Plan
  3. The Best Thing You Can Do Today For Your Sexual Recovery
  4. How to use ERP Properly to Change Your Emotional Brain for Good
  5. A-B-C-D-E Model that is Guaranteed to Change Your Life

Creating the Big Picture Vision

  1. An Important Strategy to Help You Break Free
  2. 7 Beliefs That Kept Me Trapped
  3. How to Handle Triggers or Mini – ERP
  4. What Does a Trigger Tell Us?
  5. What Do You Want from Life? A Very Important Exercise

Relapse Prevention

  1. My Relapse, and What I Learned From It – Part1
  2. My Relapse, and What I Learned From It – Part 2
  3. What is Wrong with 12 Steps Groups, What is Right with 12 Steps Groups
  4. 12 Steps Meetings – What Are They Like?
  5. God’s Will for You, or Awaken Your Stronger Self
  6. Filtering Software – A Tough But Important Decision
  7. The Emptiness Inside of Me, and How to Fill It Up
  8. Thank You for Your Time! Course Summary Inside

Call (916)259-3827 For Professional Help

P.S. Recommended Resources:

  • Sex Addicts Anonymous
    I cannot imagine my recovery without this program.
  • Mindful Habit Course by Coach Craig
    Great advice from a great person.
  • Free Podcast and Mini Course from Candeo Can
    I owe my first 90 days of continuous sobriety to this program and highly recommend it.
  • Internet Accountability Software
    Using this software allowed me to get truly honest with my internet usage for the first time in my life. For some reason knowing that my every step was being observed and reported on, made it really easy to use internet only in a healthy way.
  • Treating Pornography Addiction by Kevin B. Skinner Ph.D.
    I have read over 15 books on Pornography and Sexual addiction and this truly is one of the best books on the subject. The reason is I recommend this particular book is because it is full of excellent actionable steps. Other books do a good job describing the problem, but don’t really offer a realistic solution.
  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse – How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens Ph.D.
    I know that about half of visitors to our site are spouses of people who might be suffering with pornography and sex addiction. To the best of my knowledge this book is one of the most helpful books for the partners.
  • Free Consultation from Coach Craig
    Coach Craig has been a good friend and supporter of this site since January 2013. He has worked with people from all over the world, including famous musicians and other high profile individuals. Yet, he is only a phone call away and would be glad to give you a free consultation. Call him anytime, with any question you might have, and I am know he will be extremely happy to help in any way he can.

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Comments

  1. Anonymous says

    I wanted to say that I am also struggling with an addiction to porn. I started when I was in 7th grade and it has grown into a huge problem for me. I’ve tried quitting on my own hundreds of time, but have always relapsed. :( I will follow everything in this site so that I can retake control of my life! It’s been too long and I have had enough!

    Thank you so much for providing this resource!

    • Musaffa says

      Hello,

      I too suffer from a masturbating addiction and have looked for help online for years. Usually I end up frustrated, anxious and end up searching for depictions of Arabic women which of course, is forbidden by Islam. But as they say, mystery breeds interest and the way our women remain completely covered, the interest is high. Sometimes I think African men never masturbate because sub-saharan cultures do not attempt to make the female body a mystery – toplessness especially is often the norm. There is some light at the end of the tunnel as I suffer from carpal tunnel syndrom in my dominate hand – which as you can imagine, is the hand that I use to pleasure myself. I have shared my issue with my surgeon and he has agreed to artifically proglon my need to immobolize the joint in hopes that it will force me to abstain from masturbating while I get control of my addiction. Of course some have criticized me for this plan, suggesting that I could also pleasure myself with my left hand, but for anyone who has tried it, the whole process feels foreign and strange. So, thanks for the the brave men and women on here sharing their stories and letting me share mine. Muslim men who masturbate are shunned in my community, but I know the problem is pervasive as some have confided in me that they, too, suffer from constant self-pleasuring. I just can’t help but think that the more we wonder what is under women wearing hijab, the more we want to see. Just a thought.

