Feed the Right Wolf

Hi CSC,

I too have held that resentment and responded in like to the turn downs and (what I thought were) excuses for not giving me what I thought I deserved. By trying to curb my appitite for sex and honoring her requests, I find that sex is more pleasurable. However I still have those feelings for anger and rage that keep me up for hours. My goal is to become more consistent in honoring my wifes wishes and responding in kind. The anger, frustration and acting out has gotten me nothing but a lot less sleep!

I tell you there is nothing more beautiful than a couple enjoying each others company and growing old together.
Making love is supposed to cement the relationship not 'defile' it.

My wife and I sometimes get up a bit earlier to make time for it, or we first have some fun then go out for the night.
I do small things for her, like send a message to tell her I love her, or make her some coffee in bed with her favorite biscuit.
Flowers now and then, hold her hand, hold her tightly before falling asleep. I tell her she is beautiful, hot and sexy.
You know, love, kindness and to be considerate towards your mate will always be rewarded.
Then you also have true expressions of intimacy.
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My wife is a wonderful human being. She is not my slave, she is more than worthy to be treated like a, hmmmm queen.
I am not going to follow the course of other men that think sex is the answer to life, that sex is everything, that women are objects.
That cycle that came from my father and fathers father ends with me. I will not be like those men.

I always think about what people would say at my funeral. Would my wife say, "What a wonderful caring husband", or would she say, "Why did it take so long" lol. Do I want good friends around speaking well of me, or women spitting on my grave.

You can fix your relationship with your wife. Its not beyond repair.
Try some acts of kindness and focus less on the sex. You will see that she will 'want' to have some fun with you

Peter