I have thought about this subject a lot as well. My believe is that while we do get better, it is impossible for us to heal. And unlearning to rely on pornography is much harder and takes much longer than learning to crave it.
What I am trying to say. While it would take me months to get to the point where I do not crave pornography, if I let myself go, and allow small triggers to creep into my life it takes weeks if not days for a strong craving of pornography to return.
Then it once again takes months to get back to more or less normal state.
Than if you throw in stress, tiredness, and other emotional events into the mix, all of which inhibit our thinking brain, we can very quickly find ourselves going back to or at least craving our drug of choice... I don't know if it's possible to unlearn that some time, but I know that I am definitely not there yet.
The analogy that helps me a lot is that of climbing a rope. Recovery is like climbing a rope. When I work at it I get higher and higher. But once I get high enough, I stop climbing, and due to force of gravity I start to slide down, which accelerates faster and faster as long as I let myself slide. Than eventually I either get to the end of the rope and fall, or catch myself closer to the end, and start climbing really hard to get the hell out of there. But craving for inappropriate sexual behaviors, just like gravity is always there. It is up to me how I choose to use it, I can rely on it to exercise my muscles and help me feel good, or I can let it take cover and make me fall. The choice is mine.
That's just my $.02
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