      • Abrahim says

        As a fellow muslim, I can second what Mussafa says about the inverse relationship between cultures that cover women and the sexual intrigue developed among that culture’s male population. As a missionary in Africa, I was at first obsessesd with seeing the exposed tatas of women, masturbating in my tent whenever I could, peering out at whatever woman I could find, day, night, whatever. I asked the local men about rape, and sexual crime in the villages and there was very little. The influence of exposed breasts? None. It was an everyday thing. So it got me wondering, why are we blaming porn? Isn’t the nature of man to see what is essentially forbidden the root of his intrigue? You can argue anout masturbation, but as someone else argued on here, it is natural among all mammals. I think we are too hard on ourselves. Mohammed says little about masturbation, this is where Christians impose on their psyches and make a course that is set with standards that lead to self-sabotage and guilt. Self-pleasuring is using god’s hand to help onself realize a greater existence here on earth, a taste of what is to become us when we die. Addiction is another category, one must not do anything too much, vacuuming can be an addiction. But a daily session of sensual self-awareness can align earthly and heavenly feelings.

        • Anonymous says

          Self-pleasuring is not as pleasurable as sex with a partner–brain science has proven that masturbation leaves us feeling pretty empty compared to an actual sexual experience. This isn’t to say it is intrinsically wrong–most religions don’t have a problem with it–but when it becomes an addiction it can be very destructive. If you can masturbate once a day with no problems, then great, but most people on this site are unable to do so without binging and damaging their relationship to their partner.

        • Anonymous says

          Sex_ Masterbation & Islam-The Cure – YouTube
          these are lectures by nouman ali khan in english .these are pretty much informative .do give them a try .
          As regarding masturbation in islam it is completely forbidden , unless you are 100%sure that you are going to do the bigger evil sin i.e adultery . in that case you can do this forbdden act to save your self from bigger sin(adultery) .
          GOD knows the best .
          May GOD help us all (ameen).

      • Anonymous says

        Self-pleasuring is not as pleasurable as sex with a partner–brain science has proven that masturbation leaves us feeling pretty empty compared to an actual sexual experience. This isn’t to say it is intrinsically wrong–most religions don’t have a problem with it–but when it becomes an addiction it can be very destructive. If you can masturbate once a day with no problems, then great, but most people on this site are unable to do so without binging and damaging their relationship to their partner.

  2. mari says

    A couple days ago i found out that the guy i’ve been married for 3 years now has veen addicted to port since he was 17. It hurts alot to realize it just now. I am looking for help in order to save our marriage, j have one question about the internet filter. How does it work if we have two different internet lines we have our internet at home and we also have our smart ohones. Can that filter be set up to both accounts at the same time, if we can how?

    • John says

      mari, the desire for him to stop has to come from within himself. If you apply ONLY an external stimuli, it won’t do the trick.

      • mari says

        What do you suggest as a better move? He seems very defensive every time i approach him. At this point i feel like i can’t trust him. I want our marriage to work out and overcome this addiction but at the same time i don’t know if i want to put my daughter and myself through this.

        • Snoogums says

          He has to want to stop and see the damage that is causing. I found out about my husbands addiction prior to marriage 3 years ago. However at the time I thought it was just a one time thing as he came from a bad marriage. Now after promising to stop and not being able to time after time the damage to myself has been extreme. I finally said I can’t do it anymore. I love my husband deeply. This caused him to seek therapy and me to look for help online. We are now in counseling together as a couple after doing counseling individually. When his therapist suggested a filter blocker he allowed me to install one. I choose K9 as it does windows, IOS, Macs as well as phones. He travels with his iPad and iPhone which it is installed on both. He does not want it removed as I have offered to do accountability software instead. This is a road to recovery in our marriage that one can not put a time frame on. It will and may take years but we are atleast starting. Please don’t demean him just explain to him how you feel without judging. Its not easy but I hope he comes around.

  3. CHARLES says

    OMG in the pass i have judged people that had drug or alcoholism addiction stating how stupid they were . as the great drug slogan said ” JUST SAY NO”. Now that porn has caused me to lose the love of my life,i have a new view on things. just reading this web site,and realized its not that easy to just say no. I never viewed that what i was doing could or would hurt anybody.until i lead me to start joining sites for couples or women looking to hook up for NSA sex.i never contacted anybody though i was just enjoy kinky photos.how wrong i was.it was i thought just a stress reliever . I WOULD LIKE TO LET HER KNOW HOW SORRY I AM FOR THE HURT I CAUSED. love this site plan on reading every page to get a better understanding of MY ADDICTION. THANK YOU

    • Anonymous says

      me too i encourage all of you to trust God and work with your coach i felt bad about this secret sin as a young christain sometime i look in others eyes i wonder if they know but i am ready to live again

