Feed the Right Wolf

The attitude you have developed to fight this addiction and maintain a happy life with such difficult situation is really commendable. I respect you a lot for that.

Nick

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Sober since 12th April
Having good thoughts or bad thoughts do not define a person its how he reacts to them is what defines him.

I've made it just over 5 months now, and I'm still going. Just wanted to thank everyone for their support in getting me this far

Thanks,

C J.

Congratulations, outofthedark01!

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I will look forward instead of looking at porn.

C. J.
Congratulations, that is fantastic news and thanks for letting us know. Please feel free to share any hints and tips!

keep going!
bigAl

I just want to say along with the others, that 5 months is huge. I'm not sure I could do that in your place (well, heck I'm not doing that well and I'm NOT in your place!).

Also like the others, I sometimes wonder if it's worth it. Other aspects of life are hard enough, why worry about a secret addiction. But I think the answer lies in what else we can be doing that is constructive instead of acting out. I don't know the extent of your disability, but I know there is still a greater sense of accomplishment in putting together a puzzle (for example) than there is in acting out.

So, I think it is worth it if for no other reason than to put energy into something else.

BigAl, I think, for me at least, total honesty is the best tip I could give. I had to explain to all my family and friends me problem, and that for me pornography is like what drink is to an alcoholic. I didn't expect any ridicule because I knew my friends wouldn't be like that (it's why I'm friends with them), and they've been really supportive.

I also think that you need to be honest with yourself, know what things trigger you, and purposely avoid them at all cost. Make sure that there are others who will keep an eye on you, which is why honesty with family and friends is important. You need a support team, make your recovery a group effort, it has helped me get past some very trying times.

Stillhopeful, I agree with you, you need to put your energies into other things that distract you from acting out. I've found reading books a lot of help. I've always enjoyed reading, but by having a list of books I want to read, and a target to read by a certain time, it keeps my focus away from pornography.

Thanks everyone for your congrats and support

outofdark01,

I love your attitude and I think that your strategy is right on! Total honesty, group effort and support; awesome in my opinion. For me another critical item is the ability to "access" a "higher power." I am convinced that I have not mustered the courage and faith to execute any of these strategy items completely which is why I am in the position of working through a relapse.

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"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." -AA or Albert Einstein