Free Sex Addiction & Porn Addiction Help

Hello Dear Visitor,
  • Do you struggle to control some part of your sexuality
  • Find yourself wondering, why did I just do that again
  • Feel that you constantly have to cover your tracks to avoid being caught?
  • Afraid of anybody learning about your secrets?
  • Wonder if there is a better way to live your life?
I’m Alex and I struggled with all of the above and wrote a book where I outlined the things that helped me. Hundreds of thousands of people have used this resource to jumpstart their recovery for sex addiction and porn addiction.

 

It’s Free and It’s Online

This is the book that I wish I had when I first realized that something was wrong in my life, and didn’t know where to turn for help.

Click here to get started or sign up for the free course below.

Why Feed The Right Wolf?

The name for this site was inspired by an old Cherokee tale of Two Wolves.

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all.

“One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

“The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Who Am I?

My name is Alex and I am a recovering sex addict. I have been in recovery since early 2008, and while my recovery is not perfect, I was able to abstain from watching pornography for over 99% of my time. Additionally, although I do not recommend this for single people, I have not masturbated since January 2009, CHOOSING my wife as the only source for my sexual experience.

I was raised in a regular home with two normal parents. Like many teenage boys I started watching pornography when I was around 10 years old. I was very isolated from other kids and for a large part of my life pornography was my only “true friend”. I didn’t know that pornography could have a negative effect and viewed it as a healthy way to have fun and deal with my emotions.

My Pornography Use Continued to Escalate

Over the years, my use of pornography continued to escalate. I thought I would be able to stop once I get into a relationship with a real woman but realized that it was not the case. High stresses of life, combined with anonymity, availability, and accessibility of pornography over the high-speed internet seemed to have taken my pornography use completely out of control. It went on until about three years ago. By that point my sex addiction was completely out of control. I would spend up to 8 hours every day watching pornography and masturbating. In order to make time for my habit I would skip sleep, work, and even time with my family. I felt guilty, shameful, worthless, and hopeless.

Finding a Solution for Sex Addiction

After a while I simply couldn’t deny that I had a problem. I swore to myself “I would do whatever it takes to find a way out”. I’ve dedicated my undivided attention towards finding a solution for my sex addiction. I’ve read every addiction book that I could get my hands on, until I finally found a technique called, Exposure and Response Prevention, that allowed me to see the first glimpses of light. I then proceeded to read even more books, began seeing a therapist, purchased a few recovery programs, and began attending a 12 step meeting for sex addiction.

Combination of Different Methods Brings the Optimal Result

Through my experience in recovery, I noticed that many people were too fixated on one particular approach. Some people relied solely on group therapy, some on religious programs, some on cognitive therapy, and some on eastern philosophy. Yet in my experience, a combination of different methods appeared to be bringing the ideal result. I’ve shared some of my ideas with my friends in recovery and received a very positive response. That is what encouraged me to develop this site. I’ve summarized the most important information that allowed me to stop sex addiction in 23 short and fun to read articles – I call it the “Free Recovery Course”.

In the Free Recovery Course You Will Discover…

  1. A chemical process that takes place in your brain causing you to get addicted
  2. The addictive cycle that your body goes through and how to break out of it
  3. How the human brain works and why sometimes you lose control of your actions
  4. Four simple exercises to strengthen your brain
  5. How to create your sexual recovery plan
  6. How to control your cravings
  7. An important strategy to help you beat your addiction once and for all
  8. How your beliefs are causing you to suffer
  9. Seven beliefs that were keeping me trapped
  10. One big lesson that I learned from my relapse and what you can do to avoid my mistakes
  11. Two very important tools that can magnify your recovery
  12. Four things that you CAN do to help you stay sober for the rest of your life

Frequently Asked Questions:

What do I have to pay for this information?

We offer a combination of free and paid services. This site was designed to offer free help to any person struggling with sex addiction and porn addiction, and we are staying true to this mission. Over time however, increasing numbers of people have asked for more “hands on” and “personalized” help. That is why we decided to add a coaching element to our site.

Does this information really work?

Every person is different. It has most definitely worked for me. Additionally you can read a lot of positive comments throughout this website. Since we started offering a free recovery course in August of 2010 over four thousand people have signed up for email delivery, and over a hundred thousand people have read the Free Recovery Course on this website. We’ve received no complaints and have been thanked too many times to count.