  4. Mark says

    It started coincidentally. I was at elementary school and saw my friend play a skate-boarding game that i liked on a site that had it all. so i looked up the site at home and was surfing through it when i found a interesting sounding rpg. i played and since english was not my first language i did not know what many sexual or curse words meant. i did the quest and i got a animated pornographic photo for it. i quit playing it and did not do porn, but that picture was always in my mind. finally i came to the point were i started looking stuff up on youtube but it never finished the scene and one directed my to a porn website. i looked it up. later i found out about masturbation and now i am still addicted. i asked my brother to remind me not to masturbate even though he did not know what it was. it did not help but telling someone did just a little bit. i pray that i am released. porn kills. i am 14 and an addict i need someone to talk to without letting it be known to the world. until i am done. This is my email please help me. mmantsevich1@yahoo.com

    may God save us all. this is my prayer

    • Michael says

      Mark,

      You are NORMAL! Masturbation is a natural expression of our biological tendency to indulge sexual urges and mate. Nearly every species of mammal masturbates and they do so without porn. You are biologically programmed to love the physical form of a woman, without it, sex would be optional, and if it was akin to taking out the trash, we would do only when we had to. Porn is a shameful name for the portrayal of God’s greatest work: Women! Of course spanking the monkey, while normal, can hinder everyday productivity if you don’t leave it alone once in a while and leave the house. Any good thing can become a problem if you obsess over it….even exercise. Give yourself a break, spank it to and move on.

    • AnonymousG says

      Hey Mark

      Be honest with God, tell him all your thoughts and feelings. He obviously has a plan for you…not just any plan a great one. He considers all you thoughts and dreams and your set backs. The thinks we can take from our mistakes are experience. and i hope you (and i will also on your behalf) “Pray without ceasing” 1 Thessalonians 5:17

  5. Mark says

    It started coincidentally. I was at elementary school and saw my friend play a skate-boarding game that i liked on a site that had it all. so i looked up the site at home and was surfing through it when i found a interesting sounding rpg. i played and since english was not my first language i did not know what many sexual or curse words meant. i did the quest and i got a animated pornographic photo for it. i quit playing it and did not do porn, but that picture was always in my mind. finally i came to the point were i started looking stuff up on youtube but it never finished the scene and one directed my to a porn website. i looked it up. later i found out about masturbation and now i am still addicted. i asked my brother to remind me not to masturbate even though he did not know what it was. it did not help but telling someone did just a little bit. i pray that i am released. porn kills. i am 14 and an addict i need someone to talk to without letting it be known to the world. until i am done. This is my email please help me. mmantsevich1@yahoo.com

  6. Sarah says

    It started for me by mere mistake.
    I was 12 and my parents had just got a sky-box. I was flicking through the channels and came across a lot of confusing things.
    I switched it off and went back on it at 11 to find completly different things, again i switched the tv off and walked stiffly up the stairs, i felt so confused so scared that i could barely move. Little did i knew that curiosity would gradually build inside of me and it did i went back to it several times yet it wasn’t enough. I turned to the internet in the hopes i’d discover something more and i did. Again like before i was scared confused i flinched away from the graphic images on the videos i watched so i decided it was not for me. But still something inside of me was gnawing away i didn’t understand what i feeling- it was temptation. For the next two years on and off i would keep revisiting it, i felt overwhelming guilt and shame i would pray out saying i was sorry asking for help but still i didn’t entirely want to, the beast inside was too powerful until finally i decided enough was enough in december of 2010 i watched it for the last time. But the remains were evident i couldn’t barely speak to my family as for some insane reason- lets call it paranoia- i thought they knew, i was afraid that everyone was secretly judging me. stress began to enter my life and shame. I found i was no longer hungry. The sick feeling in the pit of my stomach made it difficult for me to eat. Then in the summer of 2011 i went to a Christian camp and i told my youth leader. She prayed over me and reassured me that i should not feel guilty i had been forgiven already long ago. The following night i asked god for healing and the sick feeling vanished. I felt love and comfort, i have felt no guilt nor shame since that day. But i have however been tempted. I have find that when i’m under serve stress or if i feel lonely my temptation returns This Christmas my mum went to hospital for a hip operation. I’ve revisited three
    Times since the new year. I’m determined not to fall back to my old ways but its began

    • Michael says

      Every mammal masturbates. The sickness comes from sickos telling you that God hates you for being a normal mammal programmed to procreate. Your Christian group counselor masturbates and so does your Mom. You are NORMAL!!!

      • Anonymous says

        God doesn’t hate people for masturbating, nowhere in the Bible does it even address masturbaton. If you don’t believe in God that’s fine, but don’t make stuff up that isn’t true. The larger point is that porn is not normal–recent research shows that it is extremely unnatural to watch porn through a computer screen.

