Please do comback and continue to share. Adictions in general are usually are not abou the drug, but about people not being able to manage their own lives. So just stoping using the "drug" of choice, which is in our case happened to be porn, never really solves any issues. Porn is what we use to run away from real issues and dificulties of life. Stoping porn helps us become aware and present enogh to deal with real issues. But that takes a long time ...
This x 100.
There are usually characteristics that lead to heavy pornography usage. The usage than magnifies those characteristics and can cause others to form (such as the tendency towards selfishness). Addressing addiction allows people to also address their character defects, rarely do they simply go away from the state of sobriety. Sobriety grants the gift of growth and the clarity to change. If your husband can surrender his ego, admitting that he may have such character defects, absolutely anything is possible.
I just sent you a PM (private message) please feel free to continue posting on this forum to vent, and share.