Why should I listen to you?

Our coaches, are certified and experienced. They are professionals and great at what they do. My only credentials is that I’ve been there. I am not a doctor, nor do I play one on TV. English is not my first language, and my educational background is in computer engineering. That being said, most of the information that I share on this site did not come from me directly. Rather it is my collection and interpretation of different approaches and techniques that I learned from many books and training courses offered by people who do have credentials. I like to believe that I did a very good job of putting it all together, but I’ll let you be the judge of that.

Why should I read your stuff?

Because it would allow you to learn from my mistakes instead of making your own. Note that you don’t have to be addicted to sex to benefit from this site. Most of the information provided is common sense, day-to-day psychology that will allow you to better understand the inner workings of the human mind, and allow you to get a greater control of your life.

Since this site presents information from a variety of approaches you would be more likely to find something new and effective that could turn your life towards new direction and allow you to enjoy a new level of freedom. This information provided at no additional cost. You have nothing to lose (except for a few minutes of your time) but you have the world to gain.

Last but not least, because by reading this information and commenting on this site, you would not only help yourself, but you will also help others. A journey of thousand miles begins with a single step. And by giving a bit of your attention towards this site you can make this world a little better. You’ll see that by learning and applying some of the techniques discussed here, you’ll begin to transform your life! And you will be amazed to discover that your transformation will begin to improve the lives of those around you!


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1,123 Comments

  1. Tone

    This is a great work I must say. I have been going through a recovery class for about some months now and was referred to read more in your book Feeding The Right Wolf. There are really a lot of people out there getting in the shackles of Porn by the day and hiding in the shadow and shame. For me the very important thing I found liberating is Exposure. Evil or Addiction of this kind strives in secrecy. Step out and Tell someone who is capable of helping out. Expose this devil

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  2. Ethan

    I’m 14 years old and I’m addicted to porn and masturbation. I’ve been doing it since I was in the 5th grade and I can’t seem to stop. I want to be better than this…. I need help. When I think about somthing sexual for even a second, I have the urge. I know I’m young and kids my age are supposed to watch this(or so I’ve been told) but I’m a Christian and I want to live up to my faith towards God. I really need help because I have family members that look up to me and I can’t do this anymore.

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    • Ethan

      My parents don’t know and I don’t want them to know.

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    • Anonymous

      Hi Ethan. Thank you for sharing your story so opening. I have also struggled with porn and masterbation. But I have found much freedom through my faith and being open with others. My friend, Jeff, put up a story here: http://issuesiface.com/porn at this charity that offers free mentoring and accountability (don’t worry, they aren’t legalistic and judgmental. They listen because they care). I just thought you might find this story and resource helpful. I’m praying for you, Ethan.

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    • VMG

      Ethan, go to a local recovery program before you get completely numb by porn. Get into one that treat drugs like alcohol, and cocaine. Not religious one, just one addiction program. It will take 3 years. Then you will full recovered. You’re no so fucked up yet.

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  3. Paul

    Looking for accountability partner. No charge to you; I will pay for Covenant Eyes. Little time is required; you would receive a summary report, like “Report looks good for [___]” or “Close review suggested” etc. I will be honest with you. Email communication and prayer for each other is a part of accountability…again, this would require only a minimum of time.

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    • Paul

      Correction to my previous post: I can’t afford Covenant Eyes. Accountability still needed.

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  4. Cosby Kain

    Change is slow. Still spending too much time polluting self, not enough in productive effort. This year could be different. May find honest labor. May find human partner.

    Joining for accountability. Ask next year how it went. And thank you.

    coska001@gmail.com

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    • Anonymous

      Truth in this.

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  5. Collin Boameu

    Right now not even sure I trust myself.

    I understand that it is necessary, one must start somewhere. This may be somewhere.

    Thank you.


    collinboameu@rocketmail.com

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  6. Arthur Joyce

    This program was a Godsend, sensitive and insightful. I really recommend it.