      • q says

        God doesn’t hate people for masturbating, nowhere in the Bible does it even address masturbaton. If you don’t believe in God that’s fine, but don’t make stuff up that isn’t true. The larger point is that porn is not normal–recent research shows that it is extremely unnatural to watch porn through a computer screen.

        • sarah says

          And i agree. It make me angry someone would think so. God loves fricken rapists and pedophiles the same as you and i for crying out loud among others society judges.

      • sarah says

        I’d like to say thanks for the help… But you didn’t help much. For one, no Christian has EVER said a thing like that to me. I know and am told all the time that it doesnt matter what mistakes i make he’ll always love me they support me and helped me when i was feeling guilty about the porn. I must disagree, obviously due to what i believe- thinking about it creeps me out as you’re practically having sex with yourself… Since then i haven’t masturbated for nearly a month. And hmm would rather.not think of that… maybe they have maybe they haven’t, we’re human we mess up daily. Plus not all mammals, only us and monkeys/ chimps.

    • Anonymous says

      God doesn’t hate people for masturbating, nowhere in the Bible does it even address masturbaton. If you don’t believe in God that’s fine, but don’t make stuff up that isn’t true. The larger point is that porn is not normal–recent research shows that it is extremely unnatural to watch porn through a computer screen.

  7. Ben says

    Hi all,

    I’m just about fifty minutes past having watched and done my last porn and masturbation session. Many times before now, I’ve tried to get out of this addiction without any success, but I have a special feeling this time around. I was lucky once to go 115 days without porn, before I regressed back into this cycle. This time around, I know I can do better.

    I know that I can do whatever I set my mind to, but I need everyone’s help and prayers (that is, if you are religious at all) to help me through what is sure to be a difficult first year of real recovery. This addiction has broken me, has made me cynical, and has made me ashamed of myself, but I still won’t back down.

    • Ben says

      That’s ridiculous, you are normal. Point to any priest, pastor, minister or self-important puritan and I will show you one of two people: A masturbator or a liar.

      Give yourself a break!

      • Anonymous says

        God doesn’t hate people for masturbating, nowhere in the Bible does it even address masturbaton. If you don’t believe in God that’s fine, but don’t make stuff up that isn’t true. The larger point is that porn is not normal–recent research shows that it is extremely unnatural to watch porn through a computer screen.

  8. Adam says

    I’m 22 years old. Married to an amazing woman with whom I created our beautiful 2 month old daughter…my wife and I have been fighting to rectify my issue for some time. Ive been addicted to porn since I was barely a teen. More than once my addiction has caused several issues between her and I. I tried will power alone but it did not work overly long. We would fight and I would turn to it for comfort. We both have colorful pasts…shes gotten over her problems..I thought I was free of mine but last night I faltered and it all came crashing down. I had been sober for months and I am not sure what caused the compulsion but it took over before I realized it and all my work came undone. She has told me she cannot “unlove” somebody and she would stay..but our intimacy is gone until I defeat this beast within me. Your story of the cherokee boy and his Grand father struck me as an epiphony of sorts. I had never considered viewing it as sorts and quite frankly I agree whole-heartedly. I will continue to share my progress on this site as well as in a journal. I found your material to be of a great help Alex and I would personally like to say thank you. Any prayers to be had by any members and yourself to whomever you pray to will be greatly and humbly appreciated. Thank you!

  9. Anonymous says

    I just need to tell someone. I’ve been an addict for about 6 months now, and I’m tired of this thing. I feel like it’s between me and my religious beliefs. Thanks for this site and the recovery program Alex.

  10. jismweed says

    I have been watching porn since puberty. It has been infinitely embarrassing, and I resent how normalized it is, while at the same time not being normal. It’s almost as if it is bait to a trap, to keep people from being “fighters.” Whether or not that is true, I don’t know, but I do know that my goals for 2013 exclude pornography. I’m 27 and don’t have the endless sexual energy I had as a teen. I have big responsibilities and can’t afford to waste any more time recouping from my last jackoff session.

  11. George says

    I am so grateful I found you and this cite. I will be starting your method instantly. I have been addicted for four years, and I have had enough of the self loathing and being concerned for my friends or family seeing what I have done. I can’t thank you enough for making this a free website and for your information.

