Mombasa here is my way.
First I decided to just quit. Simple as that. Secondly, I began to pray to God to help me quit. I prayed all day every day (I still do). I began to read my bible. I went to confession and confessed my sins to my priest and I go as often as I can. I told my parents. My wife told her parents. I spoke to my in-laws about it. I found this website and read the articles posted by the Wolf. I watched the videos to help me understand.
I also began to think about my kids. I did not want them to have a father who was an addict. I did not like the person that I was. Always being grumpy and irritable and having no patience. Will power is a strong thing. When you decide to stop a bad habit and begin new good habits you can beat any addiction.
I have found things that I like to do to direct my mind to positive healthy things. I do crossword puzzles, sudoku, I exercise, I read, I watch movies (things that don't have a lot of sexual visual stimulants), I am trying to eat healthier and I try to play with my kids more.
Also, having a strong support system in place will help tremendously. I have spoken to no less than four priests (one of whom counsels me now), I have my parents and in-laws, my sister and brother-in-law and his wife, and I have all the guys I work with who are very good close friends. All of them understand what I am going through and are supportive of me. Also, having everyone here at the forum has been a big help. By having fellow addicts supporting each other during recovery we can all help each other be accountable. We can tell each other things that work and things that don't work so that we can all try different things out to find those tools that will help.
The only person I don't have supporting me is my wife. I hurt her by my actions very deeply. We are trying to work on things, but that will take time and only God will decide when the time is right for us to be together again.
Also, seeing a counselor and being able to talk about things have helped me figure out the why of all of this. That has helped me keep focus on what I am fighting for. Myself, my wife, my kids, my family and marraige. My future.
Lastly, have a positive attitude. If you stay positive and believe that you can do it. You will. Make the effort to succeed and you will beat this disease.
I also sent this to cojerc.
I forgot to add that I also use the K-9 web filter on my PC. I also had the internet on my cell phone turned off by my priest ( he put a password on it ). I can't believe I forgot to mention this one. It is such a big one. Getting rid of the temptation to act out by not having things to look at helps a lot.
Sobriety date: November 6, 2011
In all you do, remember the end of your life and then you will never sin. Sirach 7:36
Love and time can heal just about anything.
Failure is not an option.