Feed the Right Wolf

Hi Flit,

I'm glad you're still getting back up after a fall. Recovery takes time and determination, but it is possible.

Your friend,
Absolution.

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Sobriety Date: October 25, 2011
"Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it."
-Rabindranath Tagore

Hey absolution,

Yeah it's damn possible & m gnna make it possible. I won't let few falls keep me trapped. It's my life and I'll control it. Won't let some filthy habit ruin it. There is so much beautiful and amazing things outside yet to be explored. Thanks for your support abs.


Day 2

Day was fine. Scared for my upcoming battle. Hell lot is still pending to cover. Few subjects are giving me hard time. Coffee is like an upcoming addiction for me. Can't stand without it. I should reduce the intake. 7+mugs per day is too much. But cnt help it, active mind is really needed to understand these moronic concepts. Hope everybody is doing great. Will be back here soon. Good luck in your recovery guys.

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If yu're in a hot air balloon, yu hv to burn some fuel every now & then to keep the air heated & stay high in the air. If yu wait until the balloon gets dangerously low, yu hv to burn a ton of fuel to gt bck up to whr yu need to be. - Absolution

Day 3

Was a pretty good day.

Loved what absolution said which directly goes into my signature so that it may remind me everyday to work daily on my recovery.
Have to keep myself high up in the air and burn that right amount of fuel everyday to keep the air heated.

Did everything what needed to be done.
I don't know why these days I am not socializing much.
Its been 2-3days and I havent talked to any of my friends or anybody else outside my family.
Should change the environment around me.
Just wanna change some behaviour of mine and include some positiveness.
Hoping for safe and sound upcoming days.
Good luck to all guys.!!

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If yu're in a hot air balloon, yu hv to burn some fuel every now & then to keep the air heated & stay high in the air. If yu wait until the balloon gets dangerously low, yu hv to burn a ton of fuel to gt bck up to whr yu need to be. - Absolution

Hi Flit,

I think it's pretty common to want to isolate yourself in early recovery. Do you have people close to you that you can share your recovery with?

Your friend,
Absolution.

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Sobriety Date: October 25, 2011
"Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it."
-Rabindranath Tagore

Day 5



Hi absolution,

Yeah I do have ppl around me with whom I can share. But I don't know if I want to share with them or not. Some of them don't even consider this as an addiction as there were times I used to share these stuffs with them and still now they look into these stuffs. Although I've started hanging out again. Withdrawal is common, I know. It's just it doesn't fits right.

Days are fine and I am safe so far. Hopin for more good sober days. Good luck to yu all guys.



Flit.

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If yu're in a hot air balloon, yu hv to burn some fuel every now & then to keep the air heated & stay high in the air. If yu wait until the balloon gets dangerously low, yu hv to burn a ton of fuel to gt bck up to whr yu need to be. - Absolution

Hi Flit,

If you have people you're comfortable with, I really suggest talking to at least one or two of them about this. I've known people who don't understand sex addiction at all, but when I talk about how there are chemical interactions in our brain similar to drug addiction or alcoholism, that usually helps them understand a lot. I think it would be great for your recovery program to have people to reach out to.

Your friend,
Absolution.

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Sobriety Date: October 25, 2011
"Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it."
-Rabindranath Tagore

Hey absolution,

Thanks for the suggestion, I'll do that. There is this good friend of mine who is kinda much into spirituality. So maybe he'll be good for sharing and stuff. Although even he looks into porn occasionally but I guess that shouldn't be a problem. I don't talk to him much these days (actually I am kinda isolated from socializing), but there were times we were close so I guess that will help. I'll reach him in upcoming days.
So what should I be sharing? Like make myself accountable to him? Or just share my progress?



Marking my Day-6.!

Entering the danger zone. It was quite often that I relapsed on 6th, 7th or 8th day from my last relapse. So I should better be aware and cautious these upcoming days. I have already stopped talking to the chicks with whom I used to flirt as they also act as a trigger. Searching for tools to get out of this situation of being insomniac. Being awake all night often brings the triggering topics and fantasies. Hope these days shall pass soon soberly. Good luck to yu all guys.



Flit.

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If yu're in a hot air balloon, yu hv to burn some fuel every now & then to keep the air heated & stay high in the air. If yu wait until the balloon gets dangerously low, yu hv to burn a ton of fuel to gt bck up to whr yu need to be. - Absolution

Hi Flit,

I agree with Absolution, sharing with someone really helps. What you should share? You should share what is affecting you right now, how it is bothering you. But if the person you are sharing is not aware of the addiction, probably he/she may not understand the seriousness of the situation. A better way is to show our forum link to that person. Give the person specific links to read, sit with the person and tell you are also one of them (addicts) and you needed that (person)friend to help you to come out of this. I guess only once they understand the seriousness of this addiction they can listen to you more. There are many people out there who still does not know 'Porn' is an addiction.
Sharing your recovery progress is also beneficial provided your friend reacts in a positive supportive manner.

Regarding your insomnia:

I too had this problem initially, even now i have. But people here suggested few things that really helped.

Doing a physical exercise in the evening or at a time before bed provided you manage sufficient time after or before dinner will make your body tired and will make you sleep.
The idea is to make your body tired. This really helps me. Not a rigorous exercise, even 1 hour of walking will make your body enough tired. Give it a try. You are on right track avoiding all those triggers. Good luck friend.

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Last day PMO - 08/05

Hey Cojerc,

Thanks for your valuable insight on my post. Well ya m gnna do that sharing for sure and it will be more than just a sharing, I'll make myself accountable to him. I hope that'll work. M pretty sure he'll understand the seriousness of this addiction. Recently absolution posted that a guy lost his life due to this addiction. That is seriously scary. There are much more beautiful things outside to look forward to than this filthy stuff. I will make myself productive as soon as my exams get over. Will get myself indulged in something creative stuff. I've been thinking about learning strings. Hope I'll stick to this after my exam gets over. 

Keeping your brain empty always leads to negative thinking. Hope that'll not be a case for me. My addiction always overpowers me when I am left with doing nothing and staying at home all day and night alone.

It's day 7th. In my danger zone. Already started having this unstoppable craving and urges to act out. But I'll save myself this time. I have to. There is no other option to fail. Will keep myself busy in books and will eat and do other stuffs when I'll feel like having strong cravings.

Going to block my Internet for next 24hours. One day at a time is what all it takes. See yu guys after 24hours all safe and sound. Goodluck to yu all guys.

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If yu're in a hot air balloon, yu hv to burn some fuel every now & then to keep the air heated & stay high in the air. If yu wait until the balloon gets dangerously low, yu hv to burn a ton of fuel to gt bck up to whr yu need to be. - Absolution

Yesterday wasn't good, although I didn't acted out but went to the far edge of acting out. I know my weakest moments and even after working on them it remains tough to be safe and sound.

Trying to change my sleeping pattern from almost a week now. I got to shift from day sleep to night within next 7days. As I have got lectures to attend in morning hours from next week. Tried everything but nothing seems to work. Plz advice if anybody has any solution over changing sleeping pattern.


Day 8. Hoping for happy days.

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If yu're in a hot air balloon, yu hv to burn some fuel every now & then to keep the air heated & stay high in the air. If yu wait until the balloon gets dangerously low, yu hv to burn a ton of fuel to gt bck up to whr yu need to be. - Absolution