Find a COSA group. You can't control his recovery. Man, if I could, my husband would work on this non-stop and beat it. http://www.cosa-recovery.org/
My husband works hard on his recovery when things are really bad, or if he slipped and has really stepped it up when he got caught relapsing. In my opinion, my husband is way too complacent about his recovery. That really doesn't matter though, it's my opinion. That doesn't make any difference when it comes to his recovery. It's his, he has to own it, he has to work it. I have to do the same for myself in my recovery for living in this marriage for so long. It is very damaging to live in such an unhealthy relationship.
I wish you the best!