Let me tell you that I was in your shoes. Not wanting to tell my wife because of the hurt.
I can honestly tell you that it was very very very hard to tell her. But it was the best for me and us.
If she told me that she wanted to leave or something, I would have to deal with it.
But a very interesting point I read in a book about addictions (Doing a lot of reading lol).
The psychiatrist said that the way a person is outside of his addiction is his true self.
That means that the addiction brings about lies, concealment, anger, and so on.
But if the person is kind, considerate, and loving away from the addiction, then that is what they are really like.
I sense you are that type of person, in your posts, and I am sure that your wife would see that too.
But it is up to you in the end.
Porn teaches that women and objects. They must always be ready for men anytime and anyhow.
What a load of crap. Read some true life stories about these poor women and how they get treated.
It's a terrible business that perverts the good things in life.
I tell you there is nothing more beautiful than a couple enjoying each others company and growing old together.
Making love is supposed to cement the relationship not 'defile' it.
My wife and I sometimes get up a bit earlier to make time for it, or we first have some fun then go out for the night.
I do small things for her, like send a message to tell her I love her, or make her some coffee in bed with her favorite biscuit.
Flowers now and then, hold her hand, hold her tightly before falling asleep. I tell her she is beautiful, hot and sexy.
You know, love, kindness and to be considerate towards your mate will always be rewarded.
Then you also have true expressions of intimacy.
Porn however makes you think that it's ok to do whatever to your wife, she needs to listen and must enjoy being treated like a bitch.
What kind of absolute crap it that. Yeah, women like to be raped, sodomized and treated like an object for a man's sexual pleasure.
Do we look like animals?!? Even animals do not do some of the things that humans do.
I am sorry that I ever looked at porn, because its ugly. It took me awhile to get to this point, but no more.
My wife is a wonderful human being. She is not my slave, she is more than worthy to be treated like a, hmmmm queen.
I am not going to follow the course of other men that think sex is the answer to life, that sex is everything, that women are objects.
That cycle that came from my father and fathers father ends with me. I will not be like those men.
I always think about what people would say at my funeral. Would my wife say, "What a wonderful caring husband", or would she say, "Why did it take so long" lol. Do I want good friends around speaking well of me, or women spitting on my grave.
You can fix your relationship with your wife. Its not beyond repair.
Try some acts of kindness and focus less on the sex. You will see that she will 'want' to have some fun with you