  12. tafe says

    I am 17 been trying to stop countless times, although it’s embarassing my worst relapses are from wet dreams (I heard 1 in 50 teens have them) do you have any advice for this?
    Secondly, there was this time I was clean the longest , when I was in love with this girl.. It didn’t work and it tears me apart, I dream of her but never sexually she IS my anchor..but she cheated on me and got pregnant :'( ……still when I find myself alone with a trigger if I think of the love we had or one moment it helped me out the most.. Do you think I should use our memories to overcome this?
    Lastly, do I have to go one month without porn & wet dreams to continue the following part of the ERP?

    • Alex says

      Hi Tafe,

      First of all, wet dreams aka Nocturnal Emission is completely normal and most men especially teen agers have them(not 1 in 50 as you suggested). http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nocturnal_emission#In_men

      In regards to your memories, it is a hard question. But I am confident, that you will find true love in your future with a person who deserves it. 17 is very young, and 10 years from now you’ll look back on today, as a cute childhood memory.

      And no, you don’t have to go any times without wet dreams, there is nothing wrong with them. With porn I do recommend minimizing your exposure, since our men survived without it for thousands of years.

      Overall, I wish you all of the best, you sound like a healthy teenager, with good conscience, who is trying to do his best, and I am sure you’ll turn our just fine.

      Regards,
      Alex

      • tafe says

        You’re doing something more here & when I make it I’ll give you more than you ever thought. To keep this site where there is compassion for one another. Where there is hope for someone you never met.
        Please keep me as a contact
        Tha_cookie_jar@yahoo.com
        & StunnerTF@yahoo.com

        We’ll see what occurs next.
        Regards,
        Tafe (an anagram for fate)

  13. gerard says

    I’ve had a serious breakdown when my only relationship abruptly ended. It took me over 2 years to get over depression and back up. Today I’m understanding/admitting that I’ve a sex/porn addiction. I shall not forget. I can’t live with that any longer. I believe I understand the roots of the problem. I don’t have access to therapy, counselling or group help but I’m kicking that useless and harmful habit out of my life starting TODAY and will spread the word that it can be done. With all respects to my ex-partner who desperately tried to help me all the way (without even knowing). I’d rather live with the shame of admitting my addiction to everyone than live with the addiction.

  14. says

    Heard about this site and decided I’d check it out. :) I don’t know how serious my sexual addictions are. I don’t really look at porn but I do have a photographic memory.I masturbate a lot but so does every guy I know; at least the ones who are open about it. I’m not sure how much is too much.

    My problem is when I masturbate, I fantasize about men. I don’t know if that means I’m gay or I do it because my sexual desires were awakened at the age of 9 when my 13 year old nephew made me have sex with him. At 9 years old, it’s hardly consensual but part of me actually enjoyed it.

    My spiritual/religious beliefs go against homosexuality, though I have heard stories of glbt’s who seem to be in love. To me there are still underlying issues that cause it because I don’t believe it’s the way God designed it. I don’t want to make this too long so I will share my underlying issues and my working of the 12-steps through Emotions Anonymous in my next two posts.

    To close, I am highly attracted to women and I believe my gay fantasies are merely a sexual addiction as I have no emotional attachment to men. I have only had one relationship with a woman (never been in a same-sex relationship) and i believe the emotional problems of two bipolar people is why it only lasted five years; however the fact that we were both sexually abused as children probably goes deeper than the emotional problems and is probably the underlying issue of the emotional problems.
    Thank you,
    E

  15. michael paul says

    i,ve been on n off porn…..watch it today feel soo bad about myself bt still find myself straying back…..i,m young n really need help…

    • jismweed says

      I know how you feel, and seeing you feel bad makes me happy I didn’t waste my time watching more of this crap. Gosh knows I have seen enough for one lifetime. Sometimes demons present themselves as friends, and porn is one way to achieve that, then once you are plugged in it is free to consume you, just like in the Matrix.

  16. ryan says

    Well, here is my first ever post and the first time I’ve ever admitted to anyone that I have a problem. I feel weak and I need help to overcome this addiction. I’m married to the greatest woman ever and I feel awful that I’ve not been honest with her. My soul hurts and I just want to be free. I’ve seen this site in passing several times but haven’t really started a recovery program. Today is the day I have to start!

    Thank you so much for your help!

    Ryan

    • Mark says

      there is a god that helps with everything he can heal and raise the dead my encouragement is that god can do anything cause he was willing to send his only son to die for me i know that he loves and wishes me the best of things. let this be your encouragement.

  17. arsh khan says

    hum ye masturbation ka adat chorwana chahte h 10 saal se aj se hum start kiye hai puri kosis karenge cur hone ka

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