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Yes, I've been aware for very many years that the strongest cause of my addiction is myself being self centered and I've been trying to activly do something to leave my selfishness almost every day. Every day I'm struggling to do something for somebody - first of all for my wife and children.
But although I'm aware of it it's for me very difficult give my time and energy to the others and often I consume time only for myself. it's the most difficult thing in my life - to give myself the others. I know the more time I spend on my wife and children the stronger will be my recovery. And that is the aim - not to simply quit P/M but to live more and more for my wife, children and next for other people ( so it's so called love - agape in Christianity). The biggest enemy is my selfishness ( not only in my P/M addiction but altogether in my life ) and all means given me in church (daily reading Bible, prayer, Mass, confession, spiritual reading, being in a group of Christians, yearly retreats, advice of priests and friends from the christian group, daily trying to actively do something for the others, trying to do my job better and better...) serve the purpose to live the life of love (agape - serving the others and not myself).
I know my way and the means well but I've got huge problems with the execution. I feel so weak to do something for my wife, children... recently I've been praying on a daily basis for Holy Ghost to give me strenght and acting love because I know my human will power is insuficient to quit my selfishness and enter the life of giving my time ( myself) the others.
I'm a slave of myself (egoism) but know what to do and try (although weak)