thanks for your advice. Your words are my motto now:
With heroin addiction, addicts are given methadone to help them come off of the addiction. Methadone resembles heroin, but it is not as harmful or addictive
I observed that it's impossible for me to get rid of porn and mast. at once. it's been always a kind of shock for my brain and body when I try to give it up too fast. the suspence was so enormous that each day without P/M was for me as pain rather. I've been addicted for 30 years mind you - it's more than some of you are on this earth. I mean one can't await from anybody that they are able to run the marathon if they didn't start with smaller segments.
healthy interaction can be viewed as our methadone
I mean it's much better to overcome one's own addiction and then to start a healthy relationship with a women ( as a free man). Is it not dangerous if one treats their partner subconsciuosly as a form of methadon? To be altogether honest one should ask their partner if they agree to be during some time my methadone, in my view. Apart from this when one becomes P/M-free and as a result he will be able to start relationship with a woman - it can be the highest reward for overcoming the addiction.
setting a date you will act out is just training your brain to view acting out as even more of a reward.
I mean it's true if one's intention is to refrain from P/M in order to experience more extasy later, but my intention is to quit that sewage - it's only a dosage of methadone. ąnd when I am able to live without P/M at least 60 days I will be able to try quitting P/M and no more to treat that sewage as methadon. Hopefully I will be able then to run the whole marathon.
It's my plan for now but I know I can get my facts wrong. Maybe you're quite right ,absolution - if I fail with my method I'll change my views.