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  7. paul

    i’m a recovering alcoholic , had my first contact with pornography at age 6 , same age that started masturbating, at that time would masturbate 10 to 15 or even more times a day. At that age also started acting out, touching girls at school and later on , on the streets , buses, busy areas , up skirts and so on …… I’m 31 now , married , and have a 4 years old daughter, all i can say is that …. I’m so damn tired of acting out , acting out on buses , pornography , masturbating etc …. I NEED HELP , PLEASE. At first didn’t know how great my life would be without alcohol , and i’m sober today and i loved it very much ….. and now i’m scared again, cause pornography and masturbation have been like part of me , don’t know how my life will be like without them , surely better , but i gotta say i’m scared ….. been filling that empty wholes with it … but I’M WILLING TO GO TO ANY LENGH to stay away from it and find true happiness….. ONCE AGAIN I ASK YOU – PLEASE HELP ME – …. thank you. Name is paul , typing from Taiwan.

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    • Alex

      There are a lot of alcoholics that turn to pornography. I highly recommend 12 step program like Sex Addicts Anonymous.

      Regards,
      Alex

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  8. JM

    I am needing help trying to deal with this addiction. It is causing issues and has caused issues with my girlfriend and I. She had problems in her marriage with this from her ex, and is now dealing with it again with me. She asked that I get help, and she would support me, or else we would have to end our relationship. We have been together for just over a year now, and I want to make things right, and get help. I’m afraid of many things relating to this, and would like some advice about the fears I have. I’m a Marine vet, and although not a combat vet, I am wondering if the V.A. offers counseling through the Mental Health clinic. I struggle with depression, and take medication for it, and wonder if the two are somehow related. I am also curious if my addiction started while I was on active duty, as I was around it quite a bit. I would like to have a healthy life and put this behind me.

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    • Alex

      They probably are related, and VA can help. I am a vet myself and got a good amount of counseling from them. Contact your local Vet Center http://www.vetcenter.va.gov/ they should be able to point you in the right direction.

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  9. roman

    i have spent 10 weeks without porn..but when i sense something like porn my habbit triggers me. i save myself very hardly

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  10. roman

    i m at the 10th without watching porn by using this program.but i need mental health im very sad and bored and life looks like nothing without porn. please help me.porn is an evil.porn is my enemy. please help me.please help me. please please…….

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  11. DW

    SAA defines sexual recovery as sex only in a monogamous heterosexual marriage, right? Where does that leave glbt (gay) people? I go to SCA, Sexual Compulsives Anonymous, at least believes that gay people can be sexually sober and sexually active at the same time.

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    • DW

      I did not mean SAA up there, it accepts gay people too. I mean SA (Sexaholics Anonymous). Sorry for the mistake.

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  12. Carmine

    It’s was very interesting, thanks a lot for this article. Also we have to remember, that very important thing is to block porn sites by using parental control software such as PCWebControl or K9.

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  13. Helen C Babcock

    I have been looking for knowledge to print to send to my son who is in prison. He needs help to overcome pornography. He has been prison for 8 years now on a sexual crime. He does not get help in prison and he is desperate to get help. He wants desperately to overcome this addiction and we speak of it every time we speak on the phone. What can I send him so that I can help him??????He is hoping to be free around next April.
    I would appreciate any help that I can get. Thank you. Helen C Babcock

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    • Alex

      I would recommend looking at Sex Addicts Anonymous(SAA) literature, starting with their Green Book.

      That being said, I’ve heard that sending that kind of material to prisoners directly, can be dangerous for their safety.

      SAA has a prison outreach program: https://saa-recovery.org/SAALiterature/English/Prisoners/

      I would suggest getting in touch with SAA, and they can refer you to a prison outreach coordinator, who can give you better advice on how to help your son in a safe way.

      Regards,
      Alex

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  14. Bobby

    Today I have DECIDED to quit the use of pornography in all of its forms. I am leaving myself no option, and I am not looking back. I am making this my declaration of change. It has been holding me back from living the life I deserve to live, and I am sick and tired of all the bull shit it has brought me. It is time for a mother fucking change.

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    • jo

      I think that is fantastic. Your will power has really inspired me. Thank you bobby

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    • Pete

      Me too. I am done ! It has destroyed my life and that of everyone else whom I love and adore. I had my first counselling session today and for the first time I was honest with someone else and myself. This is my absolute declaration that I am completely finished with pornograhic and sexual addictions. I am taking back my life and I am going to fight myself back to the person I believe I am. I am certainly not this !

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